-
So I just started secondary/middle school. So far everything is okay, and I have an amazing group of trustworthy friends that even though I have known for only a month, I feel like they are very loyal. Thankfully, me and my best friend are closer than ever even though we dont go to the same school anymore. The problem is: I feel like I'm a replacement friend. Sometimes when I'm bored I leave my circle of friends for a while and go talk to some people that I usually talk to in class. Problem is: they're always with their friends and seem to (perhaps unintentionally) ignore me. Today I was talking to a friend Georgia whom I talk to in class and then her good friends came and joined us as we walked home. Georgia then began talking to her friends the whole way and they walked in the close-knit line on the pavement and every time I tried to walk side by side, I'd (assuming it was accidental) get pushed to the back. So I basically walked behind them and tried my best to fit in, but stopped my efforts soon enough because I didn't want them to think I was stalking them - not to mention my crush was in the group too! Fortunately, my good friends (we're close enough that we talk outside of school and during break but not necessarily the closest of friends) were a few metres behind Georgia and her friends so I walked with them instead, until their friends caught up and I began feeling excluded again. So I dont wanna be that friend who people go to when their friends aren't around, but how do I stop people from using me as a temporary replacement?
-
I think my best friend is getting a new best friend and I'm slowly dying inside. There are no other friends or even acquaintances that I have. She brought my through drama with another group that I left. We were inseperable during 8-10 but now in junior year she's becoming best friends with someone else and kind of try to avoid me. She used to ask me to go everywhere with her like oh I need to go to the restroom, Nancy will you come with me? But now it's always [insert new best friend's name] come with me and I get left there sitting like a lump. I can still tell she wants to care but she doesn't tell me anything anymore even though I told her about it. My school is super small and I've basically been in all the cliques and left for one reason or another. Next year is senior year and I do not want to feel alone as a senior. There will be a bunch of events and stuff and I do not wanna spend my senior year without a friend. Help please.
-
#2
-
i did have best friend. he left me cuz i'm gay and listen to gay music.
-
Hi, i need advice. I have a close friend chloe in fact she is like a sister to me know. We've known eachother for nearly 2yrs now. We are attached to the hip, do everything together everyone at school knows that. From inside jokes to eye contact and gestures we can communicate and laugh during lessons. We have our own Tuesdays & Thursdays lunch days after school we have KFC or any fast food. Lately i have been feeling left out she has been hanging out with one of our friends sara whom i don't trust because she is two faced and i've known her for years and just talk to her because we share the same circle of friends. sara has been organising lunch days with my close friend along with another friend christina. We had plans one day but my close friend chloe was asked on the same day for lunch i refused to tag along because i didn't want to stop her from going so i told her to forget the plans and go for the lunch. I was hurt lately the 3 girls have been planning get togethers. Being our senior year of high school i and my close friend chloe have been planning to move to a different state for university and the friend snatcher sara is moving back to korea. Sara is self centred and chloe is really nice and sees good in people i feel sara will distract her then she might not get into university by then she must have left to korea. And I feel jealous and left out but i dont want to harrass them. I prefer to go to the library and study than see them chatting during lunch. Pls what do i do ?
-
Hi, i need advice. I have a close friend chloe in fact she is like a sister to me know. We've known eachother for nearly 2yrs now. We are attached to the hip, do everything together everyone at school knows that. From inside jokes to eye contact and gestures we can communicate and laugh during lessons. We have our own Tuesdays & Thursdays lunch days after school we have KFC or any fast food. Lately i have been feeling left out she has been hanging out with one of our friends sara whom i don't trust because she is two faced and i've known her for years and just talk to her because we share the same circle of friends. sara has been organising lunch days with my close friend along with another friend christina. We had plans one day but my close friend chloe was asked on the same day for lunch i refused to tag along because i didn't want to stop her from going so i told her to forget the plans and go for the lunch. I was hurt lately the 3 girls have been planning get togethers. Being our senior year of high school i and my close friend chloe have been planning to move to a different state for university and the friend snatcher sara is moving back to korea. Sara is self centred and chloe is really nice and sees good in people i feel sara will distract her then she might not get into university by then she must have left to korea. And I feel jealous and left out but i dont want to harrass them. I prefer to go to the library and study than see them chatting during lunch. Pls what do i do ?
