13 Ways to Deal with Being the Other Woman ...

By Heather

13 Ways to Deal with Being the Other Woman ...

Being the other woman is a tough situation isn’t it? This is especially true if the guy is married and not just in a relationship. There are ways to deal with being the other woman and here, we’ll explore some of them. We’ll also talk about maybe getting yourself out of being the other woman.

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1

Face the Truth

When you’re in a situation where you are being the other woman, it can be really difficult to see the truth. Is he really going to leave his girlfriend? Is he going to stick with his wife? Why hasn’t he left his girl yet? These are all questions that you should ask yourself. In general, most guys want their cake and eat it too, that doesn’t go for every single situation and man, but in most cases, if a guy has a girlfriend and a wife, he’ll want to keep both of them.

2

Develop outside Interests

Just because you are the other woman doesn’t mean you have to invest all of your time in the guy you are seeing. Develop some interests that are all your own! Do you like to paint? What about write? These are the things that you can focus on instead of who your man is with!

3

Support System

Being the other woman is not easy. It’s actually really difficult and if you’re in a situation like this, it might be key for you to get a support system. Pull together some of your friends and family. Believe me, it’ll make all of the difference if you do happen to ditch the guy.

UPD:

Being the other woman is a difficult position to be in, and it can have long-lasting consequences if it's not handled with care. It's important to remember that you're not alone in this situation, and building a support system is key. Reach out to your close friends and family, and tell them what's going on. They'll be able to provide you with a shoulder to cry on, and offer advice and support.

It's also important to remember that you're not the one to blame. Even if you feel guilty, the blame should be placed on the person in the relationship who is cheating. Don't allow yourself to be taken advantage of, and don't let anyone make you feel like you're the one at fault.

It's also important to consider the consequences of your actions. While it may be tempting to stay in the relationship, it's important to think about the long-term consequences. If the relationship is discovered, it could have a negative impact on your reputation and your relationships with other people.

4

Therapy

Just because you are the other woman does not make you normal. There might be something in you that you need to get help with that has put you in this situation. Therapy might be a great idea in addition to your support system. That way you can figure out the underlying feelings that might have put you in this situation!

5

Stop Thinking in Black & White

If you are the other woman, you can’t think in blacks and whites. Everything should be in grey. You can’t think that you are the only one at fault, because he is the one cheating too. Just because you’re the other woman doesn’t make you a bad person, it is just a tough situation to be in.

Famous Quotes

Men in general judge more from appearances than from reality. All men have eyes, but few have the gift of penetration.

Niccolò Machiavelli
6

Don’t Tell

Typically, when you are in this type of relationship, you can’t tell anyone, as it can all leak back to his family right? Well ladies, I say that if you are keeping your relationship a secret, you deserve better. So while it might be a first instinct not to tell, if you are really thinking about stopping the cycle, it might be time to talk to your family about your relationship!

7

Think about Ending It

This should be a constant thought of yours, to think about ending your relationship with him. You may love him, it might be difficult the first couple months, but once you realize that you are better than a secret relationship and deserve more, you’ll dwell more on ending it.

UPD:

The end of a relationship is not easy, especially when it is a secret one. It may take time to come to the realization that one deserves better than a relationship hidden from the world. During this time, it is important to consider the consequences of ending the relationship. It is possible that the other person may not take it well, and it is important to keep in mind that the other person's feelings should be taken into account. It is also important to consider the impact that the end of the relationship may have on family and friends. It is important to be prepared for the possible reactions that may occur.

8

Understand His Partner's Position

When you are in a relationship like this, it's hard to admit that you are the other woman, but ... you are. You've got to understand his partner's position, you've got to see things from their side too. Keep that in mind if you are the other woman and how you would feel.

UPD:

Being the other woman in a relationship is an incredibly difficult situation to be in. Not only do you have to deal with the guilt of knowing that you are in a relationship with someone who is already in a committed relationship, but you also have to deal with the potential backlash of the other person finding out. It can be a very emotionally and psychologically taxing experience, and it is important to understand the other person's position in the situation.

The other person is likely feeling betrayed and hurt by their partner's infidelity. They may feel embarrassed and angry that their partner has chosen to be with someone else. It is important to remember that they are feeling a range of emotions and it is important to be compassionate and understanding towards them.

It is also important to remember that the other person is likely feeling a range of emotions, including confusion, anger, hurt, and betrayal. It is important to be mindful of this when interacting with them and to not take any of their emotions personally.

9

Don't Settle

Settling for being the other woman is never a great option. You should be pushing it, you should be determining if you are going to stay put and let him walk all over you or if you are going to move on and find someone worth it.

