Does your boyfriendโs ex refuse to leave him alone? Maybe she calls him, stalks him on social media or is just generally around too much for your comfort. So whatโs a girl to do? It turns out thereโs a lot you can do in this situation!
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Evaluate the Circumstances
You donโt want to panic when thereโs an ex that wonโt leave your boyfriend alone. You need to be calm and approach the situation in a reasonable manner. The first thing you want to do is evaluate the circumstances. Are there good reasons for your boyfriendโs ex to contact him? If they share a child together, then thereโs always going to be some contact between them. Do they have some old business they need to discuss such as a shared credit card or something similar?
Observe Your Man
This one is important. Observe your man when his ex contacts him. How does he act? This can tell you if you have anything to worry about or not. If he doesnโt like to talk to her and acts aggravated or frustrated when she contacts him then relax; he doesnโt like it any better than you do. However, if he lights up when she calls or is flirty toward her then you have a problem.
Answer His Phoneโ
Thisโs a strategy to try. Maybe your boyfriendโs in the shower or talking to a friend and canโt get to his phone. Thatโs a good time to answer for him. Sometimes just letting an ex know that youโre in the picture can help. Itโs a reminder that heโs moved on.
Give It Some Time ๐
Sometimes the best thing to do is give it time, especially if itโs not happening constantly. His ex may get the hint and stop contacting your boyfriend on her own. She may just need to see that heโs with you now and youโre not going anywhere. Patience can pay off in this situation. That all depends on how extreme her actions are.
Ask Him to Handle It
If his ex is truly an issue then something needs to be done. The best way to handle this is for you to not handle it at all. Sheโs not going to listen to you and in fact, may up her attempts to connect with your boyfriend to spite you. The best solution is for your boyfriend to put a stop to it. If he doesnโt want to end his contact with her then thatโs a red flag.
Trust Your Gut
Intuition or gut feelings are seldom wrong. Whatโs your intuition telling you? Is the issue mainly on the part of his ex? Or is it possible heโs not ready to sever his ties with her? Theseโre difficult questions to ask yourself but itโs important to be real here. You deserve your own honesty.
Exit the Situation
If the situation isnโt one where he needs to have contact with her then you may decide itโs best to exit the situation. Thatโs a decision only you can make. You deserve someone who only has eyes for you. You also deserve someone who will follow appropriate boundaries when it comes to your relationship. Donโt settle for anything less.
Itโs difficult to deal when your boyfriendโs ex wonโt leave him alone. Are you in this situation? Youโre welcome to share.
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