-
Hi, everyone! I've got a problem with person I called friend once. In the beginning everything seemed to be ok, we had a good time together, but slowly with time she said more and more offensive things (I thought she didn't even notice them). But then came situation when I really needed her help - and she said she didn't want to bother herself with that, and she went to hang out with others. I was very angry with her, but after a while I tried to talk with her, she said that nothing of that had happened. Then I started to find new friends, but she attacked me that I had left her, that I had been mean to her. But she had never said that she wanted to change something in our relationship. I just got a feeling that she wanted to blame me for any problem she had :(. Don't know how to deal with this girl onward? Could you please help me?
-
.. I have screwed thing up so bad, I didn't tell her something kinda big because I was scared to and I thought that she would get mad butt after she found out we haven't been the same since, I'm so darn scared I'm going to to lose her... I'm trying everything and I know that I have hurt her and im hurting to because I hurt her and I don't know what to do someone help please
-
heyy so I've been sick these pass 2 days and i haven't been at school, we like sord of made a plan to see a movie together a while back. I brought it up and she said ok but then i asked again saying maybe before the movie we can get food and go shopping. Then when texted her that she's like idk and then I'm like well its april. After that i was like "Do you just don't want to go with ME?" Please help i don't know what to do she's a good friend but i always do war she wants to do. And sometimes i just want to tell her that i don't want to be friends with her but I've told her things no one else knows and i don't want her to spread them. Another thing is that she's been hanging out with others more then me please help me!!
-
Who needs friends. All you need is one or two. Too many friends causes drama & chaos . Between 1-3 friends you know is real. It's not how many friends you have , it's friends that support, love, cherish and are trustworthy to you.
-
Okay I feel like I'm losing my friend too. Half of the things listed go with my friend and I. We have been close all middle school , and it's been 3 years since. We were the closest of friends, always hanging out, always texting and telling each other secrets and countless rants, what any other pair of best friends would do. Beginning this year, she has been becoming closer with two other girls. I was never really close to the two other girls, but I could cope when they were around. Now it seems my best friend is always with them. They're always spending time together on holidays, always having parties together, always texting each other. Since they have becoming closer, I have been talking to my best friend less, hanging out with her less and less, and I just don't feel as important. I feel like she's slowly but surely inching away from me and more toward the other two girls.
-
Check this link to know if you have the best friend forever. http://mcaf.ee/0coh7
-
My friend has a new BFF and she always invites herself over and if I am talking to my friend she always buts in, I am loosening my best friend what do I do
-
she wasn't a really goo friend. before. because she didnt cared enough. but i feel like its better if i just leave her. im gonna make new friends anyway.
-
i'm leaving.my school. but the think is i cant leave my bestfriend. i just dont ant to choose any one of them. im really confused. if i leave the school no one will be talkin to her. or sitting with her. cause im the only one thats really close to her. but at the same time i wanna go to a new school. cause its much way better than the school. im in now. its really a tough decision to choose. please tell me what todo
-
I''M
-
Amanda, also, I definetly had that. (we were just like sisters, until she bullied me)!!
-
Amanda, I am an eight year old typing this. I know what it feels like. She calls me really rude words. Then, a couple weeks later, a new girl called Kadi, she helped me. By making me be friends with her. Even though I have been through a rough time, I still try to do my best. Because, I knew my ex-friend, since I was two months old. And, even though I am eight and she is nine, I must say, people say that I'm more intelligent and sensible - counting as mature. I know more than she'll ever know, probably. Also, Natalie, my friend likes to block me out and also whisper really rude things about me, and I tell my teacher, but she don't do anything about it. Also, back to Amanda, my ex-friend, drives me crazy. - especially how she talks to me. Today, (14/02/14,/ she wanted to play with me at break, but, I said 'no', because if I did, I knew that I have better friends and that she would get jealous because I have Kadi, but I said no and now, I know now to stand up to myself. Thanks for reading, peeps. Also, bad weather!! :( But, nobody is perfect, also. Remember that people who are reading. Also, like if the same thing is happening to you, or you have your birthday on the 23rd April!! Or, just like it, anyway.
