He probably thinks you’re going to wallow in self-pity, stay home and cry over him while you watch Oprah, scarf down Haagen-Dazs and gain 10 pounds. But that’s not what you’re going to do; you’re going to make big changes to get over him.

You thought he was the one but, lo and behold, he had other plans. Not only did he dump you; he did it over the phone. You’re hurt, no doubt, but your hurt is ...