Tips for being a better lover! Are you serious? Yes girl! Sure the sex was spicy in the beginning, but over time, the sexy clothes are hidden in the sock drawer. As for that massage oil, it is sitting somewhere next to the athlete’s foot powder gathering dust. Don't you think it's time to rewind? Time to get into your sexy lingerie and dust off that massage oil (or buy a new one)? Here are my top ten tips for being a better lover...
10. Make Dates
Sure, you may not be in the dating stage anymore, in fact, you are well past the dating stage, but who said you cannot go out on romantic dates? Go out somewhere nice to eat. Perhaps have a dinner and a movie. Perhaps an amusement park date. A Broadway play? My point is have a little fun in your marriage.
9. Get out of Your House
For a better love life, we recommend you and your partner taking regular nights away from home. When couples have been together for awhile, sex will become more of a routine. By the end of the day, you are worn out from your job, the kid’s baseball game, the errands and the laundry. Instead of sipping champagne and enjoying oysters on the half shell over great scenery, you are going home to a house full of peanut butter and jelly. It is not exactly an exciting life. So, make sure the two of you spend some nights out of your home and do something fun!
8. Redecorate the Bedroom
Of course, having a sex life that is dependent on overnight babysitters and hotels could be a problem if you are not a wealthy family. In addition to taking some nights out from your home, maybe you should try to redecorate the bedroom. It does not have to be spectacular, but a little change will make a big difference in your sex life.
7. Light up Some Candles
Come on, don’t you miss the days when you made love in candlelight? Why don’t you do that anymore? Just because you have children does not mean you cannot make love under candlelight. Of course, make sure you blow those candles out good before you go to sleep.
6. Dig Deep
Everyone has sexual fantasies of some sort. For many, those fantasies are buried deep down. What do you want to change about the way you have sex? Maybe you want him to spend more time in foreplay. Maybe you want to try new positions. Think about it long and hard. And when you're sure, go ahead and suggest it to your partner. I'm sure he'll want to give it a shot.
5. What Does Your Partner Want?
It is not only about what you want, but also about what your partner wants. Talk to him. Does he have a certain fantasy that he would like to fulfill? Having open conversations about sex could bring the two of you closer together. It is likely to make sex even more interesting for the both of you. And sometimes even if you think what he wants is a little strange or out of the ordinary, be openminded enough to give it a shot.
4. Try Something New
If you are looking to spice up your relationship in the bedroom,trying something new should be on your mind. Attaining a better love life in the bedroom is something that many individuals have a hard time doing. Maybe try sexier lingerie, sex toys,massages and so on… Just because you try something new does not mean that it has to be outrageous.
3. Do Not Ignore Sexual Problems
If you or your partner has sexual problems or relationship problems, then they should not be ignored. Those problems are not going to just diminish into thin air. There are many relationships that lead to divorce simply because they did not address a problem that they could have beat.
In every relationship, communication is important. Without communication, you do not really have a relationship. Make time for one another to speak. When you speak, you should speak openly. Speak each day. Tell each other about the day, what did you do at work? What did you have for lunch? Keep the conversation going….
1. Buy Gifts
Sure, it is not your husband's birthday, it’s not your anniversary, it’s not the wife’s birthday, but that does not mean that you cannot buy them gifts. When they come home, have a surprise waiting for them. You do not have to do this every day and they should not expect it. Being spontaneous and getting your lover a gift just to say I love you is perfect.
Those are my 10 tips for being a better lover. I have been married for six years and still feel the same way I have always felt. We have a great relationship and open communication. Going for seven years and the sparks are still living. What about you? How do you keep your love life new and exciting?