gosh i wouldn't want to explain it here but i have to let it go and say it. i saw my crush the other day with his girlfriend holding hands! i was totally shocked and felt a strange sadness but really i had to write it somewhere. the thing is that i ve known him for months but we never really talked he lives a few blocks away and now can't get him out of my mind.
Okay, so I like this guy but I think he's dating one of my friends. They never do couple-y things but I'm pretty sure they are together... anyway, he texts me a lot and we can talk forever. Occasionally, I'll think he says something flirty, but he's not the kind of guy that would do that to his girlfriend. I almost think he likes me, but he has a girlfriend, and he's probably just being nice... what do I do? I really like him and I don't want to stop being friends with him...
I like this guy we've know each other for only 5ish weeks we stay up late like at 3 in the morning talking and then my friend told him at swimming that I like him and then he said he has a girlfriend and now stuff is really awkward between us and I can even say one word to him without freaking out I can only smile at him and I don't want to destroy his relationship cause his girlfriend is one of my close friends HELP ME PLEASE
hi I am 15 and I am in love with this guy we knew each other since I was 4 and he was 5 well now he got a new girl and but me and him still have strong feelings about each other
am in this same whole mess but then i thinkk it would have been for me to avoid him but kinda relieved hez travelling so i can use that period to get myself too
I like a guy who's my best friend, we stay up till one almost every night texting each other. I've recently grown a crush on him, but the catch is he has a girlfriend. (He is a high school Junior and she is a college freshman) He is one of the sweetest people I have ever met. I want to break him and his girlfriend up and don't at the same time because I know that would destroy him and our relationship, help?!
@SunShine Gurl, I feel you. The guy i like has a girlfriend and seems to only care about her and himself and hardly even pays attention to his own sister, who also happens to be my best friend. I'm never liking a guy again. I hate the overwhelming feelings and nervousness and the sadness you feel when you realize that he'll never like you as more than a friend. I'm giving up on boys. :/
@Madi, Wow my grammar is fantastic. Okay i meant "One Tuesday," not "On Tuesday" and when iw as with my grandma, we were at WalMart and he walked in to start working and I was like "OH MY GOSH ITS MATT HES HERE SFVSDJ VFJ SADFASJ." and then i died.
I'm in this situation and it sucks. So first off, I'm in 10th grade and he graduated a year ago, and he's my best friends brother. I shall call him "V." So, I realized that I had a crush on him this past summer during our church's VBS called Everest. So, we were both crew leaders and he was assigned the crew behind me. It was no big deal until I came to church the 3rd day with feelings I've never had towards anyone before and I felt so guilty because it's my best friends brother and it felt wrong to even feel this way towards anyone, let alone him. So, I tried to play it off and lied to her when she asked if I liked anyone. A few months later, I saw V again at a church event for the worship team and of course i was like "I think i love you" but i didn't say that. My sister kept teasing me and the next morning his sister said he'd left early for his Walmart job, I immediately knew where i could find him when he didn't show up at church. Well, on Tuesday while chillin' with my fantastic Grandma, I saw him come in to start working and i swear every bone in my body jumped for joy, but then i panicked and didn't even talk to him. I was on cloud nine for a while until his sister, or my best friend, told me about his girlfriend, and I just died. All of my feelings and hopes and heart just keeled over and died, and ever since then I've felt so defeated and sad and i hate feeling this way. Can anyone help me? I don't know what to do, this is my first crush that i have ever, EVER had and i feel like my heart runs a 12k every time I see him or his sister talks about him, Not to mention the overwhelming guilt i occasionally get from crushing on my best friends brother, even though she knows now. :/
I have a crush on a boy in my 7th period but he has a girl friend and i know he has a small liking to me but when i sang he laughed at me then he was all buddie buddie with me a little bit he watch me lose at checkers and this boy slapped me and i didn't like it so he stood up for me and so now i need help im in middle school
I started Middle school this year on the 24th, and I have a crush on a guy in my homeroom, and I always thought he was single. We always talk and tell each other jokes. I'm a bit taller than him, which is kinda awkward, but it's fine. I then went on instagram and went through my feed and I saw a photo of him posted by my friend and I saw it was tagged and followed it to his insta. I found his insta and followed him, but then saw that he has a 15-16 year old girlfriend. I was dissapointed, and still am, and now I don't know what to do? He likes bmx, and so does she, they hang out a lot, I can tell by the photos, and I just feel awkward now.. I don't know what to do. Of course I didn't know him last year, because where I am there are 2 elementary schools that both go to the same middle school in the county, because there is only 1 middle school, and he went to the other one. I feel like I'm right in the middle of friend zone and girlfriend zone, because he talks to me alot, we text eachother, and he kinda flirts with me, but I don't want to seperate the two and have people hate me, I am just so overwhelmed! DX
i like this guy and he liked me but i dont know how to act with him having a girlfriend i mean i feel so heart broken because he wanted to get back together with me because we broke up but we couldnt because i had a boyfriend and now he got a girlfriend i just feel so heart broken if u want to help me just go to my email mariag98@comcast.net
so I like a guy who just started going to my school, since he was new i had no clue if he had a girl friend. so since I saw him sitting by him self so I jumped on the chance to tell him. I walked over to him and sat next to him and asked him if there was a girl that liked him (me) if he would want to know and he is like well I already have a gf. so to be nice to the girl I dont want to know who she is. I said ok. I sat there longer stupid me so all his friends came and talk to me to ask who the girl was. since it was me I never told any one but my bestie... What would you do if you where in my shoes? Please help!
