8 Alarm Bells in a Relationship ...


Isn’t hindsight wonderful?

I suspect that we’ve all been in a relationship where we ignore the warning signs that something wasn’t right.

It’s only after it’s ended that we recall what we would have noticed if we hadn’t been so blinded by love.

Well, however hard we fall for someone, we should still look out for ourselves.

Here are some alarm bells to watch out for.

1. Mobile Only

It’s fine for someone to only give you their mobile number to begin with, but if you’ve been seeing each other for a while and you still don’t have their home number, then ask yourself why.

Do they want to control when you can call them (mobiles can easily be switched off)?

Or is there someone at home … like a wife?

2. Mi Casa No Es Su Casa

Now, my home is definitely my castle, so I don’t invite anyone there until I feel completely comfortable with them.

Still, if I’d been seeing someone for a few months and they still hadn’t invited me home, and came up with excuses not to, then I’d definitely think that there was someone else in their life.

3. Blame Game

Ever known someone who blamed their parents or spouse for everything that’s gone wrong?2

We’re all adults, and have to take responsibility for our own lives and our choices.2

There’s nothing attractive about a man who spends dates moaning about his exes and how it was all their fault.

If that happens, exit via the bathroom window …

4. Unsupportive

We all go through bad times, and someone who loves you will be there for you when you suffer bereavement, ill health or job loss.

If they are unsympathetic, tell you it’s your fault or just don’t seem to care, then why are you with this person?2

Partners support each other through good times and bad.

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