1. Let him be a man!

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Men like to make the first move. Sure, some might be slow, and some don’t ever get the hint until you make your point really obvious, but he is the man, and usually the men like to be in control. There’s no harm in suggesting an idea for the date, but if you think he’d be more comfortable with his pick, go with it. Recent studies show that most failed relationships are initiated by women. I don’t know how much truth there is to that but I don’t see the harm in letting him take the lead.

2. Be interested!

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Don’t wonder about what’s happening in Corrie, about what your friend is doing or about what you’ve got in the freezer. That’s one first date mistake you should totally avoid. Your mind should be completely on who you are with. Listen to him, and I mean really listen to him. If you can reuse information that he’s told you, such as names or incidents or carry on a discussion about something he mentioned instead of just nodding along, he will be impressed! Bottom line: Make him feel significant.

3. Be friendly!

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You’d be surprised at how many similar stories I’ve heard from friends who’ve been on dates recently. From women who glare at any other females in the area to those who wince whenever he mentions a female name, be it his mum or sister, being possessive isn’t attractive! We’ve all had to deal with that jealous boyfriend in the past and you know how annoying it can be. So don’t put someone else throught it especially on the first date! Be friendly and open minded. It is an attractive quality to possess.

1. Don’t Deal

A relationship is supposed to be built on trust. If your boyfriend is acting jealous without a good reason then maybe the best thing to do is move on to prevent yourself from having to deal with the baggage.

2. Accepting The Issue

Ask yourself if you really love him. If you do love him and want the relationship to work then you’re going to have to learn to accept his insecurity and find ways to change it. You’re going to have to accept it considering you knew it before you got too involved. Accepting it means not yelling or arguing about it with your boyfriend.

3. What Is The Issue?

You can’t fix a problem until you figure out what the problem is! Why is he jealous? Did he have a troubled childhood and is needing to feel accepted? Did he have a bad past relationship and wants to prevent the same things from reoccurring? Try to find out where the problem lies.

4. Listen To Him

With determining the problem you’re going to have to listen. You’re never going to understand why he is jealous unless you listen to what he has to say. In turn this will help you learn more about your jealous boyfriend and how to handle his insecurities.

5. Talk About It

Arguing is only going to make the situation worst. He is ultimately jealous due to his fear of you leaving him. If you express your feelings assertively to him and not aggressively there is a good chance his attitude will change in your favor.

This column from MsCyphrah Newsvine answers a question about the dilemma of a woman whose boyfriend never seems to get jealous. Even when she spends time with some of her male friends, her boyfriend does not seem to mind, making the girl feel as if he does not really love her.

Here’s part of what Ms. Cyprah had to say:

…jealousy is not a positive quality in a relationship. It is a very negative one that lies at the heart of control and signals a lack of respect. He is actually treating you with respect, by appreciating your friends. He knows he loves you and that you love him, and does not feel he has to ‘prove’ anything, but you would like him to prove it by showing how jealous he is of you.

Ms. Cyprah

Way to go, Ms. Cyprah! I thinks that she hit the nail in the head with this advice. Jealousy is a negative emotion which shows how insecure a person is about herself. It’s a good thing that the boyfriend of the girl who wrote the letter never gets jealous.

I guess her case is the other spectrum of women who have extremely jealous boyfriends that they do not want them to spend any time at all with other members of the male species.

My own piece of advice for that letter sender is: be thankful that you have such an understanding boyfriend. His lack of jealousy just shows how secure he is of himself and how much he trusts you – knowing that you will not betray him while you’re spending time with your other male friends.

Shed that insecurity, girl, it’s just a waste of your precious time!

1. Don’t Deal – A relationship is supposed to be built on trust. If your boyfriend is acting jealous without a good reason then maybe the best thing to do is move on to prevent yourself from having to deal with the baggage.

2. Accepting The Issue – Ask yourself if you really love him. If you do love him and want the relationship to work then you’re going to have to learn to accept his insecurity and find ways to change it. You’re going to have to accept it considering you knew it before you got too involved. Accepting it means not yelling or arguing about it with your boyfriend.

3. What Is The Issue? – You can’t fix a problem until you figure out what the problem is! Why is he jealous? Did he have a troubled childhood and is needing to feel accepted? Did he have a bad past relationship and wants to prevent the same things from reoccurring? Try to find out where the problem lies.