but the thing is that the guy is dealing a girl and i dont know the girl is and ive liked this guys for almost a yearand that now he knows i like him i dont even know that if he likes me ebcause im scared what he would say because people change but because he cant remember me and i want to meet him i dont know because he is going out with someone else and knows i like him and cant remember me please someone help shall i forgive or move on or shall i wait because i cant srop loving him and if it is the case then i really dont know what to do
@Knylah, I was at a part last night for graduation and my bestfriend told me the guy ive talked to everyday and was texting at that moment (really like him) that he has a gf. I had to stay at that party for 6 hours after that and almost died
My friends just keep on teasing me wif my crush. But my crush hates me. His friends told me that he likes this gurl but i dont know who is she. So how do i overcome this problem?
okay so i need some advice i met this guy and hes so cute and sweet and we started talking and he told me he had a girl when we started talking he said he rather tell me then lie thats hes stright up about it now he said do you still want to talk and becuase of how much i liked him i continued he says him and his girl are always arguing and i seen it for my own eyes he alwasy ft sleep with me and calls me baby and stuff like that and we see each other week should i stay or leave? he tell me that theres days hes with her to not text him baby and of course it hurts becuase i like him and he says he likes me advice any one?
i dont think i can move on he just grabs my attention idk why. he's perfect i want him idk if he really has a gf or not but he acts real shy around me what can i do????
i like this guy and i know for sure he liked me and i knew cuz he told me but the thing is he also liked another girl it was one of the girls that act popular. anyway some days he says he likes and he told my friend that but couple days after he ask the other girl he liked out and some ppl knew i liked him but i just played it cool.
For some reason I like one of my closest friend's boyfriend, I am quite close to him and we talk a lot. I don't want to fall out with my friend over this, she has this joke that we like each other but I'm not sure if it's a joke or she actually thinks that. I would never want to get involved in their relationship but I have strong feelings for him.
@riya, well,i think you're right.It's not a nice thing to do.To disturb someone or make them broke up.I suggest u should wait until the split up and then make your move.
@jodie00, i think you should tell him what u feel. Let him know you're interested.Maybe that will change his mind and broke up with the other girl if he doesnt like her or playing with her.
2 years ago,i met a guy.we should call him J. he was really in love with me and he was the most lovely guy i have ever met.however,i really like him too but another guy came into my life and i had to choose one of them. Unfortunately i made the wrong decision..I broke up with the other guy and J is now with another girl.But i'm pretty sure that he still likes me because we were together in a school trip and he was next to me all the time.We were playing ''fighting'' u know what i mean and we were laughing and we slept in the same room at the hotel.He was always asking me if i was okay and he seemed really nervous and confused. Seriously i dont know what to do.He had a fight with his girlfriend the day after our school trip *his gf was not with us* and i dont know. I really do like him..but i dont know what i'm supposed to do.. help pleasee
I've liked this guy for a month now and he like me too (well thats what he said) i found out he has a girlfriend he denying it, i've befriend her, he told me that she's not his girlfriend and she's a psycho and he's telling her that he doesnt like me im just some annoying girl. but he always goes back to her even thou he lying to her and cheating on her but i cant get him outter my head :( i didnt stop talking to me i just choose to not call or text him, but im getting the urge to :( what should i do??
I have a major crush on this one guy(we can call him B) B's girlfriend is one of my close friends but they NEVER talk or hangout. Me and him ALWAYS talk and hangout after school. Idk if hes still interested in her.. As i said, he has a girlfriend but you know, he always kind of flirts with me. im so confused HELP
Hey Heather I really like this guy who flirts with me one moment then the next moment he will ignore me. He has a girlfriend but there not really serious since we're only 13. I need some advice on how to get my mind off him because he doesn't always treat me nicely. What should I do? Thanks :)
Hey, first off i like to say that my crush is with this girl called Alice. also i can tell he loves her. but i have been also jotting down the fact that he is giving me love hearts and kisses in texts.when i'm trying to be friendly and trying not to get in the way of things.
