Isn’t hindsight wonderful? I suspect that we’ve all been in a relationship where we ignore the warning signs that something wasn’t right. It’s only after it’s ended that we recall what we would have noticed if we hadn’t been so blinded by love. Well, however hard we fall for someone, we should still look out for ourselves. Here are some alarm bells to watch out for.
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1. Mobile Only
It’s fine for someone to only give you their mobile number to begin with, but if you’ve been seeing each other for a while and you still don’t have their home number, then ask yourself why. Do they want to control when you can call them (mobiles can easily be switched off)? Or is there someone at home … like a wife?
Oh, there are quite a few! If your partner avoids introducing you to their friends or family, that's a big one. Also, constant criticism or making you feel less than awesome is a huge red flag!
Absolutely! Everyone has those little 'Hmm, is this right?' moments. It's important to listen to your gut without freaking out completely. A healthy dose of doubt can keep things in perspective!
Tough call, but if you're consistently feeling uneasy, like walking on eggshells, or if those alarm bells keep waking you up at night, maybe it's time to rethink things. Your peace of mind is super important!
For me, it's when someone constantly invades your personal boundaries or dismisses your feelings. If they can't respect you as an individual, then Houston, we have a problem!
Sometimes, yes! If you both are willing to chat openly and honestly, you can often work through issues. But if communication itself is a struggle, that might be a sign that the partnership isn't as strong as it should be.
2. Mi Casa No Es Su Casa
Now, my home is definitely my castle, so I don’t invite anyone there until I feel completely comfortable with them. Still, if I’d been seeing someone for a few months and they still hadn’t invited me home, and came up with excuses not to, then I’d definitely think that there was someone else in their life.
Oh, there are quite a few! If your partner avoids introducing you to their friends or family, that's a big one. Also, constant criticism or making you feel less than awesome is a huge red flag!
Absolutely! Everyone has those little 'Hmm, is this right?' moments. It's important to listen to your gut without freaking out completely. A healthy dose of doubt can keep things in perspective!
Tough call, but if you're consistently feeling uneasy, like walking on eggshells, or if those alarm bells keep waking you up at night, maybe it's time to rethink things. Your peace of mind is super important!
For me, it's when someone constantly invades your personal boundaries or dismisses your feelings. If they can't respect you as an individual, then Houston, we have a problem!
Sometimes, yes! If you both are willing to chat openly and honestly, you can often work through issues. But if communication itself is a struggle, that might be a sign that the partnership isn't as strong as it should be.
3. Blame Game
Ever known someone who blamed their parents or spouse for everything that’s gone wrong? We’re all adults, and have to take responsibility for our own lives and our choices. There’s nothing attractive about a man who spends dates moaning about his exes and how it was all their fault. If that happens, exit via the bathroom window …
Oh, there are quite a few! If your partner avoids introducing you to their friends or family, that's a big one. Also, constant criticism or making you feel less than awesome is a huge red flag!
Absolutely! Everyone has those little 'Hmm, is this right?' moments. It's important to listen to your gut without freaking out completely. A healthy dose of doubt can keep things in perspective!
Tough call, but if you're consistently feeling uneasy, like walking on eggshells, or if those alarm bells keep waking you up at night, maybe it's time to rethink things. Your peace of mind is super important!
For me, it's when someone constantly invades your personal boundaries or dismisses your feelings. If they can't respect you as an individual, then Houston, we have a problem!
Sometimes, yes! If you both are willing to chat openly and honestly, you can often work through issues. But if communication itself is a struggle, that might be a sign that the partnership isn't as strong as it should be.
4. Unsupportive
We all go through bad times, and someone who loves you will be there for you when you suffer bereavement, ill health or job loss. If they are unsympathetic, tell you it’s your fault or just don’t seem to care, then why are you with this person? Partners support each other through good times and bad.
Oh, there are quite a few! If your partner avoids introducing you to their friends or family, that's a big one. Also, constant criticism or making you feel less than awesome is a huge red flag!
Absolutely! Everyone has those little 'Hmm, is this right?' moments. It's important to listen to your gut without freaking out completely. A healthy dose of doubt can keep things in perspective!
Tough call, but if you're consistently feeling uneasy, like walking on eggshells, or if those alarm bells keep waking you up at night, maybe it's time to rethink things. Your peace of mind is super important!