-
My best friend and I get in fights all the time and we always get over it! She drives me crazy sometimes but I can't help but be jealous when she hangs out with other people and we talked about it she said she feels the same but there is a person she has been hanging out with and talking to ever since we got in a fight a while ago and we go by nicknames like bestie and apparently now her new friend is her bestie which makes me feel horrible so I told her how I feel and she said she feels the same but I don't hang out with other people anyway he point is we don't have the connection we used to especially since she got a boyfriend who I happen to like and he asked me out first but I said no because she likes him so next thing I know he's dating her and my life is one big soap opra and I don't know what to do :(
-
My best friend who I have been friends with since the beginning of middle school is suddenly ignoring me. Over the summer, she joined the "gaming community" and made a whole bunch of friends online. This school year, we talked and laughed until about a month ago. She started ignoring me, and was always on her phone. She goes on twitter all the time to talk with her so called "bffs" which she kiks and sky pets with all the time. Now at lunch since we sit together, I try to talk to her and all I get is a simple shrug or a "shut up!" And continues on her phone. We talked about going to see this new movie that's coming out this month back when we were talking, and I have brought it up but she just ignores me. When we are waiting for the bell to ring, I walk up to her but she walks away or sits in a corner. I don't know what to do! I tried to ask what's wrong but she just shrugs and continues to text her gaming community friends and I feel ignored. I have other friends, but I don't want to lose her.
-
Hey Annie. The three of you really need to have a heart-to-heart talk. If you don't like someone, stop pretending that you do. Tell the person the truth or just stop hanging out with him/her. You won't solve anything by keeping all these things to yourself. It doesn't help your friendship, and it doesn't help Ashleigh grow.
-
Thanks Denise. :)
-
Hi Jorjj. You really should talk with your best friend. Like you said, she doesn't seem to think that it bothers you when she goes off with another girl. It's one thing (a perfectly fine thing) to make new friends, it's another thing to neglect the ones you currently have.
-
Hi Sharanya. It's normal for people to want to expand their social circles. That's probably what's going on with your friend now. It's highly possible that she doesn't know that you feel ignored or neglected. Have you tried being the first one to reach out to her? Maybe even tell her how you feel. Oh, and since you can't stop her from hanging out with other people, you should probably think of doing the same thing yourself. Do fun things with people who have similar interests and hobbies, and expand your social circle. Who knows, you might even make new good friends!
-
My best friend doesn't like hanging out with me anymore because she found some other people who are Also my friends. But I just feel ignored all the time. And she doesn't even call me. Wat should I do? 😢
-
I don't particulary want to put their names so I'll put Ashleigh and Hannah :) i have 2 bff but only one I truly like... No-one likes Ashleigh at all I no its mean but u have not met her... She noes i dont like her and she hates me she is spietfull cant stand me playing with hannah she trys to put me out of the picture when me and Hannah are standing beside eatchother she pushes in beside her or when i sit beside her ashleigh has to sit on her own (ha,sorry):( ...she turns round goes: hannahhh:( again... On my own. But the thing is hannah tells everytone ! And me... That she hates/ and doesnt like ashliegh one bit but yet... She hangs and talks and plays etc.. With her and like.. I kinda just want rid of her and then they sat together in science and i got so jealous, and i fuss so much about little things ... A tear... Yes i tear! ...ran down my cheak and omw... I have a thing for writing masive para's im sorry, please read this and tell me.. what should i do:'(
-
My best friend goes off with this other girl, she doesn't think it bothers me but it does, then the girl who goes off with my BFF starts posting pictures of themselves on instagram and then leaving a comment like "best friends forever until the very day we die" what should I do
-
Hi Ciara! Did you try to talk to him? It might be a good idea! :)
-
Hi Ciara. That's just horrible. If she acts that way, then she isn't really a BFF, is she? You should talk to her about her behavior and how it hurts you. If she continues to act that way, then you should think about cutting her out of your life. There shouldn't be room for toxic people in your life.
-
@Heather Jensen, what do i do
-
i have 2 bff one hates me she is spietfull cant stand me playing with niamh she trys to put me out of the pitcthuer when me and niamh are standing beside eatchother she pushes in beside her what should i do
-
Hi Chloe! That happened to me with my BFF when I was younger. Have you tried to talk to your BFF about it? Let her know how you feel?
