Did you and a long-time or short-time boyfriend just recently called it quits? If you did – and you are a sucker for wallowing in self pity, here’s one word for you: Don’t!
You may feel like the end of the world if you and the supposed love of your life decided to call the whole thing off, but remember that there is still life after him.
Here’s our top 5 tips on how you can effectively get over him and overcome your oh-so-painful heartache:
5. Allow yourself to be on self-pity mode.
Eat your heart out or go on a photo retrospective of your good times together. Cry, scream, go all ‘drama queen-like’. Allowing yourself to wallow in self-pity is the first stage of the getting-over-him stage.
4. Get rid of all of his stuff.
Get rid of all of his stuff, as well as any item which will remind you of your time together as a couple. After drowning yourself in self-pity, the next step is to get rid of all of his stuff so that you can start moving on.
3. Be like Victoria Beckham.
Even if you’re going out for an ice cream – imagine that there’s a million paparazzi out o your trail who’ll take photos of what you’re wearing. This will give you that extra confidence and bounce on your step.
2. Treat yourself like a queen.
Go to a really expensive salon and get a hair treatment. Don’t snip off your locks, however. Just give your hair a hair makeover, do your nails, get a massage. Treat yourself like a queen and stop lounging at home wearing pajamas all the time!
1. Start going out again.
The only way that you can really get over a heartache is when you’ve already moved on. Start by going out again. Call your girlfriends and club-hop. Flirt with the cutest guy in the bar while looking like your usual hot self.
These tips should get you on the right track of getting over him and whatever heartache the bastard has caused! Lol…
Photo Credit: beautiful picture of Grace L
I have been in love with my exhusband for over 15 years, divorced 6. He had an affair and it tore me up. He saw the girl for 8 years,they broke up, she left him and is begging to come back after 6 months. Now he came back to me because I think he knows he could. It made me so happy that maybe there would be another chance. He started calling everyday, seeing him 3 x week, then 2 x week, then 1 x week and didn’t want sex anymore. Sex was never an issue with us. It was always good. He said he needed some space because he has never dated. I go to his church yesterday to only find what I expected. He had her(the new girl) there, which showed me this was more than he let on. He never took me to church recently. He told me that he didn’t think it would work between her and him because she had another boyfriend. but if she took the time to go to church with him then there’s more. He says he wants to be friends and that he will always love me. Is he being true or did I get used again? I feel awful, first; for being a fool to let him back to hurt me again. But I truely loved him. Then the lies he told in the mean time. He cried when I said I couldn’t see him anymore. then after about a month, he called to see how I was doing? Said he wanted to be friends, not his decision. I miss him so bad and the hurt is so deep like no other hurt I have experienced. He was my soul mate for 15 years, I wished he fathered my children. What can I do to get over him? I already put his pictures up, put his toothbrush up and I’m in a waiting mode to see if he feels he made a mistake. Not letting him know though. I don’t want him to think he has a big head and 2 women want him back. by the way this new girl is a doll. I can’t compete with her. What does she see in him, he’s not that good looking and is 14 years younger. HELP! S
..i really love him but i dont know if he does either..i dont want to lose him forever..but we are now in a cool-off stage..are there still possibilities that we can be together again?it’s all my fault..i made him jealous with other guy and also because of my childish act..i really love him so much..i realized that now after what had happened…please..advise me if what i gonna do..thanks..ill wait..
please help me…..
I’m still in love to the man i know i can never be mine anymore. He is my first love and a boyfriend 2 years ago yet until know even i already try a lot of new relationships still i cant get over with him.
he is already live in and he already have one child. Every time i try to show that i am strong enough i cant rid and vanished all those moments we have together i want to be with him forever.
what should i do
Vinelen,
It’s really sad that the relationship didn’t work out but two years later and he’s moved on and so should you. It just wasn’t meant to be and that honey is the sad ugly truth. Maybe you’re constantly comparing your newer boyfriends to him. And that’s why no one’s ever good enough for you. Just remember that each relationship is different. And every new man brings something wonderful in your life. So give the new guys a chance. Accept the fact that your ex is an ex and although you had a beautiful time together, it’s in the past and don’t let your past destroy your present. You deserve a happy life. All you have to do is give yourself the chance to experience it. :)