Do you want to look hot, feel hot?  Or perhaps, you want to get your man’s sexy back?  Then you are definitely in need of an aphrodisiac!

The term was derived from the name of the Greek goddess of sensuality: Aphrodite. Basically, the role of an aphrodisiac is to make sex more attainable and pleasurable.

So, if you are ready for a  positively orgasmic effect, here it goes:

10. Whipped Cream …

I know, I know… there’s no medical evidence that whipped cream is an aphrodisiac which increases your libido. But just think of all the ‘naughty’ places where you can lick whipped cream off it certainly will get you hot!

9. Chocolate …

The famous Venetian womaniser Giacomo Casanova called chocolate the “elixir of love” and drank a mug of drinking cocoa before embarking on a lovemaking conquest.
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Whether it is the melted variety or the deep, dark chocolate gorging on these sumptuous treats would surely heat things up in bed. Chocolate provides a quick boost of energy, especially for women who produce four times as many endorphins after eating chocolate as compared to the endorphins that they produce after a mind boggling kiss!

8. Oysters …

This is a given oysters physically resemble the female organ, which is probably why some men find them so visually stimulating. Also, oysters are high in zinc so they help improve your lover’s sexual potency. Good, huh?

7. Celery …

Researchers speculate that when you eat celery, you can release the androsterone through perspiration after digestion. Women can’t typically smell this, but some things are sensed subconsciously and women can be attracted to this.
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Celery contains a male hormone called androsterone which in turn arouses women’s sexuality. It has been liberally used by ancient Romans in their cooking as an aphrodisiac.

6. Peaches …

The appearance of plump, juicy and mouth-watering peaches already provides a highly sexual image. Aside from that, these luscious fruits have vitamin A which in turn produces healthy, touchable skin – the largest erogenous zone in the human body!

5. Banana …

They contain lots of potassium and vitamin Bs for sex-hormones production. So i guess the phrase ‘going bananas’ can also mean ‘getting horny’…
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There’s more to a banana being an aphrodisiac than its phallic shape. This fruit contains bromelain which stimulates a man’s libido.

By Rossi Davis

You may have been with you partner for many years or just several months. One of the secrets to making you relationship work as a well-lubed machine is bringing flavor into it on a consistent basis. Think of your relationship as an exotic meal and you and your partner as the cooks.

You will need to spice up your relationship continuously in order to keep it “hot”. This is where the real challenge comes in. Couples are busy tending to jobs, children, finances, societal and family obligations. After a while, partners begin to cohabitate or simply exist in a shared living area. Intimacy, leisure, and simple fun are replaced by the business of everyday demands, arguing, discontent and eventual dissatisfaction.

Miscommunication or lack of communication is only one of the problems on the surface. What is below the surface is a whole smorgasbord of other issues. Some of those issues eventually resurface. It may be lack of sexual desire, the need to overpower the other, boredom or lack of trust just to name a few. Even if you have been in a relationship with your partner for a long time, boredom may creep in. Boredom in the bedroom and boredom during daily activities translates to boredom within the relationship in general.

Intimacy is a sort of an art form. It takes work, dedication and creativity. It is essential to find out what you partner likes and what turns him or her on. You have to stay consistent in making your partnership enjoyable and entertaining. If you do not work on improving and spicing up your relationship you may find yourself fantasizing to be elsewhere with someone else. If you are the only one spicing up your relationship, that is going to be in vain. It takes two people to make a relationship and it takes both partners to keep it candled.

After all, no one wants to be kissed on the forehead when they come back from work. Parents kiss their children this way. This is a red flag. Perhaps your partner had a hard day at work or perhaps he or she does not find you sex – appealing anymore. You need to watch out for repetitive behaviors. They are the clues of how your relationship really is. Listen to your inner voice and take notice.

Would you like to find out whether the man that you’re seeing is a poor lover – while you still have your clothes on? Here are the earliest bad-in-bed signs that you need to watch out for:

6. He’s a sloppy kisser.

For me, the first sign that a prospective beau is bad in bed is when he’s a sloppy kisser, and I know this from experience.

