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title: "How Soon Should You Let a Guy Come to Your House? 10 Essential Rules"
description: "Warning; Be Prepared; Clear the Room; Room Check; Lights out; More ..."
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# How Soon Should You Let a Guy Come to Your House? 10 Essential Rules

So you’ve found a man and invited him home, but how do you make sure everything goes smoothly once you are on your way? Bringing men home can be a battlefield, but with these ten rules, you’ll look smart, sexy, and dignified rather than risk looking (and feeling!) like a naughty teenager. One of the most common questions women ask is, "how soon should you let a guy come to your house?" While there's no magic number, being prepared and setting boundaries early on makes all the difference when you bring a guy home.

## 1. Warning

![Warning](https://resize.allw.mn/1028x0/filters:format(webp)/filters:quality(70)/content/www/2010/05/10-rules-for-bringing-men-home/warning_rules-bringing-men-home_500x333.jpg)

Photo Credit: [ydhsu](https://www.flickr.com/photos/ydhsu/3183824689/)

If you [share your house](https://allwomenstalk.com/8-tips-to-make-house-sharing-survivable/), text your housemate when you’ve asked him over and warn her that you are bringing a man home. That way, she can make sure she is decent, the flat is tidy, and she won’t be startled if she sees a strange man in the bathroom at midnight. Proper communication is key to keeping the peace; for more on managing shared spaces, see point #{3}.

## 2. Be Prepared

![Be Prepared](https://resize.allw.mn/1028x0/filters:format(webp)/filters:quality(70)/content/www/2010/05/10-rules-for-bringing-men-home/prepared_rules-bringing-men-home_500x333.jpg)

Photo Credit: [Tortuguita_88](https://www.flickr.com/photos/tortuguita_88/657997555/in/photostream/)

Make sure you have some sort of [contraceptive](https://allwomenstalk.com/7-reasons-why-contraceptives-sometimes-fail/) ready! There is nothing more embarrassing than having to ask a flatmate or make a shameful run to the garage to grab some [contraceptives](https://allwomenstalk.com/top-7-contraceptives/). You can find detailed information on different methods at [Planned Parenthood](https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control). Ensure you are prepared in advance, and you’ll be ready for any situation!

## 3. Clear the Room

![Clear the Room](https://resize.allw.mn/1028x0/filters:format(webp)/filters:quality(70)/content/www/2010/05/10-rules-for-bringing-men-home/clear-room_rules-bringing-men-home_500x356.jpg)

Photo Credit: [tinkerrrbell](https://www.flickr.com/photos/tinkerrrbell/838624689/)

There isn’t really anything more embarrassing than an awkward [coffee](https://allwomenstalk.com/7-facts-about-coffee-you-do-not-know/) with your flatmates when you’d rather be in private, so ask them to disappear for ten minutes when you arrive. They can have the run of the house once you and your guest are safe behind closed doors!

### Quick Checklist for Bringing a Guy Home

- Text your roommates or housemates ahead of time.
- Double-check your contraceptive supply.
- Do a quick 2-minute bedroom "clutter sweep."
- Ensure there's fresh water or coffee available.
- Have a plan for the next morning (like a nice breakfast).

## 4. Room Check

![Room Check](https://resize.allw.mn/1028x0/filters:format(webp)/filters:quality(70)/content/www/2010/05/10-rules-for-bringing-men-home/room-check_rules-bringing-men-home_500x347.jpg)

Photo Credit: [xelia.](https://www.flickr.com/photos/xelia/3873830094/)

Make sure your room is fit for company before you let him in. This means hiding teddies, laundry, and pictures of [ex-boyfriends](https://allwomenstalk.com/10-ways-to-find-your-ex/). Seeing someone's dirty laundry or framed photos of an ex isn’t exactly arousing! It's all part of the etiquette when men in home are present.