-
my friend Kylee she has a boyfriend and she like pretents im not there but i still want to be her BFF
-
Hey Lily, So sorry to hear that hun! I know how you feel because I've been there but my best friend somehow forgave me and I'm so grateful for him! I guess the only thing you can do is apologize from the bottom of your heart and start over. Obviously, you can't expect her to treat you like nothing happened but things will get better over time. Be persistent (without being annoying) and show her that you mean your sorry. I hope this helps!
-
Hi everyone! So me and this girl have been friends for 2 years, and while that may not seem like a long time, we've done everything together and we have so much in common. So last year, I got so annoyed with everything she did, and we would fight CONSTANTLY. I was so so mean to her, and I was reading over some previous chats, and I was SO MEAN. Like reading the things I said to her, I was actually tearing up..and I've changed a lot recently but I've hurt her beyond belief and she doesn't think it's a good idea to be best friends anymore. When she told me that, I literally felt a physical pain in my chest...weird. But anyway, I can't imagine life without her, and I seriously regret everything that I've ever done to her. I just want to show her I'm sorry and how much I've changed...I can't believe I lost her :( Thanks for taking the time to read..
-
Hi Sharmaine! Have you tried to talk to any of your friends? Communication is always key and can always make things better. :)
-
Hey guys, I just want to , you know share what am i going through-- well here's the situation we are 3 b.f.f's and this past days i have notice that they are being more close and guess; avoiding me, but i think my 2nd b.f.f wants the attention of my 1st b.f.f only to her and not including me as their b.f.f anymore; their even sharing secrets without sharing it to me; and mostly spent time together w/o me-- i can't deny that I'm getting jealous of those attentions,, girls I need help!-- what am i gonna do? ;(
-
Hi Jayme! I agree! There are times that you need to just be there for someone.
-
well you might be the only friend she has and if you ignore her it might really hurt her and make her feel lonely
-
Aww! I am so sorry that is happening to you! It's hard when you lose your BFF.
-
i can relate to this. im currently going through it. so confused
-
Aww Anon! I'm so sorry about that! It is so hard to deal with that.
-
Me and my ex best friend fought over something ridiculous - Alcohol. At the age of fourteen we went underage drinking, one of our friends got drunk and sent to hospital after splitting her head open. My ex best friend's parents found out and told her not to go near me again, because I asked a man to buy us the vodka. She hasn't spoken to me since nor have I spoken to her. When she does talk to me, she only throws offensive words at me. That's life!
-
Aww Crystelle! I am so sorry that, that happened to you. Have she returned or accepted the apology?
-
no. 5 is painful for me, i cried for a month for her. i even apologised even i dunno if i did something just to get back her & maintain our friendship :(
-
Hi there Amanda. It's great to see you on AWS! It's possible that your friend is going through something right now. It seems like she's not ready to talk to you about it, so you just have to let her be for now. I know it hurts, but if you push the subject, you might push her further away. Be sure to let her know that you are there for her whenever she's ready to open up. Remind her of your presence without forcing her to communicate with you. After a while, it will be clearer if she wants to stay friends or not. But you should just cross that bridge when you get there.
-
So my best friend, she's like my sister, doesn't really talk to me anymore. I just moved about 4 hours away for college and she is still at home. Whenever we talk/text she gives me vague answers, if any at all. I asked her what was going on the other day and she got kind of mad and said its to be expected that we don't talk a lot anymore. But when she went away from college we still talked all the time, i understand that we aren't going to talk as much as we used to, but all these vague one word answers seem like a little much.
-
Hey Confused, if she really wants to be your friend, she will -- if not, don't worry, you'll be able to find someone that is worth it!
-
Well, can you maybe write her a note? Or even make her a CD or something with a bunch of songs that remind you of her? Songs can be a great way to express feelings.
-
I want to tell her how i feel because we have signs 5-1 and i dont like feeling awkward and mean like that but i dont want her new bff wich was my old bff to find out or be mean and i just have no idea why she stopped talking and answering my messages. Any help on how to ask her why?
-
@Heather Jensen, Well im not really the type of person that can just walk up to her and tell her even though i want to i mean i still want to be friends with her even if we cant be best friends but indont know how to tell her or what to say
-
Hey Confused, have you talked to her about it?