This guy that I dated once was all nice and sweet – but he was a really bad kisser. Knowing that, I still fooled myself into believing that he deserves another chance to prove himself: in bed. You already know how the story ends – he’s a worse lover than I could’ve ever imagined!

5. He can’t dance.

It’s okay if your date doesn’t have Fred Astaire or Justin Timberlake moves. The way that he slow dances should indicate whether he’s a good lover or not.

I’m gonna go all poetic here and say that dancing is the ‘vertical sublimation of desire’ – and if he can’t make your world spin with a slow dance, maybe he doesn’t make love like Casanova!

4. He devours his food.

If he eats like there’s no tomorrow, slurps on his soup, and does not know what mouth-watering meals are all about – the way that you’ll get turned off with how he eats should give you a clue as to how he’ll be in bed.

3. You don’t feel sexually desirable when you’re with him.

When a guy treats you like dirt, mostly ignores you when you have a dinner date and makes you feel totally un-sexy when you’re with him should clue you in on how bad a lover he could be.

2. He gropes you in the most obvious places.

A guy who immediately goes after your boobs and butt during a first kiss could be a greedy lover who only thinks of his pleasure in bed.

1. He boasts, no matter how ’subtly’, about his sexual conquests.

A man who’s all airs about his wealth, his car or his job is already a turn off for me – but it’s even worse when he flaunts how great his exes supposedly think he is in bed. Gimme a break!

The Theory of the Secret Slut.

As we all know, there is a double standard for sexual behavior between the sexes. Guys, you know you love adding another notch to your headboards. And society doesn`t care if you add quite a few notches. The average 30 year old guy has probably slept with a minimum of 10-15 girls. Some dudes have hooked up with significantly more. But I can promise that no non-religious woman is gonna give a damn. Frankly, most women are sort of hoping that some other lady had to break you in and point out the key spots. On the other hand….there is a serious stigma for a woman who has been with more than a few sexual partners. I`ve discerned from discussions with men that most men would prefer their women to have had somewhere between 3 and 5 sexual partners at the top end. Any more than that, and the male hackles start to stand up on end.

That being said, while social stigmas related to sexual encounters between the genders is horribly disparate, sex drive is not. Women, even those who don`t consider themselves debaucherous, sexually liberated, lascivious, or whatever other term we use to glorify the urge, have been know to get horny. But, we aren`t encouraged to act on it.

This results in a couple of things: First, some women suppress sexual desire because social criticism has led them to feel uncomfortable with their sexual urges. Moreover, when these women do get horny, they are so stressed out about it, they can`t even enjoy sex if they get it. I`m convinced this is the real reason why so many women can`t get off. I refuse to believe that there are that many men out there who suck in bed badly enough to account for the serious deficit in female orgasm.

Alternatively, girls (and I say GIRLS, not women) want to have the best of both worlds. They want to get their rocks off and try out a slew of different cocks, but they don`t want to cope with the social stigma of being called a slut. Initially, this seems horrendously unjust. Why shouldn`t a girl be able to have a lot of sex with a lot of men and still maintain the respect of both male and female peers? Well, she can. But social pressures lead us to do stupid things. Here is why most girls who fuck don`t get it right:

To illustrate, a girl (we`ll call her Sally) goes out to a bar and meets a guy (we`ll call him John) and they both get their game on. Sally leaves the bar with John, and invites him in “for coffee”. Yeah, right. Sally and John have sex. But not before Sally tells John, “John, you know, I don`t normally do this. It`s just that I really feel a connection with you.” John thinks, “Whatever, Sally. Do me.”

John and Sally wake up the following morning, and neither one really knows how to behave. Sally makes sure that they have swapped numbers. A couple days later, John calls Sally, cuz, in retrospect, he thinks she was a pretty cool girl, and a damn good lay. He could hang with a girl like Sally. Sally answers her phone and agrees to meet John that weekend to hang out…but she`s a little hazy on the time frame. They agree to talk later in the week. Later in the week, John calls Sally back to confirm a plan. Sally remembers that something tragic will come up the following day such as perhaps the death of a family member or pet, or possibly, an attack of the bubonic plague on her best-est friend. And also, her car broke down.

