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When I started reading this, at first I thought it was a joke... but I think she's serious. The author clearly values the 'American dream' of living a narcissistic lifestyle - having a child does NOT cost a mercedes! LOL! And come on, if you haven't grown up by the time you're 20, you need to quit playing video games in your parents attic and get out of the house. I think the icing on the cake was the teaser, 7 ways to stop your kids from 'sabotaging' your morning! Ha! Just come out and say you hate kids instead of trying to turn everyone else off too!
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I say do what you want. My parents were 20 and had nothing established when I was born and we are just fine. I'm glad I was able to live through the journey with them as the established themselves.
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I agree with all these points. If you're in your 20's and have a good job to help pay for your house and car and you can live comfortably that's cool, you're the lucky one, I say that because not a lot of people in their 20's have that. I honestly think its better to wait to have kids when you're more wise an have more knowledge, and you have a career that can support you and can also support your family. If you're 20 and working at McDonald's it's not gonna cut it. Babies are expensive, they need diapers, wipes, clothes and medical attention if needed. I'm not saying all young parents are bad parents, because there's some parents out there that are in their 40's and are horrible parents. I'm just stating my opinion.
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Not everyone is into the party scene. I was 19 when I got married and had my first son. I'm now 20 and got another on the way. I don't feel anything has been given up. Sometimes these days there are to many excuses given not to have children young. I understand some want to have a career. I respect that. I guess it's up to the person themselves. But I get sick of hearing you'll miss out on partying. It's really not needed. Children don't cost that much money while they are young. It really comes in when they start school. If you party all weekend you'd most likely waste more money than what a mum would spend on her child in one week.
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Hi Avery! Not a lot of 21-year-olds have your kind of stability -- so congrats on that, and on having such a good head on your shoulders! These reasons are different for everyone, though, and just as the ones presented here may not hold true for you, yours may not be true for others. For instance, I've purposely waited to have children because I wanted to be more settled and to do everything I wanted to do with my partner first. It's different for everyone, so you just have to go with what works best for you!
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I don't understand what most of this has to do with age? I am 21 and Me and my fiancé own out own house and vehicle. He has a very good job that he landed straight out if college. I find I have more patience than even my mom who is only 45. I partied a lot in high school so that's out of my system. Plus who are you to say that once you become a parent you can no longer have fun. I think having kids in your twenties is more practical. Especially if you are already educated, have money, a house and car and a stable relationship.
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I actually see the point of that; if you wait to have children, you are more likely to end up having kids with the person you want to -- just because your relationship ends down the line doesn't mean that your former partner is a bad parent. I'm sorry you disagree with these points, but a lot of them weren't actually based on age. Thanks for sharing your opinion, though! :)
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Hi Chelle-jean, welcome to All Women Stalk! It's great that things worked out that way for you, but they won't work out that way for everyone; this post may still be helpful to people who aren't yet sure if they want to have children at the moment. My partner and I are waiting to have children for many of the reasons mentioned here, so I actually found them helpful. :)
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I agree with this, I love to travel and I'm so happy that I don't have to worry about kids. I can get up and go anywhere, do anything I want without saying "I can't because of my kid". Plus I'm still at a point in myself where I'm too selfish to have kids meaning I only have time to think and worry about myself (school, saving for my first house, etc.) I don't want to be pushed to grow up (and I'm 22) just because I'm pregnant, I want to grow up on my own. Plus I'm a nanny so I know how hard it is to raise a child so because of my job I'm definitely going to wait to have kids.
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"YOU WILL BE WITH THE RIGHT PERSON" that's nonsense. what does that have to do with age? how many couples get divorced after 20 years of marriage nowadays. basically i hardly agree with any of your points because age doesn't mean shit. it's about your mindset.
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I don't agree with any of those things, I had my son at 21 and haven't given up anything. We have our own home, our finances are good, we have our own business, we still get to have fun, and we still travel, just our son comes with us everywhere. All of those things are things we didn't have before he was born, having a baby just drove us to strive for those things.
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So true I so agree!
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I agree but what if it just happens and you have no control over it. That's happening a lot these days. I'm 19 and I have people I graduated with having kids and even in high school. I would never want that for myself but sometimes mistakes happen. Not saying a baby is a mistake but yeah. I think the perfect age is 23-25 for your first child.
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I got married at 23 and agree with the list. We travelled, bought a house and I got my dream before we had our first child 10 years later.
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Just mentioned the post on Twitter
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Finish everything u wnt to do for u then hv kids!!priorities change and it gts hard!...def degree/career!!:)
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I agree! Having a kid at 18 is tough, too early and probably not recommended but mid 20's early 30's is perfect. If u wait for late 30's and into your 40's when your kids go to college you'll look like their gramma and most likely give up on having kids. Plus- financially no one is ever ready for kids- you just have to go for it and it always works out.
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I'm 23 and have a 1 year old son.... I don't feel like I have had to give anything up, just do some things less! Your priorities change, I don't think age really affects that process though, it's just natural.
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I have always been told to have kids young so you can be young when they are older and when they have kids, you will be young also. My parents were 18 and 19 when I was born and I never wanted that for myself! I liked exploring and having fun, doing whatever I wanted whenever I wanted. I wasn't trying to have a baby when I got pregnant with my first child, but I was 25 and thought it was the right age. I hit a financial snag with the first one and now I'm pregnant with the second one at 30 and am closer to my goals. It is hard to manage everything with a child, but it's possible. I wouldn't recommend having kids at 35 and up due to increased risks of birth defects and Down syndrome.