I remember this one episode in the ABC series “Lost”. Sawyer, the character played by Josh Holloway was teaching Jin (played by Jin-Soo Kwon) English because he’s Korean and he does not speak the language.
Sawyer taught Jin the words “You’re right. I’m Sorry.” And something like “Those jeans don’t make you look fat”. Josh’ character said that these are the only two English phrases that he needs to learn to get to a woman’s good graces.
The truth is that in the ever-complicated world of the man-woman relationship, there are a few ‘unwritten’ rules which need to be followed. Men should learn that when they say the absolute wrong thing, they may just find themselves sleeping on the couch.
Here’s a list of the top ten lines that a man should never say to a woman:
10. “What did you do to your hair?”
This is a statement which just goes to show how clueless some men are sometimes. Even if a new hairstyle or haircut does not particularly flatter us, we just want you to notice that we’ve gone to a lot of trouble for that new hairstyle. A stylist did it, it was expensive, and we felt great leaving the salon. Just tell us that you like our new haircut. End of story.
9. “They both look the same to me.”
Okay, it is a fact that women are more obsessive than men when it comes to picking outfits, or silverware, or moving a piece of furniture from one side of the living room to another. You probably couldn’t care less - but we want you to have at least an input about what you think so that you would’ve contributed something.
Ecru and beige may look the same - but they’re not! Tell us what you think, and pick one. Even if we end up not following your advice anyway.
8. “Do you really need another pair of shoes?”
The same thing applies to bags - or clothes. It may seem like an obsession, but women need to look good and keep up with the latest trends. So just go with the flow even if you don’t understand the logic behind it - and never tell us that we don’t need a new pair of shoes.
7. “Is it the time of the month?”
Emotional outbursts or not, it’s just plain rude for guys to immediately assume that just because a woman is acting a certain way - that it’s the time of the month. PMS leads us to ache in certain places that men may not know about, or have food cravings - but it’s not always the reason behind how we act.
6. “Do you really think you should be eating that?”
If you don’t want to get the “I can’t believe you just said that” stare, this is something that you should never say even when she’s gobbling up that pastry that she said she’ll never eat again.
5. “You’re acting just like….”
Telling us that we’re acting just like our mom, your mom or worse - your ex-girlfriend is definitely a No-No. Do you want us to think that we remind you of your ex, which you shouldn’t even mention in the first place? And telling us that we’re acting like your mom or our mom? That’s just wrong.
4. “You didn’t tell me that you have a cute/hot girlfriend.”
No matter how secure you think women are about themselves, it’s always shaken up by the time that you notice or mention in passing - even jokingly - how hot you think one of our friends are. We wouldn’t trust you to be around them, either.
3. “It’s up to you.”
Even when it seems to be a pretty insignificant matter -we want you involved in the decision making process. Telling us that it’s up to us just sends a message that you don’t care.
2. “I love you.”
These three big words should not be uttered during a fight - even if you look at the magic words as a last resort to end the discussion immediately and proceed to the make-up sex.
1. “Relax!”
Even when you can clearly see that we’re freaking out about something, telling us to relax means that you think we’re being crazy and unreasonable. Even if we are -the word “Relax” will just further stoke the fire of our anger and -you see where I’m going with this? =)
If you want to keep your head out of the water - learning about these 10 lines that you should never say to your wife or girlfriend will help tilt the odds in your favor.
Check out the related discussion: Worst lines uttered by your husband/boyfriend
Nice list! I can’t even think of something to add… :) The only thing left is to send the link to this article to our boyfriends with the subject line: I mean it!
Thats a pathetic list!You sound like a wealthy spoiled brat! Worse like a spoiled bratty teenager!
Tell you what … Don’t complain when men annoy you or upset you or just freak you out!
Coz thats what you did in your list!
Use your common sense.That shall give you more insight into what women like rather than these lame tips!
Max, you are wrong! You should better listen to these tips and try to undestand us - but not to say - oh!! how can you ask us not to say these words, you’re spoiled - It’s women’s opinion - and if you are too lazy to make your woman happy with you - I just can feel sorry for you!
I think it’s quite bad when a man says to a woman he’s seeing/girlfriend :
1. You look like a man.
2. My ex has nicer boobs.
3. You’re the 100th woman I slept with, and I just won the bet (and starts calling his friend for the money).
4. I was a village bicycle.
5. My friend’s mom, she’s hotter than most younger women.
Good one Orion!
Anyways … Women jot down everything a man says!Like the put it in this gunny bag … and they will use them against you … regardless the context!
I think you say what your heart says!
I think this list ROCKS!!! Max are you a man or a woman? Not sure I quiet understand you…………….????
Those are great, Orion, they should be on the list too!
And Max, you are wrong about this, man, there are some things women do not want to hear, and I think there is not a single woman who would have loved to hear that her girlfriend is seeing by you as pretty. Neither she would love to hear you nagging about the new pair of shoes…
“John knew how to stroke it.”
This list while interesting does seem to suggest that negotiations are not the par for relationships. There are two people in the relationship thus there will be misunderstanding.
My solution for this list.
1. Women don’t try to make men into your image.
2. Men Ditto.
While Tania says Max should listen and try to understand, that is a good suggestion for both parties and alot of these problems could be avoided.
PS. Everyone needs to remember these rules don’t apply to every woman and for the women in the Audience the same thing you expect to get from your partner you’d better give it.
Hi,
These tips are no Kama-Sutra!
Understanding?lol… thats hilarious!Men have never understood women since the Adam age!and vice-versa!
These tips wont help any one!Deal with the real issues with “real” brain thats “your” brain!say what you think is right and Do what you think is right … coz thats how the world works!
Ten lines women should never hear from you?I wonder how many lines should a guy never want to hear from a woman!
To James : I agree with you P.S … thats close to what I meant earlier!
Sure if you like having a wussy boyfriend and not a amn. Ladies get real. Listen to what we say to men and is it fair???
Dear Xena,
The things we say to men might be hurtful too, but I think there are some words that should be avoided when talking to women and there are some words that are particularly unpleasant for men, and it’s always better not to step on the toes of the person you love, right?
I agree with some of the tips but on the other hand I feel that it all depends on how somethings are being said. For example, I feel like in a relationship a women should be able to tell her man what she thinks that he should wear and vise versa. That doesn’t mean dictate to his/her clothing everyday but its nice to know what your companion likes to see you in. It also allows them to know that their opinion does matter to you. My Guyfriend asks me on occassions to wear certain outfits that he loves to see me in. Its not to say i look ugly in everything else but its nice to make them feel included if they are gonna be apart of your life. I don’t agree with tip #2
i feel that when a couple fuss they should say whatever is on their heart. thats jus my stand point but lets not make it like the men does wrong and we ladies are perfect. Thats SO UNTRUE!!LOL
I don’t think this really requires a big debate… I’m sure it’s meant for women to read and roll their eyes over not for men to get offended by.