Here’s a ‘gaily’ (pun intended) interesting article from AOL Personals about how to tell if someone’s gay or not.
There’s this study conducted by researchers NYU, UCLA and Texas where they found out that subtle cues are easier to detect in gay men than in lesbians.
…gay men had hourglass figures, while the lesbians had more tubular bodies. In addition, the gay men tended to sway their hips, while the lesbian women swaggered their shoulders more than their straight counterparts.
So what are the other signs to watch out for to check if he’s gay or not? Here’s a few, just for laughs:
1. He cares about your hair more than you do.
2. He criticizes your choice in shoes.
3. He’s more fashion conscious than you are.
4. He always tries to catch the eye of the cutest guy in the room.
Uhhmm… I really can’t add more to the list but I do love “Will & Grace” – I guess if you find out that a potential bf’s gay, you can just turn him into your BFF, lol.
If you’re cheking if he’s gay then what are you doing with him in the first place? How about a list to differentiate between gay and metrosexual in a potential partner? Although personally I’d prefer the direct approach and just ask.
if someone would help me answer this question: if a girl has this guy friend and they say they are gay but he don’t act gay at all and the all the guys he had been with it doesn’t last long
Dear Alicia,
I think if the guy says he is gay, it’s either:
a. He truly is gay
b. Or he wants the girl to think he is gay (not to hurt her feelings etc.)
In either way, it’s better to find another guy who is 100% straight :)
I use to date this guy for a couple months before he broke up with me. I am still not over him and have a hard time moving on because he is constantly on my hall, since his friends are my hall mates. But my mom and I were talking last night about the fact that he may be gay. He always hangs around with girls. He may have a couple guy friends, but rarely does he talk or hang out with them alone. This is why he is always in my hall because he is always with girls all the time. And he is a genuine caring guy, so he is not trying to hang out with girls just so he can get a gf. He also likes watching Disney movies and singing along to the songs (which is more than me). And he says that he is homophobic and will never watch Brokeback Mountain. I was wondering if he is trying to cover up the fact that he potentially gay? And that he was dating me either as a cover up or because he is still unsure of his sexuality. I also know that his mother and grandparents were very excited that he had a gf when he mentioned me to him. I was his first serious gf, but I sort of wondering if he is potentially gay. What do you think? Thanks
To the person above me… I had a good friend that said he was homophobic also.. and alot of the same things you mentioned. I found out a few days later he was dating my best friend :/ It probably varies from person to person, but why don’t you just ask him?
Ash is right. The best thing to do is ask.
How about if you’ve known the person for a while and he has a girlfriend who is one of your friends.
You have a huge crush on him and you think he is giving you the eye.
How do you tell if it is more than that without it looking like you’re a total bitch trying to split them up – hell you can’t just go and ask him then.
(this coming from a gay man’s perspective here)
hi, i have a question. i think my best friend is gay. i’ve asked him many times, he says he isnt (known him 5 yrs). he takes more than an hour to get dressed, he is VERY feminine, honestly, the reasons i think he is gay is too enormous, plus his best friend is bi, and messes with him, telling him he fingered him while he was asleep and more (lol) and he allows it, he just says ew. but, it confuses me because he’s asked me to be his gf b4, he’s flirted with me, he sometimes acts like we’re dating, he’s even proposed to me b4 (we were playing) and he kissed me on the neck the same day and we were alone. yet, i tried to kiss him, he turned his cheek towards me. o and hes never had a gf, hes 18. and he makes up gf, and lies alot. he’s even made the mistake, twice in an hour, of saying “he’ in stead of “she”. for instance, “if i went out with a person, he…” then he quickly changed it to she.any ideas y he would flirt with me, and be gay? is he bi? if so why didnt he kiss me?
(and i doubt he’d ever use me to act like he’s straight, at least not in private (cuz thats stupid)
to Manny:
You friend sounds so gay, sweetie, one couldn’t sound any gayer!!! Seriously. He might be in denial, but I think you know he is gay…
Ok so I’ve known this guy for about 8 years. We used to date in undergrad and we both needed to grow up so it didn’t work out. But we always kept in touch flirting here and there. Recently he reached out to me and we talk a great deal since his last relationship failed. He told me it didn’t work b/c there were red flags: arguing disrespectful, blah blah. He told me that he doesn’t like to date a lot of women where he lives because he has a fairly high profile career and doesn’t want to be seen as a playboy. Now, I have a very close guy friend who came out after we left undergrad. He mentioned to me that he thinks the guy I want to get with may be gay. He said he never heard anything and never saw anything questionable years ago or now but he is suspicous. He said I should observe him closely and maybe just ask. I’m so confused because I’ve always had such a strong attraction to this guy. But I’m wondering if I should trust my friends instinct. What to do?
I think my boyfriend is gay! He has never had too many girl friends and has said that he feels like he is closer to girls like friend wise and as far as clothes and stuff he seems straight but he did say something about a near gay experince but said he didn’t do anything what should I think?
Catherine,
You definitely need more reasons than that to think your boyfriend is gay. Near gay experiences and being closer to the opposite sex friend wise is hardly enough reason. Most of us have had an almost gay experience I would think. And of course there’s the fact that he didn’t do anything about it…