## 5. Lights out

![Lights out](https://resize.allw.mn/1028x0/filters:format(webp)/filters:quality(70)/content/www/2010/05/10-rules-for-bringing-men-home/lights-out_rules-bringing-men-home_500x333.jpg)

Photo Credit: [Greg Adams (hhsc/Greg)](https://www.flickr.com/photos/gregadams/2150383078/)

He came home with you, so he thinks you are gorgeous and wants to enjoy your company. Don’t turn the lights out, and don’t get undressed in the dark. [Be confident](https://allwomenstalk.com/7-ways-to-boost-your-sexual-confidence/) and enjoy yourself! If you're feeling nervous, remember the preparation you did in point #{2}.

## 6. But Be Careful...

![But Be Careful...](https://resize.allw.mn/1028x0/filters:format(webp)/filters:quality(70)/content/www/2010/05/10-rules-for-bringing-men-home/but-careful_rules-bringing-men-home_500x333.jpg)

Photo Credit: [patchworkgirl](https://web.archive.org/web/https://www.flickr.com/photos/piratephotography13/3390253359/)

That said, men can get intimidated too. Excessive poses or over-the-top setups probably isn’t going to have the desired effect on a [first date](https://allwomenstalk.com/10-ways-to-impress-someone-on-a-first-date/) and might even send him running from your house. Maintaining a bit of mystery is always a good idea.

### Essential Items to Have Ready

| Item | Why You Need It | Where to Keep It |
| :--- | :--- | :--- |
| Contraception | Safety and peace of mind | Bedside drawer |
| Mouthwash | Fresh breath for morning chats | Bathroom cabinet |
| Spare Shirt | An easy, sexy morning option | Closet or wardrobe |

## 7. Toothbrush

![Toothbrush](https://resize.allw.mn/1028x0/filters:format(webp)/filters:quality(70)/content/www/2010/05/10-rules-for-bringing-men-home/toothbrush_rules-bringing-men-home_500x334.jpg)

Photo Credit: [Cia de Foto](https://www.flickr.com/photos/ciadefoto/2867427729/)

Don’t offer him your spare toothbrush; you might give the impression you’re a bit too prepared for guests. Unless things are already serious, he’ll be fine with his finger and some toothpaste or just some [mouthwash](https://allwomenstalk.com/5-little-known-ways-to-use-mouthwash/). Safety is also paramount, so always let a friend know your plans; organizations like [RAINN](https://www.rainn.org/) offer great resources on dating safety.

## 8. PJ's

![PJ's](https://resize.allw.mn/1028x0/filters:format(webp)/filters:quality(70)/content/www/2010/05/10-rules-for-bringing-men-home/pj-s_rules-bringing-men-home_500x334.jpg)

Photo Credit: [angie mckaig photography](https://www.flickr.com/photos/mckaig/2912153656/)

Save your cutesy PJ's for tomorrow night and sleep in his shirt instead. You’ll be sexy, dignified, and warm, and you'll avoid the morning rush-for-clothes. It's a classic move that never fails to impress.

## 9. Morning Kisses

_ Photo Credit: Captured Soul Photography_

In the movies, it always looks romantic, but in real life, morning kisses often result in a shocking mix of [morning breath](https://allwomenstalk.com/top-13-bad-breath-treatments/)! Especially if he didn’t brush his teeth. Leave the kissing for after the freshen-up to keep the romance alive.

## 10. Fry up

_ Photo Credit: NicnBill_

You’ll show yourself off as [perfect girlfriend](https://allwomenstalk.com/6-reasons-to-be-the-girlfriend-his-buddies-want-to-have-around/) material if you make him a fry-up in the morning. While you’re cooking, he can freshen up and you can consider if the night was worth it. Win-win! You can follow a classic [Full English Breakfast recipe](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/full-english-breakfast) to really impress him. This is one of the classic 10 rules for men to feel welcome in your home.

Following these rules has really helped my friends avoid embarrassing situations and even helped some turn a casual evening into a serious relationship. I must admit though, I will miss hearing her hilarious stories about taking men home. Do you have a personal rule for bringing men home? Please share it with me!

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