10

Think about Your Future

How is your future going to look with this guy? You've got to consider that whenever you are in this type of situation. You never want to just stay in the now.

11

Know How It Can Effect You Emotionally

How do you think that you are going to be able to handle another relationship if you are the other woman? How do you think you are going to handle other relationships in general, even if this one doesn't work out?

12

Find Yourself Someone Single

When you are the other woman, you aren't ever going to be number one girls, you aren't ever going to be the perfect person to him -- so why not find yourself someone single? Why not find yourself someone that is worth your time?

13

Does He Get Jealous?

Finally, does he seem controlling and jealous, even though you aren't at all 'his' and he is in another relationship? This is something that you've got to weigh too!

Being the other woman definitely isn’t a piece of cake or a walk in a park, it’s hard. Just remember, there are ways to deal with being the other woman. Keep your support system close, talk about ending it and definitely know that you deserve better. So ladies, have you ever been the other woman? If so, share your story!

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I'm in love with this guy who already have a girlfriend and is engaged with her. He told me their relationship in on the brink of collapse because the girl's family does not approve of him for their daughter. He promised me he would leave her, but unfortunately we've been dating for 5 months now but still he could not muster the have the courage to tell her so. His excuse is because he does not want the girl to get depressed because currently she is working abroad and told me he would end it up when the girl returns home. I love him and all I could do is be patiently wait for things to turn up right. But still I'm having second thoughts. I'm afraid he will choose to save their relationship and abandon me. But still life must go on.

@thecalicofrog. you need to walk away from the relationship 100%. when HE is legally separated like yourself then u 2 can move forward. if he loves u as u say he will tell u he has to stay in his marriage bcz of his kids & tell u to move on or he will file for legal separation. step away.

I was the other woman for 6 months until I dug up some information on him, and I found out he was in a rela tionship. I was so mad that I never spoke to him after that, I felt used. It reminded me of how my dad cheated on my mom with some woman, and then later everything fell apart (divorce).

I have fallen in love with an engaged man who also works in the same place as me. He used to be my coworker but he moved to a different department so I don't see him as much now; thankfully. But; We do park in the same structure so whenever he isn't there i'm wondering where he is, what hes doing, who his with, etc etc. I know exactly who hes with and what hes doing but I never want to accept it! I'm constantly checking his and his fiancés Instagram, I am completely in love with this guy. & I know he does not love me back. I am hurting myself over and over & I cant seem to stop. We've been doing this since April 2014. We have tried stopping twice but it didnt work. Obviously, all we do is have sex. We have some good conversations and a great connection but I know what he really wants from me, and it kills me because this guy is perfect. PERFECT. Hes sexy as hell, body, face, everything, sex is great, he is sweet, has a good heart, hes smart, creative, etc. i wanted him the minute I laid eyes on him. Well; Be careful what you wish for ladies. Hes everything Ive always wanted & I cant even really have him. Him and his fiance are so in love, ( well atleast thats how they make it seem ) and it absolutely kills me. Their familes are friends, they are always going on little adventures , you get the point. This is the third time ive been the other woman and i just never learn. But with him i actually caught feelings like ive never felt and now im so lost. I keep telling myself to end this but its just so hard. Supposedly i'm the only other girl hes been with while hes with her, but who knows. You would NEVER expect a guy like him to cheat. but honestly, his fiance isnt very sexy, but i can tell she has an amazing personality and shes extremely smart, i basically fit the spots she doesn't have, i am the perfect mistress. But i do not want to be a mistress anymore. I want to be loved and i want to feel wanted more than sexually. I know he is not going to be that man for me, so i need to get out of this ASAP. I'm so sorry for anyone who has been cheated on, being the other woman has completely torn me apart and i hope i will never be this dumb again. And if i ever do mess with a taken man, i will NOT catch feelings.

I am in a new relationship with a guy with a partner. I have never done this before......It is so hard

How do you cope with being the other woman? I met my boyfriend nine months ago. He said he was getting a divorce but then said it's complicated and he has to wait until he gets his citizenship. He moved in with me and everything seemed fine. Until the day I caught him talking to other women. Just recently I finally got him to tell me the truth that he isn't faithful to me. Not a surprise since I'm already the other woman. I love him very much and just looking for tips on how other women deal with their man wanting to have sex with other women. He tells me he loves me and that I'm to keep and the others are just for sex. He is younger than me and I'm trying to understand but having difficulty with figuring out how to handle the situation.

Many of you want to blame the other woman why?! Its very obvious that he's not happy with his wife.woman get way too comfortable and let themselves go.then they wonder why there husband is cheating. If he wants you to try new things try them because what you want do another woman will....Good day ladies

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