I really don't know what to do because it looks like to me that he has maybe a thing for me aswell as alice. Do you have any advice on what to do? it will be helpful
I just decided to try not to have crush on guys anymore. It never goes the way I want it to, the guy either thinks I am weird, or I am in the friend zone.
i liked this boy for ages but my mate met him and snoged him infront of me then went out with her the next day and i really want him to go out with me not her because dont really like him i do
Thanks for the tip, I find it really helpful, and from experiencing past crushes, I realise that avoiding them and being hostile will only hurt my feelings, so currently I am keeping my distant, but remain friendly but short greet and walk away.
What if he makes it a point to constantly talk about "his girl" not really saying anything about her. Just so everyone can hear he has a "girl"... What does that mean
@Ayeesha what if you brought it up in conversation and asked him about it? Nothing to pushy but just let him know where you're coming from and I'm sure he'll understand
Hi everyone, so I met this guy about a few weeks ago and we started talking, it was flirting at first and then he invited me out a couple of times where he bar tends, I only just realized I liked him when I saw another girl flirting with him and I got jealous, we hooked up once but now I'm scared he might have a girlfriend even though he's never mentioned it, and I don't want to be that girl because I've been in that situation so many times where they don't tell me and I find out then I get hurt, someone help please
So I really really like this guy and I've been talking to him since the beginning of August. We had a thing going for almost 2 months but nothing came of it because we live an hour away and had never officially met in person but talked everyday and have seen each other. He had feelings for me and me for him. Then one day he said there was a girl living near him that he may like too and that was the end of September. We still talked and still had feelings for each other and then about 2 weeks ago now he informally told me he was dating this girl but he still likes me and wants me in his life. He referred to me as "that girl I'm just going to have to wait to have" we still talk about 4-5 times a week and I still have feelings for him and he claims he still has feelings for me. We are finally getting to hang out in a week and I don't know what to do and how to handle the whole situation. Any suggestions? And do you think there is any chance of me getting him back?
Sorry I meant \"I\'m not sure HOW he feels now cause I\'ve been avoiding him like a plague and he doesn\'t know\". I don\'t want him to know I\'m avoiding him cause I don\'t want him to feel bad. I have a feeling might know but I\'m hoping he doesn\'t.
Hi Heather, I\'ve like this guy for almost two years now. He has a girlfriend and they\'ve been together for many years. About 12 years I think. She\'s my friend as well. Unfortunately when I started liking him, I didn\'t know they were together. If I had known I wldn\'t have let my feelings grow. I\'ve done everything possible to get over him including avoiding him. I\'ve liked him for 2 yrs now. I\'m a point where my feelings for him are beginning to make me sick. It\'s just too much for me. I\'m trying so hard to get rid of them but I can\'t. I don\'t know if it\'s because he liked me too. I\'m not sure if how he feels now cause I\'ve been avoiding him like a plague but he doesn\'t know(at least I hope he doesn\'t know). I\'m not sure if it\'s because I nurtured my feelings for him and really allowed them grow which I\'ve never done before. Also, he\'s the only guy I\'ve ever liked that has actually seemed to like me back. But he has a gf. And I don\'t want to come in btw them even though I know I cld probably lure him away if I tried. But I don\'t want to. What do I do about this feelings? They are making me really sick:(
Denise
That really sucks, Annie. I guess he doesn't feel the same way about you. I'm not sure what you should do. Do you want to tell your girl best friend about your feelings for the guy?
My crush also happens to be my best guy friend and he knows how I feel about him but he likes one of our mutual friends who's my girl best friend. We were all hanging out and I left to go to the bathroom and when I came back they were kissing. It hurt a lot and he doesn't seem to care about that but I don't know what to do because they're my best friends.
I have a crush on this guy. We were close and he told me not to let my feelings get involved because he wasn't ready for a relationship. We were great but of course I let my feelings in and it ruined our friendship. It sucks and I miss him a lot. He unfortunately has a girlfriend that asked him out when he was drunk and who broke up with her boyfriend two weeks before. I know they were dating for a week and then only to hear couple weeks later that they're official. I still care about him. I want us to be ok again. I don't know what to do.
