Have you ever had a crush on a teacher or college professor? Oh, I did. He was my adviser, he wasn't all that great looking, but he was so smart and witty and oh, man, I just loved him. Never, ever did anything but rumor had it that my dear Dr. Scanlon did have a tendency to go out with students. Not the greatest idea, right? In fact, here are 7 reasons never to date your professor!
1. Shhh … It's a Secret
Dating a college professor is hard because it typically has to stay a secret. He or she may be married or in a relationship, for instance, and there are scores of other reasons why this kind of information shouldn't be made public. At first, having a secret affair might seem thrilling and romantic, but the first time you have to do something special without your professor or seem him or her with someone else, it will get really hard.
2. Lack of Concentration
Speaking from experience, it's hard enough to concentrate in class when you don't have a relationship with your professor. When you do, I can only imagine that it's impossible to stay focused. It will probably be awkward for both of you, and can really start to affect your schoolwork and grades.
3. The Grade Conundrum
Speaking of which, won't you wonder if you pass your professor's class(es) because you're dating him or her? Worse, if anyone else every finds out, they will probably wonder about that as well. Even if it's not true, the stigma will probably stay attached to you.
4. The Credibility Factor
Academically speaking, every student needs credibility. Other professors want to know that you're honest, that you study hard, do original work, don't plagiarize or copy, and so on. Dating your professor can ruin any credibility you've built up in one fell swoop. Again, others may wonder if you got into a certain sorority, fraternity, or club, received a certain award, got a certain scholarship, because you are with your professor.
5. What if
In any relationship, there are always “what if” factors. In a relationship with a professor, especially if it has to remain a secret, this is especially true. What if it turns into something more? Saying your professor is single, that means having a serious relationship with someone who is already highly accomplished and respected. If the professor is married, that opens up a whole new can of worms.
6. The Rules of Attraction (and College)
It's hard to keep secrets at college. It is easy to develop a crush on a professor. What happens if people do start putting two and two together? Rumors will abound – and in many cases, on many college campuses, there are rules about relationships between professors and students. What if your professor gets fired because of your relationship?
7. The Question of Sexual Harassment
Finally, this puts both parties in a sticky situation because of sexual harassment laws. They can apply to both and things can get really messy, especially if the relationship falls apart. A student could get back at the professor this way – and the professor could get back at the student.
Now, that's not to say that you can't or shouldn't ever have a relationship with a professor. I'm not about to judge that. But it does raise a lot of serious questions and there is room for a lot of really tough issues. What do you think? Can this situation ever work?
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