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So I'm a straight girl. I know this guy, he's so gorgeous (think of Lucas Grabeel non-HSM) bright bue eyes, blond hair. He prefers to dress nicely. He cares about his hair, showers, gels it up and stuff. We played baseball one day and he changed shoes to play. What do I do?

How about if you've known the person for a while and he has a girlfriend who is one of your friends. You have a huge crush on him and you think he is giving you the eye. How do you tell if it is more than that without it looking like you're a total bitch trying to split them up - hell you can't just go and ask him then. (this coming from a gay man's perspective here)

Ok so I've known this guy for about 8 years. We used to date in undergrad and we both needed to grow up so it didn't work out. But we always kept in touch flirting here and there. Recently he reached out to me and we talk a great deal since his last relationship failed. He told me it didn't work b/c there were red flags: arguing disrespectful, blah blah. He told me that he doesn't like to date a lot of women where he lives because he has a fairly high profile career and doesn't want to be seen as a playboy. Now, I have a very close guy friend who came out after we left undergrad. He mentioned to me that he thinks the guy I want to get with may be gay. He said he never heard anything and never saw anything questionable years ago or now but he is suspicous. He said I should observe him closely and maybe just ask. I'm so confused because I've always had such a strong attraction to this guy. But I'm wondering if I should trust my friends instinct. What to do?

Seriously? Okay Im not talking about the comments before me, but about that supposed study at the top of the page? I really hope that no one actually believes that shit, and girls- if you think your man is gay, then number 1- understand that he's in a way more difficult place than you are, so while it may be painful to let go, try to be supportive. And 2- He's got a whole whack of crap going on in his life and probably thinks he's all alone and that the world is going to reject him. (Just remember, in most cases- he's actually right on that score) If you love him now, then that shouldn't change because he's gay. He's not lying to hurt you, he's doing it to protect himself from the hurt of no one being there for him.

hi shiela, im victoria, i was the one who asked you about a month ago about my boyfriend whom i think a gay.. its confirmed,he is or maybe bisexual. the thing is i opened his email which he did not know of course. i found out that he really is gay/bisexual. he had relationships with guys. what should i do? i love him soo much, i really dont know what to do.. i dont know if i can live without him please help me..

if someone would help me answer this question: if a girl has this guy friend and they say they are gay but he don't act gay at all and the all the guys he had been with it doesn't last long

okay so im dating this guy and he seems really feminine and i think he's gay but i really hope he's not because I really love him. He always texts me and says he misses me all the time. he only acts like a boyfriend when we are alone and he always holds my hand and we make out all the time. If we havent seen echother for a while then he always calls me to say he misses holding me and kissing me. He always calls me and says i love you when ever he can like any normal boyfriend but its just sometimes he could be feminine. Whenever I bring up gays he doesnt really care and he said its gross but its their lives so it doesnt matter to him. He isnt into sex because he said he wants to save that for marriage but would have sex with me already if we were married. but he loves to go shopping and is into ed hardy and hollister. he will re decorate his room every year and he now started to go tanning, He is obsessed with lady gaga and he claims he is her number one fan. People think he is gay too and he said he isnt. He usually notices small things though like haircuts and he is very opinionated on what people wear and do. He doesnt have many guy friends and most of his friends are girls. He can make his voice go high if he is telling a story about what a girl said. is he gay? or just has a feminine side?