“At the beginning of a relationship, wouldn’t it save somuch time if you could just ask the guy, ‘Hey, are you an asshole?' And the guycould say, ‘Yeah.’ Which would be okay with me, because I go out with assholes.Exclusively.” (Karen Haber)
It doesn’t matter if you’re single, or seriously involvedwith someone. You can always get smarter about men and relationships. In fact, whenever you get some brilliant insight into love that changes what you do for thebetter, something else happens:
**You put yourself in the driver’s seat of your own life. **
Andisn’t that much better than allowing some crazy bastard to drive you and yourlove life straight off a cliff?
Not to get too Zen aboutthis, but of course, the idea of having complete control in any area of life is anillusion. This is especially true when it comes to matters of the heart. Soplease don’t misunderstand what I’m trying to say here. The ultimate goal is NOTfor you to be in total control 24/7 of yourself, a relationship, or a man.
The goal is to steer yourself and your relationship choices with men -- or with one man in particular -- in the right direction.
How will you know when you’re steering yourself in the rightdirection?
First, you’ll actually enjoy being your best, real, natural self with any man you choose. You’ll also "get it" that it’s better to be alone than settle for misery with the wrongman. And best of all, you’ll be cautiously optimistic about love.
As an added bonus, you’ll figure out that all men are not assholes orcrazy bastards. And if you’ve developed a bad habit of chasing after the oneswho are, you’ll feel motivated tobreak that habit.
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So…….on this first day of 2007, what have you decided to do differently in thenext year to steer your relationship choices with men in the right direction?
If you already know what you’re going to do differently, great! Let us know what it is. Because you never know -- some other woman might beinspired by your insight.
Or, if you’re having a hard time figuring out what to dodifferently -- perhaps you even believe there is nothing you can do differently -- I’ll make it alittle easier for you.
If you’re single, finish the following statement withoutover-thinking it, and without worrying that it isn’t perfect. Just cough up anhonest answer:
"This year, when it comes to men, I will [fill in theblank…]."
If you’re already seriously involved with someone, finishthe following statement without over-thinking it, and without worrying that itisn’t perfect. Just cough up an honest answer:
"This year, when it comes to the man in my life, I will [fillin the blank…]."
There. That wasn’t too bad, was it?
Now you have 52 weeks’ worth of chances to navigate more wisely through your choices about men, relationships, and other things. I hope that you bring me along for the ride.
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May 2007 be an exciting, hopeful year for you.
