Hi there! I'm currently going to a college an hour away from my boyfriend while he goes to community college. We agreed to stay with each other, and I have no interest in meeting guys- but I wanna be active in my school. I'm just curious if this is possible to maintain a relationship not so far away?
Heather
That's so awesome Jazzmin! I bet that it will work out for you. :) Let us know how it goes!
I think the most important thing to know is that everyone is different. I'm leaving for college in a week, and my boyfriend and I are going to try the long distance thing out. We're both in it to win it, and it something happens and it doesn't work out, at least we tried.
April
@Kayla, Helllooo, yes I do understand the Single life style as well, sometimes you just have to go your own way in life! Although, thank you for the advice(: This topic gives me alot to think about!
April
@Heather, Hey Heather! Thank you for the help :) It is a very personal decision I have to make, Id like to take some time to think about it and talk more. I just want it to be best for my boyfriend and I. Time will tell! But thanks for the advice!
Heather
Hey Kayla! Thanks for the comment! I do think that people should try to work their relationship out and find what fits them best. If it was best for you and your ex boyfriend to split, that is absolutely your decision and I'm so glad that it worked out for you. Maybe April is a bit different and she would like to keep her relationship going. :) It all depends on what works for her and her boyfriend. I do think that long distance relationships can work out, but that is a very personal choice and it is up to April to decide what works best for her.
Kayla
@Heather, Heather, I don't think you know enough about April and her boyfriend to say that they "should DEFINITELY keep the relationship going." My high school boyfriend and I had been together for over a year and a half and were very much in love with each other the summer prior to going to college. Despite that, we talked about it a lot and Andrew and I decided that it would be better for us both to go our separate ways in college. I was sad to see him go but within 3 weeks I was relieved that I had. There is NOTHING wrong with being single and it can open you up to a world of possibilities. Andrew and I considered getting back together but I realized that we were happier without each other and I never would have know that if I hadn't tried. Sometimes being "really into one another" isn't enough.
April
Well my guy is leaving for college in a week or two, that is four hours away! We started dating and we have strong feelings for eachother, and we both trust eachother :) Its going to hurt to see him go!! So much!! Any Advice??
Heather
Hello Kayla! I don't think that most long distance relationships don't work, in fact, I'm living proof. My girlfriend and I were long distance for two years and we've been together for six total now. It is a very, very personal decision and one that the girl herself should make. If she wants to go to the same college as her boyfriend, that is her choice, the article isn't exactly promoting the girl to choose her boyfriend over education, it is more dealing with ways to deal with going to college and juggling your boyfriend. ;) Thanks for the comment though!
Kayla
This article is potentially very damaging. The majority of long distance relationships don't work and that is a very very personal decision. And the idea that anyone is encouraging teenage girls to choose their college based on a high school boyfriend is disgusting to me. My advice: choose whats best for you and your future and if its 'meant to be' then you'll figure it out.