-
Hi i have the signs 5-1 with my used to be best friend
-
Hi so my bff welll maybe ex bff is ignoring me scince we started 6th grade well actully a few days after we graduated from 5th grade she stopped answering my messages and stuff and now she hangs out with her i guess new bff and i have been ignoring her too because she has changed big time. She has gotten very girly and mean and just acting like a popular girl in the movies but she aint popular she has like 5 friends so i have been ignoring her because of that. I have started to hangout with (who i feel is a great new bff even though i dont know if we are) my old friend a lot and she agrees that my ex bff has changed but she still thinks of her as a friend a little which doesnt bother me ... Too much but i have no idea what to do . I wish she well uhm i really am confused help.
-
Yeah! You can do that Mark. It might be hard, but I'd say that it can be done. :)
-
Is it impossible to sit together with your other friends and your current best friend???,,, introduce her to your friends to let them know who is your best friend...
-
hi,, if you feel that you are ignoring your other friends, that is not a good act.. But it is not too late to make a good action,,. Invite your best friend to be a friend of your other friends,, did you get it??,, If she don't want to know your other friends, then make him/her realize that a TRUE BEST FRIEND is someone who accept your life and the people around it..
-
@Sheila Joseph, thanks so much you are right. Thats what im thinking. I have never heard her voice and i met her by accident. She said we would and i trust her I just want to lol i met her last august, and august 23rd ive known her a year we became close in January
-
Hey Jeremy, Give her some space. Believe it or not, there actually are some people who don't like talking on the phone and that doesn't mean you aren't close or anything. Give her some space and time and you'll be okay :) Thanks for stopping by.
-
My best friend is a girl she is 6 years younger than me. we where really close still are. but she said she doesnt know when we can talk on the phone. its still weird to her. But day in and day out we text. she always responds.....i dont understand why she doesnt want to hear my voice. But texts left and right......where close i asked her why does it feel sometimes when i want to be close, she doesnt and she doesnt answer the tough close questions she said "cause i dont want to be close i put people at distance for a reason. people try to tear walls down and she puts more up i am not doing anything wrong but i shouldnt expect her to suddenly answer everything. what am i doing wrong? weve been close friends 9 months known each other a year. what do you when she says she wants to talk on the phone but doesnt know when? patience?
-
Hi sweetie. Welcome to All Women Stalk! I'm sorry that you have to deal with depression. It can be so hard sometimes... well, most of the time, as I'm sure you're fully aware. Anyway, does your best friend know about what you're going through? People are awful in the sense that they judge you without even knowing your story. Maybe that's what's happening here. Now about her commenting on your drumming and your friend's bass playing -- I don't know the whole scenario (like her tone of voice, what prompted her to give her opinion, etc.) so I can't really say what's going on. Maybe she was just being honest with you? Some of my friends are in bands and I try to give them constructive criticism when they ask for my opinion. If she was being mean just for the heck of it, then that's a different story. I guess the best thing for you to do is to talk to her about the way she's making you feel.
-
My friend Jane and I have been best friends for 3 years but this past month she has been really mean. She says how come you never smile your so dull. I have depression and she knows I get moody a lot. I invited her to my band's rehearsal and she said that my drumming beat was off and that my frien johns bass was terrible. Those are just two examples what should I do? I don't want to hurt her feelings but she makes me feel bad about myself. Please help! :((((((
-
Hey Mary T, You have to understand that you can't force someone to be friends with you. I know you miss her but the more you try to force your friendship on her, the further you're going to push her. just give her some space and do your own thing for a while. When she sees you're fine on your own, she will come around. If not, just accept it as something that wasn't meant to be.Not all friends are meant to last forever and that's fine. Hang in there hun!
-
I have been Best Friends with this girl since Kindergarten we are so close like my family is her family and her family is mine that's how close! Well we hung out a lot even with other freinds but we are the closest. There is this girl named Chelsea and all of a sudden she spend half of her summer with her i went to Oregon for a coulpe weeks no texts or calls from her but when i get back she only comes over for the gift I got her. When Chelsea left she called text left post on her facebook wall! I cry a lot and i am always thinking about it any advice pleasse! ps i try to hang out with her we have fun but her answer has been I dont know?
