Relationships Real Men and the Parents ...

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**By Dia Morena **

I found myself sitting around listening to sad love songs, feeling sorry for myself. My mother would be so ashamed. Sheā€™s from that generation of ā€œreal men.ā€ Men who want a family, a commitment: men who think it is only destiny to have a wife and kids to love and provide for. And she thinks there are just plenty of them, the real men, waiting out there for a special someone, like myself. Now maybe there were never any ā€œreal menā€ out there. My mother was, and still is, a very attractive woman. Maybe her sheer cuteness attracted the cream of the crop to her in droves, so her view is skewed. Obviously she had no problem meeting men. Frankly, my father was lucky to have snatched her up from among his competitors. But enough about my motherā€¦(who still puts in her ā€œorderā€ for twins even though I am single and have no prospects for a mate nor sperm donor lined up.)

I jokingly blame my parents for my current state of unhappiness. Itā€™s all their fault that Iā€™m looking for more in a relationship. I mean, jeez, why couldnā€™t my mom and dad be divorced like everyone elseā€™s? Why did they have to be so stable and happy? Obviously, their relationship puts me at severe disadvantage. They were too good of an example. Iā€™ve tried settling for something close, but then I look at their relationship. I look at the type of person my father is. I look at the type of person my mother is. And I sigh. Like it or not, I am a lot like my mother, and if she could find a decent guy like my dad, why canā€™t I? Not to say that their relationship is perfect, but Iā€™ve watched them battle it out for 26 years and the results havenā€™t been all that bad.

I used to be one of those girls that sat around perfectly happy being single, dating a ton of guys, having what seemed like an endless supply of readily available male companionship. Now Iā€™m starting to second-guess myself. Iā€™m starting to find my options not so interesting, not so desirable after all. My friends say to me, ā€œOh, you always have someone interestedā€¦someone who wants to be with you.ā€ And theyā€™re right. But that doesnā€™t mean that Iā€™m getting what I want from these relationships. In fact, sometimes I feel as if I just fall into them. Oh youā€™re nice. Oh we have similar interests. And then: Oh sure! Iā€™ll be your girlfriend. Now as I get older, I donā€™t think about lowering the bar: I think about raising it. I understand though, that I might need to compromise somewhat. Maybe I can find one of those ā€œreal menā€, but of my generationā€™s standard. If not, itā€™s never too late to become a nun, right? Religious affiliation aside?

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