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title: "10 Ways to Spot a Frenemy ..."
description: "Facebook Pictures; Her Reactions; Lonely; Her Style; Date Night; More ..."
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# 10 Ways to Spot a Frenemy ...

Imagine waiting to see your friend after a terrible day or a really [bad first date](https://allwomenstalk.com/10-ways-to-avoid-awkward-moments-on-a-first-date/) and really looking forward to curling up with a good film and[having a laugh](https://allwomenstalk.com/5-things-to-make-you-laugh-today/) together. Perfect, right? Well, what if the friend is actually a frenemy who is more interested in making your life worse as opposed to making you happy? Don't gasp, it's actually pretty normal for most of us to have atleast one [bad friend](https://allwomenstalk.com/7-types-of-bad-friends-and-how-to-dump-them/) - a frenemy. Here’s my list of the top ten ways to spot your frenemy!

## 1. Facebook Pictures

![Facebook Pictures](https://resize.allw.mn/1028x0/filters:format(webp)/filters:quality(70)/content/www/2010/03/10-ways-to-spot-a-frenemy/facebook-pictures_ways-spot-frenemy_375x458.jpg)

Photo Credit: [rikrak creations](https://www.flickr.com/photos/rikrak/4078078251/)

The only pictures she puts up on Facebook are of you with your eyes closed or in an embarrassing pose. The pictures of you looking gorgeous never seem to find their way into any of her albums ever. Sure sounds suspicious!

## 2. Her Reactions

_ Photo Credit: Mademoiselle → M_

When you [gain a few pounds](https://allwomenstalk.com/10-ways-to-lose-extra-pounds-gained-in-winter/) and other friends are genuinely trying to help you, a frenemy will tell you how perfect you are with a satisfied grin on her face or make you feel really guilty and hopeless.

## 3. Lonely

_ Photo Credit: Σταύρος_

She doesn’t seem to have many friends and instead of her best friend has her lawyer on speed dial. Some people are just lonely out of [depression](https://allwomenstalk.com/10-ways-to-prevent-depression/) or because they choose to be, but most have behaved in such a way that their friends don’t want to know them anymore. Be wary!

## 4. Her Style

![Her Style](https://resize.allw.mn/1028x0/filters:format(webp)/filters:quality(70)/content/www/2010/03/10-ways-to-spot-a-frenemy/her-style_ways-spot-frenemy_380x412.jpg)

Photo Credit: [Triz Designs](https://www.flickr.com/photos/trizdesigns/3014719775/)

Her new earrings look surprisingly like the ones you bought last week and her[new haircut](https://allwomenstalk.com/hottest-hair-cuts-for-6-different-face-shapes/) is exactly like yours. She may even insist that she carries it off better. Do you find yourself hiding new purchases or old favorites from her? Frenemy alert!

## 5. Date Night

![Date Night](https://resize.allw.mn/1028x0/filters:format(webp)/filters:quality(70)/content/www/2010/03/10-ways-to-spot-a-frenemy/date-night_ways-spot-frenemy_500x500.jpg)

Photo Credit: [creativespiritoriginals](https://www.flickr.com/photos/creativespirit/2470713370/)

She invites that[guy you’ve been crushing on](https://7fun.net/10-ways-to-get-to-know-your-crush/) for ages and tells you she will set you up with him. You spend all day picking an outfit and helping her arrange food... and then she "forgets" to invite you.

## 6. Twitter

![Twitter](https://resize.allw.mn/1028x0/filters:format(webp)/filters:quality(70)/content/www/2010/03/10-ways-to-spot-a-frenemy/twitter_ways-spot-frenemy_500x375.jpg)

Photo Credit: [stevegarfield](https://www.flickr.com/photos/stevegarfield/3616155715/)

You dread reading her twitter feed... who knew she could spill so many of your secrets in only 140 characters?! Hardly a [sign of a best friend](https://allwomenstalk.com/10-signs-you-are-losing-your-best-friend/)!

## 7. Me, Me, Me!

_ Photo Credit: ♥♡Queen Cleopatra♥♡_

She’ll only compliment you by comparing you to her. “Oh, you are so like me...”, "Oh this[dress is gorgeous](https://allwomenstalk.com/15-best-oscar-de-la-renta-dresses/). I bought the exact same one last week" Actually most things are about her, and she makes sure that you know she is the best!

## 8. New Man

![New Man](https://resize.allw.mn/1028x0/filters:format(webp)/filters:quality(70)/content/www/2010/03/10-ways-to-spot-a-frenemy/new-man_ways-spot-frenemy_500x357.jpg)

Photo Credit: [emmakisstina](https://www.flickr.com/photos/k-hultkrantz/1358152310/)

When you introduce your new boyfriend that you are madly in love and very happy with, she takes you to the corner to tell you that of course he’s nice and good enough for YOU, but nowhere near her standards and she would never [date a loser](https://allwomenstalk.com/10-signs-youre-dating-a-loser/) like him.

## 9. Bitchy Comments

_ Photo Credit: Joao Rechena_

You spend hours at hers getting ready for that big night out, [doing your hair](https://allwomenstalk.com/hot-new-hair-style-trends-for-2006/) and make up and generally making yourself look hot. And then she tells you that she’s jealous you can pull off the ‘Just got out of bed’ look so easily.

## 10. Blog

![Blog](https://resize.allw.mn/1028x0/filters:format(webp)/filters:quality(70)/content/www/2010/03/10-ways-to-spot-a-frenemy/blog_ways-spot-frenemy_500x375.jpg)

Photo Credit: [churl](https://www.flickr.com/photos/churl/250235218/)

Her[blog](https://allwomenstalk.com/5-tips-on-writing-a-weight-loss-blog/)contains details of a mysterious ‘friend’ who she constantly moans about and demeans and that friend seems to have the exact same problems and experiences as you.

Frenemies seem really obvious to the outsider but as the victim, it can be hard to spot them and take action. Just remember that frenemies aren’t worth the time, so shed them off and make some good friends instead. You’ll feel so much better! Have you got a tip for spotting a frenemy, or a frenemy story? Please share them with me!

Top Photo Credit: [k-ko](https://www.flickr.com/photos/ballena53/2548273046/)

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