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I think there is a fine line with these things. I always have had issues with my mom but lately my dad has been taking control to a whole new level. It wouldn't bother me as much but I'm less than a month away from being eighteen and he gave me a 9 o clock curfew on a Friday night. I've never even had curfews before, I just know what is right and wrong. He also told me I'm not allowed to see my boyfriend of three years for two weeks. Not because we broke curfew, not cause he found out something bad about me, not because we were disrespectful, he just thinks I spend too much time with my bf and not enough with him. It sucks because I work on the farm for my dad, so he pays for a lot of my stuff and uses it Against me. Whenever I try to bring up getting another job he ignores me or makes up some lame excuse as to why I can't. It's getting bad. I can't talk to him about anything because he thinks he's always right and my thoughts and ideas are just stupid. I hopefully will be moving out this summer. The amount of stress my parents have caused me to live with is really difficult at times. It's hard to explain how manipulative they are, it doesn't sound as bad as it really is...
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Haha yes
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Look up Borderline Personality Disorder. "Maybe" it's because they have a psychological issue that needs attention. "Maybe" setting a child up for a lifetime of therapy is quite the opposite of caring.
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Maybe they just care? Maybe they just don't want you to make the same mistakes as them? Maybe they love you and want to protect you?
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Yeah parents should want their kids to have high expectations but when everything you do isn't good enough and it's a constant fight of why won't you accept me? Or why isn't anything i do good enough? You have enough of their behaviors. Sorry.
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If I sent this to my mom she would deny it and it would turn into an argument. I'm being controlled by her even after I got my own place she convinced me to move back in. I do everything she says still not good enough. & when my younger sister comes home from time to time she's 16 pregnant living with her fb comes home and my mom like chooses her side it's like either her or me I can't stand it. She took custody of my kids controlling everything and I want my life bak like this article said we are our own person. My grandpa that she lived with her whole life still controls her till this day.
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I'm 20 years old and my dad still does these things.
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this is my dad made over no joke I'm literally going to send this to him
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This article is so true
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Mother. . . Jks x
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This is both my Mom and Dad... Now don't get me wrong I think it's good for every parent to do most of these but sometimes it can be taken to the extreme...
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These sound like things my mum does too, but I suppose that it's only with our best interests. Although I do feel like if we as kids don't make mistakes then we will never really know why that's a mistake because we would just be told what to do and not to do.
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this article is true in some ways, my mum didn't do any of this stuff for me she just let me do what i want i was always the last thing she'd think of, especially when it came to men, when i had my first child i disowned her completely because i don't want the same for my child.
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This is an extremely negative article that only serves to undermine family.
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I have to agree with you ladies. I don't agree with most of this as well. Yes, us mothers should have boundaries. Specially after they have grown and it's more about their loves after we are done raising them. But... I am pretty strict with my children, controlling no. And my two grown boys have turned out pretty darn good, so I will stick with what I know. I feel as though most parents are lazy and more focused on wanting to be the child's friend. And then they have no idea why their children can succeed in the real world. Or why they are still loving with them at the age of 30. And why their children have no clue about working for what they have. Being a good parent is hard work.
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1, 2 and 3 I don't really agree with. Kids need boundaries and structure. They need someone like a parent to instill in them to have high expectation. It's all about moderation too bc too much can suffocate them as well. But I think the worse kind of parenting is lack of and letting your child do as they want say what they want. I'm sure we all have met kids even adults who could have used some parenting.
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Spot on.... Its almost like this article was written for me...
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I agree with you Splashhhh. Some of these I do not agree with.
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Some of them I just dont agree , every parent wants the best for thier children I would b worry if a parent doesnt actualy do some of this things