By Chantel Johnson

So a friend and I were talking (no names) and she mentioned something to the effect of how I throw men away like garbage… which naturally made me think of an episode of Sex and The City (is this normal? lol I relate everything to that show) well anyways the episode I thought was the one Carrie ran into her ex Aiden’s ex girlfriend (crazy I know) well anyways in that show she’d read an article about her column claiming that she disposes men, like my friend claimed I do. Which further proves that I am the Carrie! but honestly I don’t feel like I dispose men although my family now don’t even bother to get names now a days. lol….but I will give myself and other women like me credit because its called STANDARDS… and I am kind of delusional when it comes to myself but I AM also aware of the fact that its not always them…. meaning sometimes it’s ME.
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By Rita Wesley

Have you ever looked back on your past loves and wondered, what if? I think I know every woman’s the answer to that question, but lately it’s been on my brain.

I’ve been in a loving relationship for a little over 3 years now, but I can’t help but wonder sometimes, what if?guy During college (5 years ago), I “dated” a guy who was then the hottest guy in school, we maintained a friendship throughout the years, well a friendship mixed with I’m in love with you but we never sealed the deal. Well, now he is the hottest guy on the celebrity blogs and women all around the world are drooling over his pecks, and I can’t help but wonder, what if I decided to be with him? What would my life be like? Where would I work? Would I be married? How much more fabulous would my life be had I been with him? Basically, What am I missing?
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By Amy Mahlum

My best friend from high school and I recently reconnected. I learned that she was going through a divorce and since I had been there, I have found myself a source of support for her. Her incredible need to move on, to not be alone, to replace the old with the new inspired me to take a look at my dating life after divorce and to share how dating was for me, after not doing it for over nine years.
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By April Williams

Last night one if my ten year old twins told me that he noticed a new number when he was going through my cell phone. I stood there in shock and dread hit me like a cannonball in the gut. I realized that I am raising my children to think that it’s normal for a mother not to have an “opposite sex relationship” outside of being a good mother. His tone and demeanor suggested that I was in trouble for having a male name in my phone. Where is the boundary between mothering and answering to that inner woman? Why is it that some of us feel like we are bad mothers for wanting to date sometimes? I asked a few parents and the response I got was encouraging and fair. There has to be an understanding with children that they are always first and will continue to be, but mom or dad will have to have time for other adults.
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