So you like him. Call it a crush, butterflies in the stomach or love at first sight, bottom line - you like him. Now the question is how do you get HIM to like YOU enough to ask you out? There is no sure-fire formula. But do not despair. Here are 10 easy suggestions for you to experiment with and Cupid will do the rest!
1. Be yourself. Few things put a man off as much as artifice. So if you are talking louder or laughing or smiling more than you normally do, ease up. It may actually backfire.
2. Extend this point to external appearances too. If you are uncomfortable with very short skirts, high heels and dramatic make-up stay clear of them. A natural look and one that you are comfortable with, is very attractive.
3. Instead of killing your confidence by following uncomfortable fashion trends, look exquisite by just accentuating your physical advantages. Whether the most beautiful thing about you is your height, your complexion, your eyes or anything else, draw attention to it with flattering clothes and make-up.
4. Take the initiative. Shrinking coy violets rarely get noticed. So don’t wait the entire evening praying fervently that he will talk to you. Do it first. Smile or say hello to him. Your confidence will disarm him.
5. After you have surmounted that initial wall, leave small gates and windows open. Respond to him physically and verbally with frequent glances and smiles, commenting on the topics and statements he makes and laughing at his jokes. He will realize that you are interested in him.
6. Subtly find out what he likes - food, sports, cars etc and turn the direction of the group’s conversation into that direction. Sound knowledgeable and genuinely interested in those discussions.
7. Position yourself cleverly. If he wants to make a funny statement or share a grin with just you, do not let others obstruct his view or access. Move around constantly so that it is easy for him to see and speak to you, without sticking to his side all evening.
8. Have fun by yourself too. If you are with another group of friends, do not spend the entire time watching his every move like a hawk. It will spook him. Enjoy yourself with your friends, get them laughing or talking animatedly to you. This will make him wish he was with your crowd…and especially with you. If he walks over or saunters past, give him a friendly smile or welcome.
9. Subtly indicate that you are not seeing anyone at present, particularly when you are about to leave, or see that he is. If this is too difficult, weave it into the general banter.
10. When you are talking to each other in the group or just with each other, discuss topics that people normally do on first dates such as upcoming concerts, good movies, restaurants etc. Sound excited about these things without sounding eager and an invitation may just be a breath away.
So get out there girl and go for it! Mr. Perfect is out there, waiting to sweep you off your feet!
I dont know how to do item 9. lol
lol the getting him to talk to you part is kindof hard xP
Being youself is the number one rule to get a guy to ask you out. Guys hate women running after them but they love girls who are natural.
I agree with you Ice. Act naturally and you will get noticed not just by one guy but to all the men out there. =)
Hey i hope that this really works for me so i can get jery away from jessie please tell me that what you told me it really works on a lot of people and what should i do if it doesn t work
i think that it is harder for some people than for others. I can go up to a guy and say anything, but my best friend cant go up to the guy she likes and even say hi! What can you do, you know? She thinks it is sooooooooo hard to act natural, play it cool, whatever, so what, is she just gonna stand there forever?……. idk
aaawe, that is soo sad! i feel bad for ur friend summerbaby. i dont have that problem. talking to guys is like talking to friends, its a natural thing. i dont know why everybody thinks its so hard to go up to a guy you really like and say “hey, whats up?” I guess its just some stupid thing nowadays. Weeeeelll, i hope you all have fun trying to talk to a guy you like.
PS. you and that guy probably have a lot in common. talk naturally how you would talk to your other friends to him, and talk about things you like. Ask him what hes interested in. anything you likE? say “really? i love that!” or something similar
yeah, i like this guy, and im not really sure if he likes me.i thought he did, but idk…. i never really get alone time with him ever, and i have no classes with him! d= im working on trying to flirt with him so he really knows i like him…
the dude i like and me talk 24 7 but he sitill wont ask me out i need a tip for that.
Guys are like praking spaces-all the good ones are always taken!
I asked him out cuz he wuuldnt and he old me idk i have 2 think . . . . . . a while later sil no answer
meow… the guy i like gives me mixed signals, somedays he flirts his head off, and other days he just ignors me! is this a stragety, of is he just doing it for fun? i asked one of my good guy friends about it, and he said that sometimes guys will just do it for fun, because they think its fun. and theres this girl in one of my classes, that i have with him, and shes slways all, over him, but he doesnt do anything back. help me!!!!!