I will tell you right now, I am against this thing called "friend with benefits." I mean, seriously, who actually does this stuff? I guess if the both of you have just stepped out of an unhealthy relationship, it may be okay, but there are some reasons I can think of as to why you should not have a friend with benefits. Below, I am going to give you 8 reasons not to have a friend with benefits.
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It Can Be Emotional
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Are you ready to deal with the emotions that you could end up having? Are you ready to be compared to some other guy or some other girl? Having a friend with benefits can put you on an emotional rollercoaster that you never wanted to go into.
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Your Friend with Benefits Will Be Allowed to Go out and Have Sex with Someone else
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Not only will they be allowed to have sex with someone else, but they can have sex with someone else in the same day that they did it with you. You should not get mad about it, because that is what friends with benefits means. It’s kind of like having a booty call.
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Someone Gets Hurt
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In the end, if you’re not careful (and when the heart is involved, you can’t help feelings), someone could get hurt. Are you ready to deal with the hurt that could come along after you get attached to the partner?
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Imagine if You Have a Child from It
I have to say it! When there is sex, there are chances of having a kid, no matter how careful you are. This is a risk you take when you have sex. So, could you imagine having a child with them? With your friend with benefits? Wouldn’t that be a story to tell the child when they grow up?
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Awkwardness in Public
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When you have a friend with benefits, how exactly are the two of you supposed to act in a public area? Are you supposed to hang out with the friend during a party or do they go and hang out with someone else, such as their girlfriend? Are you supposed to flirt? It’s totally awkward!
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To give oneself earnestly to the duties due to men, and, while respecting spiritual beings, to keep aloof from them, may be called wisdom.
You May Not Stay Friends
In the end, after the emotions you go through, you may not stay friends. If they are that good of a friend to you in the first place, then maybe you should just leave them as a friend. Maybe, in the future, you could end up together in a relationship, but the "friends with benefits" thing has too many risks.
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What if the Friend with Benefits Actually Wants a Relationship with Someone?
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What if this friend with benefits wants to be in an actual relationship? Would you be able to handle him or her being in a deep relationship? Would you be able to handle that? What if they get married? Your friends with benefits will end someday, somehow and it may not be pleasant. What about the other person they’re dating – I don’t think they would agree to the two of you sleeping with each other.
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Regret
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In the end, there is usually regret. You regret having the friend for benefits, because they broke your heart, sent you on an emotional rollercoaster, used you or they didn’t want anything to do with you. I like to live life setting no regrets. Think before you act.
If you have a friend with benefits, then that is you. You are the only one who can make your decisions. If they are wrong for someone else, then they may be right for you. However, you need to be careful if you have a friend with benefits. Those are 8 reasons why not to have friend with benefits and I hope you understood them. I know, you can think of some pros, such as having no attachment, but really, you could end up having an attachment. Do you know of any other cons?
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