-
I'd say the biggest thing is to keep in touch. Once you lose touch, then you miss important details in your BFF's life. Just talk all of the time and it'll almost be like you are there!
-
How can I stay friends with my best friend if I'm moving?
-
Sweetie, If you post a Facebook status about it, she's only going to get more power and you'll come across as needy. Give her some space and hang out with your other friends. Once she realizes that she's not as important to you as she thought she was, she'll come back. And if she doesn't, it's not meant to be. Thanks for stopping by AWS!
-
so.. my best friend said she had two best friends and I was one of them. I have known her since kindergarten and now she is practically leaving me to hangout with her other "best friend" She does everything with her. What should I do? I was thinking about posting a Facebook status but, idk what to put! HELP!!
-
@Sheila, Well she still talks to me on Facebook and at school. but she doesn't sit with me at lunch anymore or give me hugs after school is over . so i don't know if I'm losing her completely
-
Hey MAddie, I know you're hurting right now sweetie but believe me, you will get over it. Losing friends is a part of life. Just remember that if it's meant to work out, it will and you haven't done anything wrong so you have nothing to feel bad about. The good news is making new friends is part of life too and when it's time you will meet someone else who deserves the title of "best friend". Thank you for stopping by!
-
ive lost my bestfriend completely because of other bitchy girls. i used to have a best friend who did everything with me, from tesco shopping to even going to rhodes together then a girl got in the way just a few months agao. this girl started spreading stuff about me and getting my bestfriend to believe her and act like everything was me. 3 months ago my 'bestfriend' got a boyfriend and did 'stuff' with him. again the girl spread shit about me and got my bestfriend against me, massively this time. she hasn't been the same since. i need to find new best friends and other 'proper' mates, but its so hard.:( please help!
-
HI PPL I AM JUST LOOKING AT YOUR PROBLEMS AND IF THE BEST FRIEND OF YOURS IS CHANGING MAYBE THATS TIME YOU SHOULD START FIGHTING FOR HER BWOII YOU SHOULD ALWAYS BE HER BEST FRIEND ACTUALLY IF U R DAT TIGHT U AINT BEST FRIENDS YOUR SISTERS INIT =)
-
Hi sweetie, Sorry to hear about your friend. All I can say is if she cared enough, she would still be around. Maybe you deserve better. Hang in there and thank you for visiting All Women Stalk!
-
What do you do if your best friend was taken away by another friend of yours?
-
Hi sweetie and welcome to AWS! I know how it feels to lose a best friend to other people. I've experienced that a couple of times as well but as you grow older you realize that if she really was your best friend, she would have never let you go. Sometimes, people just grow apart and there's nothing you can do except let them walk away. I know it's hard to make new friends but that's just part of life and you will find someone even more wonderful to call a best friend. Thanks for reading!
-
I've had this best friend for a couple of years now and we used to spend every second of every day together and then a couple weeks ago she started hanging out with other people and leaving me out of everything. I try to talk to her and all I get is a cool, ok, or a yeah. Yesterday I went to the mall with my family and I saw her and 3 other friends I told my mom and she asked me if there was anything that I had done to them to just leave me out like that and I told her that I had been there for my friends a lot and then they go and leave me out. One of those girls is new and my best friend basically replaced me with the new girl. I've made some new friends but they are just not those good friends that I can really trust yet. Please help.
-
Haha ya, that's probually what I will end up doing, either that or just the spa thing... It doesn't really matter thought, I mean it's just a b day party
-
Hi sweetie. Welcome to All Women Stalk! Why don't you just have a fun night with all your 9 girl friends? It would probably be more fun; it would also be cheaper.
-
i have a best friend 2 since 3 years but she is sort of now rude 2 me....we have awkward situations when no1 of us speaks.well i have done some mistakes in the past but now everything is all right.the only thing is she doesn't talk 2 me much,hang out with me or just be with me!!what to do??bcoz i have really wanted her 2 be close 2 me!