4. Listen To Him– With determining the problem you’re going to have to listen. You’re never going to understand why he is jealous unless you listen to what he has to say. In turn this will help you learn more about your jealous boyfriend and how to handle his insecurities.

5. Talk About It – Arguing is only going to make the situation worst. He is ultimately jealous due to his fear of you leaving him. If you express your feelings assertively to him and not aggressively there is a good chance his attitude will change in your favor.

6. Be Open With Him– Don’t hide things from him. Hiding things from one another will only create a tension that in turn will cause friction like him being a jealous boyfriend. It’s always best to be honest and open about how you feel to prevent any surprises or arguments in the future.

7. Set Relationship Rules –This works Vice Versa! Establishing a set of ground rules in a relationship is a good way to allow the other the knowledge of knowing what buttons not to press! If the couple truly cares about one another and follows the set rules it will prevent a lot of arguments!

8. Build His Confidence – Make him feel good about himself! Hearing compliments from you and understanding that you truly care about him will make him start to feel more confident With his new found confidence he will start to see other situations as less of a threat to his bond with you.

9. Involve Him – Involve him in your life. Involving him in more aspects of your life will show him he has no reason to be paranoid

10. Reverse Psychology – If you have tried everything you can think of and all has failed try giving him a dose of his own medicine. Act jealous for stupid reasons. After he is showing signs that you’re actions are bothering him explain to him that’s how you feel when he acts that way. Maybe then he will see how silly he was acting and change for the better.

Now that you have some tips on how to deal with a jealous boyfriend it’s time for you to go out and take action! After all you don’t want to lose him and you want to make it work right? Try some of these tips on your over jealous boyfriend and come back to share the success of your efforts.

1. Don’t Deal – A relationship is supposed to be built on trust. If your boyfriend is acting jealous without a good reason then maybe the best thing to do is move on to prevent yourself from having to deal with the baggage.

2. Accepting The Issue – Ask yourself if you really love him. If you do love him and want the relationship to work then you’re going to have to learn to accept his insecurity and find ways to change it. You’re going to have to accept it considering you knew it before you got too involved. Accepting it means not yelling or arguing about it with your boyfriend.

3. What Is The Issue? – You can’t fix a problem until you figure out what the problem is! Why is he jealous? Did he have a troubled childhood and is needing to feel accepted? Did he have a bad past relationship and wants to prevent the same things from reoccurring? Try to find out where the problem lies.

4. Listen To Him– With determining the problem you’re going to have to listen. You’re never going to understand why he is jealous unless you listen to what he has to say. In turn this will help you learn more about your jealous boyfriend and how to handle his insecurities.

5. Talk About It – Arguing is only going to make the situation worst. He is ultimately jealous due to his fear of you leaving him. If you express your feelings assertively to him and not aggressively there is a good chance his attitude will change in your favor.

6. Be Open With Him– Don’t hide things from him. Hiding things from one another will only create a tension that in turn will cause friction like him being a jealous boyfriend. It’s always best to be honest and open about how you feel to prevent any surprises or arguments in the future.

7. Set Relationship Rules –This works Vice Versa! Establishing a set of ground rules in a relationship is a good way to allow the other the knowledge of knowing what buttons not to press! If the couple truly cares about one another and follows the set rules it will prevent a lot of arguments!

8. Build His Confidence – Make him feel good about himself! Hearing compliments from you and understanding that you truly care about him will make him start to feel more confident With his new found confidence he will start to see other situations as less of a threat to his bond with you.

9. Involve Him – Involve him in your life. Involving him in more aspects of your life will show him he has no reason to be paranoid

10. Reverse Psychology – If you have tried everything you can think of and all has failed try giving him a dose of his own medicine. Act jealous for stupid reasons. After he is showing signs that you’re actions are bothering him explain to him that’s how you feel when he acts that way. Maybe then he will see how silly he was acting and change for the better.

Now that you have some tips on how to deal with a jealous boyfriend it’s time for you to go out and take action! After all you don’t want to lose him and you want to make it work right? Try some of these tips on your over jealous boyfriend and come back to share the success of your efforts.