Ever since I was a little girl, I hoped that some day a Prince Charming will come into my life and we will live happily ever after. And he did! But the fairy tale has not quite started right away…
What I did not know was that between the first kiss and the “happily ever after” there are certain things a woman should learn in order to get that fairy tale rolling.
It can take months or years to discover them, so I thought I would just share this happy relationship secret with you, so that you guys do not waste your time and tears on something that would have never worked.
Back to the secret, here it is - the 5 Secret Rules a woman should follow in order to make her fairy tale happen:
Secret Rule #1:
Tell Him Compliments
They say women like compliments. What they do not say aloud is that men LOVE them. And there is nothing to be ashamed of! When it comes to compliments, we all go weak in the knees…
Where do you start? Well, I am sure your man is great, so there should be thousands of things you can compliment on. Just go with the flow and compliment on whatever he does!
Something simple like “You always make the best coffee, sweetie” or “What a great idea to park here!” wil be enough to light up your man’s face. And the best part, is that we actually think that, so basically you just need to say it aloud.
Not only the compliments will make your man happy, but they will also serve as a nice way to change your man’s behavior.
My husband used to be a heavy smoker, instead of nagging him about this habbit, I would just say: “You haven’t smoked for 4 hours, honey, wow, I did not know you had such a great will-power!”. And guess what? He would always last for another couple of hours without a cigarette to impress me, untill he finally kicked that habit!
Secret Rule #2:
Always, and I mean - ALWAYS support your man
No matter how crazy his ideas are, support your man. Wether it’s something small and insignificant (like a destination for a picnic) or something big (like his desire to change his career), you should always be there for him.
When my husband told me he wanted to quit his $120 per hour job, my first impulse was to freak out and make a scene. But I got my act together and listened to what he had to say. And guess what? Within a year he built a business which makes him happy and which brings us 5 times more than he used to make at his last job!
The thing is that there are NO right or wrong choices, they are just choices, you will never know what’s best in a long run anyway. No matter what he decides to do, just believe that he can do it. It’s your support that makes it all possible! You know that every great man in history had a great woman by his side who truly believed in him. So, be one too!
Secret Rule #3:
Take a Good Care of Him
With all love and respect to men (and I DO mean it), they are not “designed” to take care of themselves. They forget to eat regularly, they forget to shower and change/wash/put away their clothes, they are so involved in doing more significant things that these little details just skip their attention.
Men might not say it, but they absolutely need our help organizing the household. Either by yourself or with hired help - it will be truly appreciated either way.
Secret Rule #4
Learn to Cook Something
I know, I know, there is plenty of restaurants and professional chefs who can cook anything you and your man like. But that’s not the point. Here is what is:
All men without exception like to eat well. My husband does, and I am sure your Prince Charming does too. And what makes your home (except for your beauty, of course) the best place to go back to from work is… a nice home prepared meal!
It can be something simple or you can cook only some part of it and order the rest from a restaurant (like I do :), but the whole “at home dinner” experience is something you two should definitely try! Your house will feel like “home” once you guys do it.
And the last, but not least:
Secret Rule #5
Always Stay Pretty and Sexy
Remember when you first started going out and you were trying to look your best every time he saw you? Just carry on doing it!
In general men feel happy just looking at a pretty woman, it’s how they are wired. So, just make sure you still are an eye-candy to your man. Try to look polished every time he comes through the door. Say “no” to old sweaty T-shirts, hair in a dull bun and a shiny face, opt for sexy robes and lingerie and it will definitely work!
And please do not underestimate sex and intimacy in long-term relationships - I saw many couples splitting over that. Just try to be as inspiring sex-wise as you used to be at the early stages of your relationship, or better yet, become even sexier! Strip dance classes in the gym did the trick for me! :)
These 5 Secret Rules are the basis of my happy marriage and the happy relationships of many of my friends. I know these tips do not sound like the advice we usually get on TV and in the magazines, but these rules worked for me and my friends, and I am sure they will work for you too! Good luck, my dear Princesses! :)
About Author:
Amanda Davidson is our “Be a Happy Woman” expert. She studies Kabbalah and has a PhD in sociology. She is also a fab woman, a loving wife and a great mother of 2 living in LA, California.
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Really good advises like usual ! Make me remember that i have to tell him mo compliments!
Okay, so at the risk of seeming selfish, what do I get from my husband for this? I do most of these all the time, but am not getting what I would consider an acceptable return, so to speak. What do you get from your husband that has lead you to the conclusion that these are the rules? I write this because I am curious, not because I don’t agree with you. Just kind of wondering if I’m married to a lout, or if my expectations are too high. (I suspect they’re not.)
Hi Suzi, what you will get from your husband, if you follow these rules, is lhe best husband you could ever hope for.
I thought like you, when I first heard about this. Why would I be doing this, what will I get in return? But I just decided to give it a shot, I fell into it and our lives and feelings have just changed for the better. Once I stopped thinking of what I can get and started to think of what I can give, it all changed. My husband became a perfect man. And now that I think of it, I recieve much more now, than back then, when the “the receiving” part was an objective…
He will love you more, he will adore you more, he will listen to you and he will do all it takes to make you happy, you guys will connect and it’s the best feeling ever!
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I’ve been working on making my realtionship better. We just got married, have a beautiful 1 year old daughter, and one on the way. The only problem is that we are constantly bumping heads! I feel like I do and do for him but I get NOTHING in return. How do I get some appreciation? He just comes and goes without noticing anything, including me!
Janelle, that sounds like something a counselor might help you with. I gather that you already told him how you feel. Going to a professional might help. Good luck honey!
I enjoyed your article, simply because I agree with everything you said. But I had a problem with a comment you made on another comment.
“Hi Suzi, what you will get from your husband, if you follow these rules, is lhe best husband you could ever hope for.”
This simply is not true. I do all of these things. On a regular basis. Everyday for the last three years. Sometimes we truly are married to men who just can’t appreciate what we do, and our hard work goes unnoticed.
I am an army wife, you really can’t get more supportive than that. And now when he told me he wanted to get out in this economy, what did I do, while freaking out like crazy inside, I told him I would join the airforce so we can still have an income to support our family, while he goes to school and figures out what would make him happy. I cook him 3 meals a day, everyday, not to mention the millions of key lime pies (his fave), and wait on the man hand and foot. I don’t think he has ever stepped foot in our kitchen. I am always telling him how wonderful he is and giving him random notes around the house telling him compliments. And the man has never heard no to sex. He wanted it 3 days after I gave birth and did I do it, absolutely. He is the king of our castle and he gets treated as such.
What do I get in return. Nothing. He is verbally and physically abusive. Rarely home because he is always out drinking and partying, and I cant count how many times he has cheated on me.
Just wanted to say these things are not always fool proof. Sometimes we just marry a dud. Regardless I still respect, honor, cherish, and obey my husband, like a good wife. Perhaps one day he will grow up.
This is a great article though. If more women treated their husbands like this, more women would be treated like the Queens they are!