1. Doubting Yourself
"Doubt your doubts before you doubt yourself." I believe everyone is a victim of self-doubt, I just feel like some people can overcome these doubts, while some people get caught up in it; can I do it? Is this even possible? Do I deserve this? To everyone reading this- with all the strength in this world- remember... you can't move a small chair if you don't try to, and you certainly can't move it with your mind. If you're hungry, do you sit and wait for food? Even people that live lavishly open their mouth to eat because they can't eat with their minds. In this life you need to fight, and one of those things you need to fight is doubting yourself, you can either sit down and ask yourself if you can do it or you can get up, make up your mind and just do it! I choose not to feel sorry for you or for me.
2. Not Letting Go of Unhealthy Relationships
I am also a victim of bad relationships. I have had clothes longer than some of my relationships have lasted and I am embarrassed to say that shit but have been working on myself! I choose not to settle for less than I deserve, be it in intimate relationships or friendships, as long as it is unhealthy I am giving it up. Sometimes we can't do it alone, but sometimes what choice do we have? Some people in your life doubt you; they don't support or encourage you and you don't need people like this in your life- at least I know I don't. The kind of people you surround yourself with goes a long way in achieving your dreams. Give up wasting your time on people who don't deserve it. Note: giving them up doesn't make you a bad person.
3. Self-defeating Self Talk
Three years ago after I had just graduated from high school I went for a seminar in Lagos, it's a seminar about how to succeed in life, at that time I never really paid too much attention to it. Fortunately for me, we were given some books, which I never really open till now, but I am very glad I still have them and got to read them when it was most important to me. I honestly am not a fan of motivational books, but I was really bored and I decided to read anyways. Let me tell you, after reading it I started paying more attention to how my mind works. Self defeating self talks is of our own making-a man cannot and will not rise above the level of his thoughts. Progress starts from the mind. Give up self defeating talks of failure, fear, or defeat. Make your mind work positively.
4. Placing Boundaries
Whether you think you can or you can't, either way you're right. For the past few years have you been putting limitations on your strengths? Don't! Because this is like setting boundaries for how far you can go. You have been in your comfort zone for way too long and you need to step out as a brand new person.
5. Impressing People
If you're like me, trying to impress people drains you. Many people would want you to be something you're not and you might never be happy doing what other people want. You can only be happy doing what makes you happy, you can live your life trying to rise up to other people's expectations but what about your own expectations? Try to impress yourself, do whatever you want, and have no regrets. Are you destroying yourself by filling any of these qualities? Are you going to try to stop?