What men really think about love. Relationships, intimacy and commitment. So when it comes to relationships, why can't these same women figure out what makes men commit? According to every fiction it's because they're asking other women for advice when they should be going directly to the source. Relationships should be something that supports your growth, not something that diminishes it.
1. What drives men.
No matter if a man is a #CEO a #CON or both, everything he does is filtered through his title (who he is), how he gets that title (what he does) and the reward he gets for the effort (how much he makes). These three things make up the basic #DNA of manhood-- the three accomplishments every man must achieve before he feels like he's truly fulfilled his destiny as a man. And untill he's achieved his goals in three areas, the man your dating, committed to or married to will be to busy to focus on you. And untill a man does these things woman only fit into the cracks of his life. He's not thinking about settling down, having children or building a home with anyone untill he's got these three things in sync.
2. OUR LOVE ISN'T LIKE YOUR LOVE
Nothing on this planet can compare with a woman's love --- it is kind and compassionate, patient and nurturing, generous, sweet and unconditional. Pure. If you are her man, she will walk on water and through a mountain for you without hesitation, no matter how you've acted out, no matter what crazy things you've done no matter the time or demand. And no matter what you do, no matter how many times her friends say you're no good, no matter how many times you slam the door on the relationship, she will give you her very best and then some, and keep right on trying to win over your heart, even when she's done convincing you she's the one just isn't good enough. And this is how you expect us men to love you in return. Well I'm here to tell you that expecting that kind of love that perfection from a man is unrealistic. If your man loves he will #profess the relationship by telling anybody and everybody "Look man this is my woman" or "this is my girl" basically contrary to a title. Second he will #provide the honors by bringing home the bacon. Third he will #protect his territory of his woman if he truly loves you if someone being offensive to you stands the risk of being obliterated. You pick most any male species on the planet and the same is true, no one is going to disrespect their family without paying a cost-- or at least putting up a serious fight.
3. the three things that every man needs.
#Support. #Loyalty and the #Cookie. Woman are complicated creatures, you need stuff, lots of it and you expect your man to provide it, even if you haven't explained what it is you need and even if you needed and wanted five minutes ago is wholly different from what you need and want now. #Support: We have to feel like somebody's got our back -- like we're the king even if we're not. You have to understand that when we walk out the door, the entire world is standing at the ready to beat us down, black,white,yellow,striped every man leaves the house ready to battle. In other words a man is constantly on the lookout, sizing up the next man standing at the ready to defend his and all of his gains (that would include you) #Loyalty: Love is loyalty to men. We want you to show your love to us by being loyal. That means no matter what your going to stand beside us. we get laid off you're going to stay, even if we're not drawing a paycheck. You get around your girlfriends, you're going to say with great enthusiasm, "thats my man, i'm loyal to him" Basically a phrase of saying "I don't want any of those shiny, rich fine men because my man is the only one for me!" (they can only hope that's what you'll say). That's loyalty kind of love to mens. #TheCookie: No brainer. Men need sex, they love it. They need to be physically engaged with the woman they love, the woman who is loyal to us and supports us and the way that they do that is making love. The emotional stuff, the talking, the cuddling, the sweet moments, the holding hands and bonding. The way men is connected is by having sex. Period. It's how they plug in, recharge, and reconnect.
4. SPORTS FISH VS KEEPERS:
#Sportsfish: Doesn't have any rules, requirements respect for herself, or guidelines and we men can pick up her scent a mile away. She's the party girl who takes a sip of her long island ice tea or a shot of her patron, then announces to her suitor that she just wants to date and see how it goes. and shes's the conservatively dressed woman at the office who is a master at networking, but clueless about how to approach men. She has no plans for any ongoing relationships, is not expecting anything in particular from a man, and sets absolutely not nary one condition or restriction on anyone standing before her-- she makes it very clear that she's just along for whatever is getting ready to happen. #Keeper: Never gives in easily, and the standards/requirements start the moment you open your mouth. See, she understands her power and wields it like a samurai sword. She commands ---not demands --respect, just by the way she carries herself. You can walk up to her and give her your best games, and while she may be impressed by what you say, that's no gurantee that she's going to let the conversation go any further, much less give you her phone number and agree to give you some of her valuable time.
5. WHY MEN CHEAT?
From the male perspective. the answer to the questions why do men cheat? are crystal clear. Not so much for women. No matter how good or sensible the reasons are, men know that women will never hear one and say "Oh" Now I get it. There are neither words big enough nor experts with enough credentials and letters behind their name to slice it and dice it up in a way that's palatable for most women; inevitably responses to this million-dollar question are always going to sound like ten-dollar answers. And who would agree with that? For most woman after all, cheating is unthinkable and (at first blush) unforgivable -you don't and comprehend why a man would be faithful, and you won't ever pretend to. You figure that if you told him you love him, given your mind, your body and your time, moved in with him, shared the bills with him, done his laundry, cooked his food, borne his children and said an enthusiastic #ido in front of the lord, the pastor, your mother and all her best friends and yours, too, the least your man can do is honor the most sacred to you, the promise of fedility. This is some law and order type of investigation. They're are going to lie and deny unless proven untill guilty. If he sees you not fitting into his life plan, he'll simply tell you why he was sleeping with someone else because .... Precisely this is a joke, I bet you every man would be faithful if God took an inch off his dick every time he cheated. But it doesn't go that unfortunately. But once a man finds his joy and his inner self and the #three areas that he needs to achieve his chance of cheating are slim.
6. men respect standards, get some!
Womens make a title for theirselves and how they value theirselves as. Making standards for yourself is setting requirements. Here are some examples I've laid out for you so you can see how to wrap up your requirements in one of those pretty bows: Instead of saying: If your dating and sleeping with other woman I am not the one!" say something like I'm always honest with the person I'm dating, if I feel like I want to see other people besides him. I let him know up front so that he can decide if he wants to continue the relationship as is, or ask me to date him exclusively. Translation: You've just told him you require the man in your life to be honest with and up front about the parameters of the relationship, if he's going to have to let you know so that you can make intelligent, rational decisions about how to deal about with that. You've told too, that this is up for discussions that the two of you can decide together what it is you want out of the relationship, instead of having it dictated to him. Get the picture? These are valuable information to be given towards male, but most importants the standards that fits in.
7. your career. his ambitions.
How we make our living is important to both men and women. In these tighter economic times we know that good jobs are hard to find and harder to keep. So should love ever be a factor in your career decisions or should you gamble on a man who's yet to have his full potential? Let's take a look at these two burning issues in today's dating climate. #Gamblingonpotential Now there's a difference between a man who just talks about his dreams and the one who is really taking actions on his vision now. If this man you are interested in falls in the latter of category, he just might be worth it. Let his actions speak louder than his words.
8. 1ten ways to keep your cookies from crumbling.
1.Communicate 2.Don't take anything personally 3.Hear where your man is coming from 4.Be patient with him 5.Plan a couple's getaway 6.Mix up your routines. 7.Send him love letter or email just because.. 8.Remember to thank him for the little things. 9.Schedule an impromptu "afternoon delight" or a "midnight rendezvous" 10. Try out some new lingerie If you want the relationship to be more, take it face-to-face. "Women talk about [how] chivalry's dead.Chivalry's not dead—it's just not required anymore," he says. "You've got to get a guy in your face. Look in his eyes. ... God has given you all this incredible thing called intuition. You've got to use that." You know you've got a keeper when your man wants to make sure you're always safe, Every man wants to protect his woman.