Relationships hurt. Period. When my relationships ended badly, I used to brood with an apocalyptic view of the world. I’ve grown up and wish to share my experiences thus far over getting over that ex.
1. Don’t Rebound with Ben and Jerry
Yes, I know that you’re not in the best of conditions, and food can be a great consoler. However, you want to be in your best physical shape to send the best F. U. message to that loser. Savor a dish of ice cream, not a Vermonster challenge.
2. Don’t Rebound Immediately
After a bad breakup, I always realize that perks that come with being single. You’ll miss the guy or feel empty in the end. Breathe and enjoy solitude rather than lonliness. For once, I have the time to explore my interest in playing the violin (which I still haven’t pursued).
As a water polo player, I can tell you that my endorphins are on roofies after a great workout. You’ll burn calories, look better, and feel better. It’s much better than brooding and watching reruns of Grey’s Anatomy.
4. Treat Yourself
I love shopping. Get a nice pair of pumps and admire yourself. You used to give so much of yourself in a past relationship. Focus on yourself for once.
5. Don’t Rant
I used to tell my galpals about bad breakups in angry rants. The rants only made me miss my old beefcakes even more. I didn’t feel better about anything. I just wanted to eat Ben and Jerry’s all day.
6. Don’t Call Him
Even if you still love him and are good friends, take a break from him. You’re only going depress yourself if you carry false hopes. Don’t tread down potentially bad waters.
7. Don’t Get Shitfaced
Alcohol is a relaxant and depressant. Don’t put yourself in a fog, and be aware of yourself. I’ve always thought that Cosmos were vodka with Kool-Aide anyways.
8. Watch a Non-Romantic Comedy
Romantic comedies are cheesy and borderline ridiculous. I love the show, “It’s Always Sunny Philadelphia.” It’s absurdly hilarious and keeps me laughing in a good way.
9. Don’t Bad Mouth about Your past Lover
Don’t tell or lie to your friends that he has an STD or secretly watches Gossip Girl. I have and felt ridiculous afterwards. (Try to) be a good person. It’s over. Lots of worse things have happened in the past. However, if he is bad mouthing you, then you can pull out the claws.
10. When You Speak about the past Relationship, Only Confide to Those You Trust
I recently found out that a man that I loved is dating another girl. I told my mother about it, and her advice made me feel better immediately. She reminded me that while he was funny and brilliant, he was also cynical and emotionally cruel. She brought me back to reality. As a result, I feel happy for his relationship rather than jealous resentment.
11. Don’t Revisit Old Memories
If your couple song was “I Like It Rough” by Lady Gaga, don’t freakin’ listen to it on your ipod.
12. Think of the Bad Times
You broke up. Obviously things weren’t perfect. All relationships have great components, but sometimes we turn a blind eye to the destructive elements of Cupid. You hear me, Rihanna?
Well, good luck roughing over this period of time. I’d love to tell you more about bad relationships, or good relationships that you wish that didn't end, but I’ve got to catch an episode of “It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia.” Now, watching your favorite series could also help you get over your ex and deal with breakup issues!
Do you know about other effective ways to get over a breakup? Please share!
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