John accepts the story. But now he`s got Sally in his head. Why isn`t she calling him back? Why are plans cancelled? WTF is going on?? Meanwhile, Sally has excised John from her memory. Sally has already made plans for Saturday night. Sally`s girlfriends are going to a different bar, and Sally is just brimming with anticipation to go along and meet some dude named Frank that she saw there two weeks ago. She and Frank will replay the scenario that Sally played out with John. Next week, another bar, another man, another excised memory.

If John were to have played Sally`s role in this, he would be your prototypical player. But when Sally does it, there is a motive just as powerful as obtaining sex. Sally must also maintain her good-girl persona. Sally must believe her own malarkey. Sally gets to say to Frank and John that she “really isn`t that kind of girl”. She is now off the hook of social stigma, and made the impression that she is a nice girl with 3-5 former lovers who wants to get into a relationship with Frank or John because she “really felt a connection”. The only thing that Sally did here, was buy herself an excuse. She has made her mea culpa, and turned the other ass cheek. In order to retain her vision of herself as “not a slut”, she has to instill her pristine impression on her flavor of the week as well. She keeps her desires and actions a secret. She is a secret slut.

I`ve related this theory to both men and women with varying reactions of amusement and horror. I think the horror stems from the term “slut”. According to the Online Etymology Dictionary (www.etymonline.com), the word originated sometime in the 15th century, “a dirty, slovenly, or untidy woman,” probably cognate with dialectal Ger. Schlutt “slovenly woman,” dialectal Swed. slata “idle woman, slut,”. These days, the term is synonymous with feminine sexual promiscuity. The closest masculine parallel might be a term like “gigolo”, which means a man who has sex with, and is financially supported by a woman. However, the synonyms listed for “gigolo” include such praiseworthy appellations as, “playboy”, “attendant”, and even “boyfriend”. (See Roget’s New Millennium™ Thesaurus, First Edition (v 1.1.1)Copyright © 2005). In contrast, a slut is synonymous with “alley cat”, “dog”, “profligate” and “wanton”. (Ibid.)

Thus, the nature of the word slut is off-putting. Because women have been the victims of invidious sexual and social oppression, we shy away from taking responsibility for our own oppression. We presume that oppression is entirely the fault of our male, religious, social, etc… oppressors, and that if the yoke is removed, we will frolic uninhibited through the fields of sexual liberation. However, the word slut associates sexual promiscuity with uncleanliness. If you are a slut, you are a dirty whore. The very words incite oppression– to use the word slut is to make the assumption that female sexuality is a dirty unworthy thing. The behavior of the secret slut is predicated on her need to suppress and censor her sexuality because she herself believes that sex is a stain on her pristine femininity. It is entirely appropriate to use the word in this context.

So what is the alternative? Is it possible for women to be promiscuous without the stain of slovenliness? Of course it is. And since the word “slut” incorporates dirtiness, the removal of dirtiness invalidates its application. Sexually promiscuous women who do not believe that sexuality is a moral blemish are not sluts. They are healthy women who enjoy sex. Pure and simple.

So, how do we get out of this mess? I think it`s going to require a joint effort. Women cannot blame the issue exclusively on men. But men need to stop feeding the beast. So, men, stop attempting to date 20 year old girls and sleeping with them on the first night. Go home and jerk off instead. If you both have to work a little harder to get to the fucking, the fucking might mean something more than fucking. Ladies, if you do have sex, never apologize for it. Your choice to have sex, even without love, satiates a basic human urge. In the same way you`d never apologize for ordering a pizza, do NOT apologize for your orgasm.

Some girls are fortunate enough to be comfortable with their sexual desire. These women OWN what they do. That means, if a woman like this takes you home and fucks the daylights out of you, she wont make false promises about wanting to see you again if she doesn`t want to see you again. Of course, it is a little rude to say as much post-coitus. “Well, Frank, thanks for the excellent ramming. Don`t ever call me again, ok?”. Sometimes silence is just better.