-
Hi again, So i am turning 13 soon and I am having a Birthday Party! I don't know who to invite though! So I was thinking that I would have 3 girls go to the spa with me and get mani/pedies and then get a facial. (out of the three girls it does not include the girl I was talking about last time) Or, I would have 9 girls (does include that girl) that would go out to dinner and watch a movie at home and get picked up the next day. Or I might be able to do both! First I would have the 9 girls, then once everyone has left, the 3 girls and I would go to the spa! The only thing is, is that I don't want my other friend(s) to feel left out if they find out....
-
Hi there. Maybe you can use this opportunity to make new friends or to become closer to people you already know.
-
Also who should I sit next to at lunch now?
-
Thank you for responding! I will try that today but I'm still a little uneasy about what she is going to say or do...but thank you anyways for your advice!
-
Hi there. Thanks for joining us on All Women Stalk! Your best friend must feel like you're excluding her from your life. If you're really friends, then why would you even think that you are getting too clingy? Well, I would understand if it's because your relationship is one-sided? Are you always giving and she's always taking? If there's a problem in your relationship, then you should talk to her about it. If you want something to change, tell her so that she's not left wondering what's going on.
-
My friend and I have been been “best friends’ for about 2 years now. I sort of feel like, being in 7th grade, that I need to hang out with some other people too. I was eating lunch with some other girls because I felt like my other friend and I were getting too clingy like last year. She came up to me balling the other day because she wants a bff and i want more friends. I don’t know what to do!! I am still trying to hang out with other girls but I dont want to hurt her feelings…please help!
-
Wow, you need to be honest with her. Tell her that you need your space to do your own thing once in a while and that just because you two are close, doesn't mean you can't have other friends. Try being nice and if she still doesn't get the point, you may have to be curt.
-
So I have a friend who is trying to hang out with me 24/7. I love her, and we always had a good time together, but now I feel like I'm ignoring all my other good friends. This happened last year and she was trying to "steal" me from my other friends. I don't know, yesterday I sat with the other girls at lunch again and she came up to me after BALLING! She was saying that she wants me as her bff and I want more friends that are good to me. I really don't know what to do!! I am skipping lunch today for a 'lesson' so I don't have to sit with anyone today....but please help and tell me what's the best thing to do!!
-
I'm so happy to hear that. And you are most welcome. I hope that your mothers work things out so that everyone can be friends again.
-
I tried what you recommended and know my friend and I are better, we let the things aside because we both realized it had nothing to do with us :) Thank you very much!!
-
Hi love. Welcome to All Women Stalk! I hope I'm not oversimplifying your problem by saying that this all boils down to miscommunication and misunderstanding. Just because your mothers are being argumentative and negative doesn't mean that you and your friend have to stop talking. I'm not advocating disobedience, but in this case, I think that they've blown the whole thing out of proportion. I think this can all be fixed by honest communication. If you and your best friend want to have a longer friendship, maybe you should figure out a way to get your parents to talk.
-
Okay my problem! My best friend and I have been best friends since 6th grade and we are now in 11th, technically been friends since 05-11. Anyways couple Saturdays ago, she wanted me to go to her house and I couldn't and I told her the reasons why. She got really mad because lately my mom has not been letting me hang out with her but she has her reasons that I understand. So I guess she told her mom and her mom out of nowhere thought that my mother had something against them. She called my mom enraged thinking that and my mom was kind of shocked because it was unexpected. Now my mom doesn't want me to hang out with them because they think that way. Ever since the call things have been tense between me and my best friend and her mom. I always see her at school and I always say HI but it's more of an awkward conversation. I have a boyfriend and sometimes she is rude to him but just for fun. So last Friday I saw her mom after school and I greeted her all nice and cheery without problem. My best friend just came out and said, okay guys, things are really awkward so can we all talk. I felt like I had nothing to say but her mom thought otherwise. She went about how she gets pissed that I don't reply to her messages or that I don't call her back when she calls and that she loves me as a daughter just as much as she loves her own. She also added, which had nothing to do with our problem, that I need to balance my time with my friends and my boyfriend. I was with a shocked face like "when did my boyfriend get into all this?". I was fine with everything but I kept quiet. Then they asked if I had anything to say and I said no... Couple minutes later with the awkward silence I told them that my mother doesn't want me hanging out with my best friend because of what happened, just for a while. That lit the fire on everything and they were ALL pretty mad, Mother and daughter. So now ever since that little commotion, I haven't talked to her. I feel like our friendship has gone down the drain. It gets me VERY sad because she was the only one I could really truly go to. I have other friends, but I always stood with her by my side. My mom says don't worry about it because things like this happen to everyone. :\ What do I do?
