Когато успеем (поради липса на по-добра дума) в нещо, работа, дом, взаимоотношения, упражняване, това е обикновено, защото ние не разбират или са в състояние да контролира емоция. Мечка с мен, защото това може да звучи като съм го стречинг малко. Помислете за това. Имаш аргумент с гаджето си, защото сте били разстроен. Да затворите вашата тренировка, защото сте били ядосани, не можех да направя този конкретен ход. Този срок не се удари, защото сте били твърде горда да помоли за помощ. Ако разбирате емоциите си (късмет!), имате по-добър шанс да ги контролира и да ги работят за вас. Минаваме през толкова много емоции всеки ден като човешки същества, но тук са основните от тях:
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1 Anticipation and Excitement
When we are small, we experience excitement more deeply and more often than we do as adults. We learn to control these emotions, which isn't always a good thing. It can turn us into a "stuffed shirt," somebody who lacks spontaneity. Acting on impulse and being guided by emotions rather than by logic was frowned upon for centuries. Modern scientists are only beginning to understand what emotional intelligence actually is. Creative people have it in spades, so do truly inspiring leaders of industry and commerce. Only when you live in the moment, make having fun and good experiences the focal point of your existence, will you be truly living. When excitement and anticipation are bubbling up in you, tell everyone so they can get excited with and for you. It's a great positive feeling that should be shared with others.
2 Happiness and Joy
A life spent bringing happiness and joy to others is a life lived truly to the full. When we're happy, we're on top of the world, feel practically invincible and capable of doing pretty much anything we set our sights on. Smile, share the joy! It's not only good for your own health, but also for those around you.
3 Sadness and Grief
Sadness can be crippling and stop us from living our lives. Bereavement and loss, regrets over missed opportunities, these are sadness-inducing factors. Don't hold such feelings in; try to share them with trusted friends, family members or therapists. Feeling sad once in a while, especially after losing somebody or something dear to your heart, is a natural part of everybody's life and tears are nothing to be ashamed of. However, holding such feelings inside long-term can cause serious damage to mental health.
4 Anger
While uncontrollable rage like the Hulk's is a truly frightening thing to behold, anger in moderation is a healthy emotion everybody feels once in a while. Use anger in a constructive way to resolve conflicts, though, rather than letting it eat away at you. In situations where somebody does something that makes you angry, tell them that they're bothering you; tell them politely, but firmly. You are setting boundaries in your relationship that way, which allows all parties to get along better in the end.
5 Disgust
Repeating offenders who frequently invoke your anger with their behaviour and ignore all protests on your part will eventually cause you to feel disgusted with them. It's a very negative emotion that eats away at people and their relationships. It is one of the strongest emotions humans are capable of, such as when you're overcome by pity or feel your stomach turn at the sight of something truly horrid.
6 Love and Infatuation
While love is a multi-layered, beautiful thing, infatuation is quite an unhealthy emotion that can easily get out of hand. When you love somebody or a pet, you have a very strong bond to that other being. Nurture this feeling, but don't let it cloud your judgment. You won't be a useful, good friend or family member if you're so infatuated, you can no longer see the other person's faults. How could such an uncritical observer possibly give good advice or be there for them when it really counts? True love opens our eyes because it makes us love in a "warts and all" way. Infatuation makes us blind and lets us to do crazy things.
7 Surprise
Хората могат да изпитат положителни и отрицателни изненади, но за повечето от нас те не изглежда да се случи в еднаква степен. Тези с повече от справедлив дял от негативни изненади са склонни да се каже как те мразя изненади. Животът е постоянна промяна обаче и с това идват често изненади. Живот без изненади ще бъде скучна до точката на гледане боята да изсъхне. Кой ще искам, че за техния живот?
8 Fear
You may regard yourself as a pretty cool sort of gal, but fear sneaks up on everyone sometimes. Fear is one of our most powerful emotions, a primeval instinct that lets us decide in either "flight" or "fight" terms what our response to a fearful situation is going to be. As long as you don't let it rule your life and are in control of your most powerful emotion, fear can actually be used in a positive way to re-affirm your life values. Get your adrenalin pumping once in a while! Bungee jump off a bridge or hurtle down an icy track in a bobsleigh or swim with basking sharks...face your spider phobia or simply tell your Scrooge-of-a-boss you want a raise.
Which of the major emotions has the most influence in your life? I’ll admit I struggle with anger. It’s not so much that I’m hot-tempered, but I feel helpless when faced with some of the sheer crap of modern life and frustrated by an ability to do something about it. Yes! I want to change the world.