For me, it's when someone constantly invades your personal boundaries or dismisses your feelings. If they can't respect you as an individual, then Houston, we have a problem!
Sometimes, yes! If you both are willing to chat openly and honestly, you can often work through issues. But if communication itself is a struggle, that might be a sign that the partnership isn't as strong as it should be.
If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.
5. Controlling
Controlling people can be quite hard to identify, as they can be very subtle in the way that they operate. They can make you think that they only have your best interests at heart. But if you get any hint that your partner is trying to manipulate your behaviour, keep a watchful eye on them and try to determine if they are being controlling.
Oh, there are quite a few! If your partner avoids introducing you to their friends or family, that's a big one. Also, constant criticism or making you feel less than awesome is a huge red flag!
Absolutely! Everyone has those little 'Hmm, is this right?' moments. It's important to listen to your gut without freaking out completely. A healthy dose of doubt can keep things in perspective!
Tough call, but if you're consistently feeling uneasy, like walking on eggshells, or if those alarm bells keep waking you up at night, maybe it's time to rethink things. Your peace of mind is super important!
For me, it's when someone constantly invades your personal boundaries or dismisses your feelings. If they can't respect you as an individual, then Houston, we have a problem!
Sometimes, yes! If you both are willing to chat openly and honestly, you can often work through issues. But if communication itself is a struggle, that might be a sign that the partnership isn't as strong as it should be.
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6. Critical
There’s nothing wrong with constructive criticism, which is delivered with sensitivity and tact – and your genuine interests at heart. However, someone who constantly tells you what is wrong with your appearance, calls you stupid or denigrates your achievements is, frankly, critical to the point of being a bully.
Oh, there are quite a few! If your partner avoids introducing you to their friends or family, that's a big one. Also, constant criticism or making you feel less than awesome is a huge red flag!
Absolutely! Everyone has those little 'Hmm, is this right?' moments. It's important to listen to your gut without freaking out completely. A healthy dose of doubt can keep things in perspective!
Tough call, but if you're consistently feeling uneasy, like walking on eggshells, or if those alarm bells keep waking you up at night, maybe it's time to rethink things. Your peace of mind is super important!
For me, it's when someone constantly invades your personal boundaries or dismisses your feelings. If they can't respect you as an individual, then Houston, we have a problem!
Sometimes, yes! If you both are willing to chat openly and honestly, you can often work through issues. But if communication itself is a struggle, that might be a sign that the partnership isn't as strong as it should be.
7. Storyteller
Reinventing yourself is one thing. Inventing stories is another. Some people are less than honest about themselves, and will exaggerate and rewrite their past, perhaps to make themselves sound more exciting, perhaps to conceal something that would cause alarm if you knew it.
Oh, there are quite a few! If your partner avoids introducing you to their friends or family, that's a big one. Also, constant criticism or making you feel less than awesome is a huge red flag!
Absolutely! Everyone has those little 'Hmm, is this right?' moments. It's important to listen to your gut without freaking out completely. A healthy dose of doubt can keep things in perspective!
Tough call, but if you're consistently feeling uneasy, like walking on eggshells, or if those alarm bells keep waking you up at night, maybe it's time to rethink things. Your peace of mind is super important!
For me, it's when someone constantly invades your personal boundaries or dismisses your feelings. If they can't respect you as an individual, then Houston, we have a problem!
Sometimes, yes! If you both are willing to chat openly and honestly, you can often work through issues. But if communication itself is a struggle, that might be a sign that the partnership isn't as strong as it should be.
8. Aggressive
This is one alarm bell that should ring so loud that you run away. Anyone who shows aggression, whether to you or to other people, is someone to avoid. Even if they don’t direct it towards you now, what’s to say that they won’t in future?
There are many other points that should be of concern, but lack of space prevents me listing them all. However, if you can share any of your own ideas, especially if they’re from personal experience, it could well help someone else …
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Comments
sai: Very informative. Thanks for posting this
Kristopher: I feel like these don't come up often. The behavioral ones maybe but beyond that if the other ones come it the red flags should have been going off long before.
Elli: Thanks for posting, some good points made here, especially the second one. I could observe it on myself when I was younger - if I was not sure where the relationship is heading, I was always hesitant about inviting the guy over to my place.
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