Heather
Hi Iggy! I would say that if he has a girlfriend, I'd back off. You don't ever want to be that girl. :(
I'm going through a complicated situation myself. My crush has a girlfriend but she doesn't care about him at all. My crush told me that I was his best friend and we chat all the time. Someone told him that I liked him and when he told me about it I chickened out and told him I didn't. He called me mean and I joked that he wanted me to like him. He answered with maybe then when I said what he quickly tried to take it back. What does this mean? Please help! Does he like me or is it just false hope? His gf and him broke up before, but they just got back together.
I've know this guy for years we've dated and it ended on good terms. However yesterday he broke my heart again by saying he has a girlfriend. Not once has he mentioned her and we talked about marriage, kids etc so why now? why did he say he's in a relationship and he's really happy that she brings another aspect to his life. I'm seriously heartbroken and wasn't expecting that
Mm, I would maybe back off and see what happens! :)
Roxanne
According to my friends, I make it really obvious that I like him, and he's not been talking much to me lately... is that bad? Does he find me creepy or hate me now :I ?
Roxanne
*** I now know how it feels like.. He's new to my school but around the beginning of the year he "accidentally" asked his long friend out, and now they are really a couple. I have all classes with him and we talk so much, but I can't get over him. He seems to notice me a lot and smile and laugh whenever i do.. we don't really text or IM because I don't have facebook..but do you think i should confess to him? He seems like he'll take it okay, but I really don't want to ruin their relationship either,, but I'm also going to be in a different school next year. Plz help, Heather :(
Heather
Hi Allie! I know that it's hard, but I think that you need to move on. He likes the girl, that's all that is important.
Allie
I am a Freshman in High School. I have had a crush on this guy that was in my class last semester. He has a new girlfriend, and I do not like her and think he should be with me instead. I just can't get over him. I don't know what to do. Can you please help me??? My email is allie.fleenor@gmail.com
Molly
Just imagine you guys together someday in the future and remember relationships (especially when you're young) don't always work out. Also what helps me get over my crush is to find someone that I like better and actually gives me the time of day... I can still like my crush but sometimes that just helps me get over it. My crush has a girlfriend right now, and she's older than us which kind of makes her a lot better than me. :P
Heather
Honestly? You probably can't stop it. It sucks, but I'd say you are better off moving onto someone that likes you for you.
Florence
Hi Heather! How do i deal if my crush has a crush on my bestfriend
Heather
Aww! I definitely do! :) Thank you for the feedback and for reading!
Thank you so much for the advise. I really appreciate it. Thanks for always responding to everyone who leaves a comment. It means a lot to know that you care about your readers. :D
Heather
Hi Lexx! Have you tried to talk to him about it? To be honest, I'd say that you should flirt with him, show her up and really shine and shimmer in front of him. That'll make him want you instead of her!
I have a crush on this guy but he is showing interest in me and another girl. The girl has a boyfriend but every time he stops showing interest she leads him on. I don't know what to do. Please help
Heather
Hi Libby! Just because they aren't couple-y doesn't mean that they aren't a couple. I would say that you should back off a bit on him, because he is with someone. You don't want to be that girl.
Libby
Hey Heather, I'm in a similar situation. I'm a freshmen in college, and I've spoken to my crush a couple of times, and unfortunately we don't have any classes together, but I see him around campus everywhere. Right after I decided to not like him anymore. I don't know if I believe in coincidences, but do you think I could approach him if I do see him randomly? He does have a girlfriend, but I've seen them interact and they're not that "couple-y."
Heather
Hi Beth! It sounds like he likes you ... but if he has a girlfriend, even if he never says anything about her, you've got to move on. You can't flirt and be with someone if they have a girlfriend -- especially if she goes to another school. I'd say that you should have a conversation with him and tell him that -- if he wants to keep up his flirting, he can't have a girlfriend.
And its weird causr now I'm feiends with his ex gf and we never met previously... and the strange thing is shes okay with me dating him and he's okay wih me being friends with her.
I went through this. I liked this guy who had a gf and we were so close , hed tell me everything and even problems with his gf. He later broke up with her cause they didn't have feelings for eachother anymore... now were happily bf/gf after a year and a half... I think its safe to say I love him <3 GIRLS NEVER LET GO OF YOUR CRUSHES... YOULL NEVER KNOW :)
Beth
Hey Heather! Um the boy i like really flirts with me, then i found out he has a girlfriend that goes to another school. He winks, checks me out and he hugged me. we talk like we are going out on facebook, loads of kisses!.I dont know if he likes me. I thibk he knows i like him. He nevr says about his girlfriend to any of his friends and has never said he loves her. I tried to avoid him and not even smile at him because i know.im going to get hurt. But he couldnt stop looking at me. I really like him. Do you have any suggestions on what i could do?
Heather
I'm so sorry Maddy! That is really hard to deal with.