There is no better way to unwind and de-stress than to come home to a calm environment, and a romantic massage! Trouble is, most people don’t know how to give one, and so will never try... Come on people, let's keep romance alive! I’ve been learning how to give the perfect romantic massage, and here are my top ten tips...
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Put a clean, fresh sheet on the bed, and make sure it is made. If your room has a big window, draw the curtains, but try to avoid turning on strong lighting and instead utilize as much natural light and candle light as possible...
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Think romance, so candle light if you need it, tidy up, relaxing music... set the scene for a calm, romantic environment. If you use candles, try using scented candles, but make sure they all smell the same or there could be a nasty conflicting smell!
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Have a shower, and make sure you are looking good... shave, and style your hair. Then exfoliate your hands, use hand cream and make sure they are clean and dry when your other half comes home!
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Decide what to wear. Lingerie is always a good choice, or some silky PJs... silk feels gorgeous against the skin, so is sure to drive you and him wild. Of course, going nude will be very popular too...
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There are so many different types of massage oil. Some are scented, some are plain, some are designed to make the skin tingle, some heat up when they touch the air. There are also plenty of recipes to make your own online. Whatever you choose, make sure your other half isn't allergic or sensitive to any of the ingredients, and if you are unsure, use a basic unfragranced oil or simply use moisturizer.
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Find some time to practise on yourself. Practise warming the oil in your hands, and applying it in long, gentle strokes. Also practise different pressures. If you feel odd applying massage oil to yourself, practise the technique by rubbing moisturizer into your arms and legs.
Remember, it's not just about what you do; it's about how you do it. Set a soothing ambiance with dim lights and soft music. Experiment with techniques like kneading and rolling to understand what feels nice. Pay attention to your movements, ensuring they're fluid and rhythmic. Don't rush; let each stroke be a testament to your affection and care. As you get better at this, you'll not only improve your skill but also instill a deeper sense of connection and intimacy during the massage.
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When your other half comes home, have a clean, soft towel waiting for them, and a freshly run bath or shower at the perfect temperature. Allow them to unwind in hot water, and instruct them to come out in just their towel once they are done, as you have a romantic surprise for them.
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Have them lie on their front, with their arms in a comfortable position. Warm the oil in your hands (you should know how long this takes, after practising, but if you don’t, ensure its not cold!)... Begin at the shoulders, and apply the oil in long strokes downwards. Have a towel nearby to wipe your hands or any spillages.
While guiding your hands along the curves of their back, maintain a slow and steady rhythm. The key is to build a connection; the pace of your strokes should resonate with their breathing. Notice their response to your touch—gentle sighs or a relaxed posture are good signs. Occasionally, glide your hands over their sides, taking care not to jolt them from the serenity you're weaving. Your movements should flow like a gentle stream, soothing their muscles and easing any tension. Communication is key, so softly check in with them to ensure the pressure is just right.
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Once everywhere is oily, begin using sensual, long firm strokes, and ensure you don’t miss anywhere. Places like the shoulders, which hold tension, will respond well to pressure, but be careful not to apply so much that it hurts. Your other half should respond well to where feels good, which will tell you where to continue! You could also try kissing random areas gently, or blowing, as this feels amazing too!
Sensual massages are a great way to show your partner you care. They can be a powerful way to reduce stress and tension, and can even help to strengthen your relationship. When giving a sensual massage, it is important to make sure that you create a comfortable and relaxing atmosphere. Set the mood with candles, soft music, and dim lighting. Make sure you have all of the supplies you need, such as massage oil and a massage table.
When giving the massage, start off by using gentle strokes and applying light pressure. This will help to relax your partner and get them in the mood. Once they are relaxed, you can start to use longer and firmer strokes. Make sure to pay attention to the areas of the body that hold tension, such as the shoulders, back, and neck. You can also try kissing random areas gently or blowing, as this can feel amazing too.
When giving a sensual massage, it is important to make sure you are comfortable too. Make sure you are in a comfortable position and that you are using the right amount of pressure. You should also be aware of your partner’s reactions and adjust the massage accordingly.
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Finish by asking them to roll over, and massaging the front as you did the back. Things may get a little intimate now, after such a sexy massage, but make sure you wipe your hands! Oil can be very irritating to sensitive areas, and is also really hard to wash out of hair. You could finish with a second shower together?
Remember that practise makes perfect, and it really is the thought that counts. It’d be an amazing surprise, especially if you know when they are most stressed, and is so easy and cheap to do! It’s sure to blow their minds. Have you got a tip for romantic massages, or did you try this? Please let me know!
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