Zeggen dat u wilt uw leven veranderen is één ding-iedereen zegt dat het op een bepaald punt. Echt wat betekent het en, zelfs meer, het stappen onderneemt om echt veranderen, zijn die moeilijker. Wijzigen is in theorie gemakkelijker dan het is in de praktijk, omdat het is eng. Het betekent een stap in het onbekende, en dat is soms angstaanjagende. Je hebt verschillende zorgen, er is altijd een reden dat je niet een stap nemen en is het makkelijker om te dromen dan het is om op te treden. Kunt u wel doen. Ik bedoel, je kunt echt doen. Je moet wel realistisch, u kan niet wachten op een openbaring, en u wellicht gewoon de sprong te wagen, maar je echt kunt wettig je leven veranderen zodat u van geluk en vervulling genieten kunt.
If something makes you unhappy, it's toxic. That goes for people, jobs, even the place where you live. You cannot live surrounded by unhappiness. It drags you down, leaving you with no energy, no motivation, and no strength. You have to identify the things that bring you down, even if it's hard to admit. This might require self-reflection, discussions with your closest confidants, or maybe even a little therapy – sometimes revealing things to a stranger is easier and an unbiased opinion is always helpful.
2 Get Rid of It
Dit is een van de moeilijkste onderdelen. U hebben om zich te ontdoen van de toxiciteit. Sloot alles wat brengt u naar beneden- of op zijn minst pakken. Bijvoorbeeld, uw relatie kan worden waardoor u problemen. Als uw partner is bereid om te werken aan de vraagstukken en u, natuurlijk, zijn in staat om eerlijk te zijn over hen, dan hoeft u te ontdoen van uw partner. Ook bent u blij met uw carrièrekeuze maar niet tevreden met uw huidige positie, kunt u zoeken naar manieren om het aanbrengen van wijzigingen zonder te veranderen wat je doet. Echter wellicht u inderdaad uw huidige baan of wisseling uw pad ter school – ga terug, misschien.
3 Think about What Makes You Really Happy
If you could do anything, what would you do? Really, anything. If I could do anything, I'd go back to medical school in a heartbeat. Now, sadly, some goals aren't within the realm of possibility – at least, not right now. If you want to be a bestselling author, for example, you can't just dream about the day you'll actually write it. You have to write, try to get a job that showcases your talents, try to make contacts, keep writing – the point is, if your goal is worth it, you may have to take it step by step.
4 maar bereid zijn om Tweak hen als u wilt
And, yes, sometimes you need to … not settle, exactly, but tweak your dreams. Take medical school for me. It's not possible. I'm married, Heather and I are starting a family, and it's not logical for me to take that much time to do a job I love. So, I tweaked it. I'm going to mortuary science school. It's a roundabout logic, yeah, but it relates to the fact that I initially wanted to be a pathologist. Anyway, you get what I mean, yes? Don't be ashamed of tweaking.
5 Take the First Steps
Call a college admissions office. Book a plane ticket. Schedule a talk with your boss. Have a heart to heart with your partner. Whatever your first step is, make it. Even if you just make the first step, it's a start. It's true that the biggest journeys begin with the first step. Taking it is monumental because there are millions of excuses for putting it off.
6 Find Someone to Motivate You
If you're motivated by making an inspiration board or keeping a list of your goals on your bathroom mirror, good on you – keep it up! I propose that everyone making a big change needs a cheerleader, though, someone who can motivate you in a way that works for you. Being held accountable is important, especially when you're nervous or fearful of change. I need tough love and Heather's the best at it. Know what motivates you and share your goals with someone who can provide it.
7 Keep Pushing
No matter what. If you hit a wall or reach an obstacle, don't get anxious, depressed, or defeated. Look for ways around it – make it a detailed search. There's bound to be something and, if there's not, you can always tweak. For instance, if you want to be a doctor but can't pursue your dream right now, you could look into becoming a nurse, an EMT, or a PA first.
Change is scary. It's big. It's unpredictable. Really, though, so is everything else. You owe it to yourself to be happy, whatever that entails. So, again, let me ask you – if you could be anything, what would you be?