-
Hi there, I find it baffling that you ask if you should apologize. Shouldn't she be the one apologizing? I know that you miss her but you have to understand that she's not the same person anymore, not right now anyway. You need to move on and you need to find better friends, because I promise you they are out there. Please don't go apologizing for something that you didn't even know. If she ever realizes what she's done and comes back, then you can think about giving her a second chance. Otherwise, stay away. Thank you for stopping by. And remember, things will get better :)
-
I had a bestfriend that i have known since kindergarten. She was totally amazing, and i didn't think she would change on me, but she did. Middle of 8th grade she started avoiding me, she had new friends, and many guys in her life to even fit me in her spare time. It hurt, especially because i needed her there for me. Our conversations changed, big time. We used to talk about everything, after she had new people in her life, she barely wrote a sentence. Anyways, in May my boyfriend and i broke up. I acted like it didn't bother me, but deep down it did. He tried getting me back, but i told him to let it go and to find someone else, blah blah blah. He did. He actually went for my bestfriend, he knew that would bother me, but i didn't think she would let him get to her, but i guess she did. I told her i didn't care. later, she started lying to me. I heard all the shit she's done with him through other people. She didn't even bother telling me, and when i confronted her, she denied it all. I over heard her talking to one of her friends, telling them what happened with him and her, it totally killed. When school was over they stopped talking, so there was nothing special going on between them. I haven't talked to her in 5 months. I miss her more than anything. I cry mostly every night. I don't know if i should continue life without her or apologize for what i did wrong, and hopefully things could go back to being almost as they used to be?
-
Yay! I'm happy for you =) Glad we could help!
-
Thanks! We went on a double date and she actually started to talk less about her bf after that. We hang out a lot now and everything is back to normal. Thanks for the advice, it really helped!
-
Hi Alison, I'm not sure if this is her first boyfriend and even if it's not, you have to understand that especially with a new relationship, people tend to forget a little about their friends and give more attention to their boyfriends/girlfriends. I'm not saying it's right but it happens. I know I'm guilty of doing it. I know many friends who are. I do not think your friendship is lost. But you do need to tell her (nicely) that you are SO happy for her and that you love being the one she shares these details with but that you miss her and that sometimes you just want it to be about the two of you. Ask her if she'd be okay with setting aside a day every week where the two of you can be just friends hanging out. No boy talk allowed. Also, I'd suggest that you spend more time with your other friends so that it doesn't annoy you as much. Don't give up on your friendship just yet :)
-
Hi. Here's my problem. Hope you can help! You see, last year we did everything together. Literally. But this summer we had a huge fight and I got really mad at her. This year I'm still a little edgy with being her friend. We made up but she seems different. She only talks about her bf and makes me do things for her. I figured out he liked her, told her, got them dating, (since she doesn't have a phone) i txted him wut she said and told her wut he said, when he lost his cell my friend thought that he was avoiding her at school too, and I got him to call her, and now she is blabbing about him calling her. I don't know how I feel about it. I'm getting really annoyed though. And on skype she is blabbing away and then thinks im in a cranky mood or I have a headache cuz i'm not SUPER exxcited. Should I be? SHould I just be supporting her adn ACTING liek I care? She doesn't seem to notice I have my own problems to deal with. She doesn't even notice I'm upset a lot of the time. Is our friendship already lost?
-
Hi Amanda, Maybe you're just feeling that way because you're out of town. I think you should just relax and concentrate on enjoying your vacation. I'm sure things will be back to normal, once you're back! Thanks for visiting All Women Stalk :)
-
Hey..Im not sure if I ma over reacting or not. THis new australian girl came to our school mid year. my best friend and i were close all year and it wasnt really a problem. like i mean she didnt get betweeen us but now that its summer things have changed. because im outta town, shes CONSTANTLY hanging out with her. she doesnt even really want to take time to skype me or vchat me cuz she spending time with her. I just got on vchat with her like 5 minutes ago, i have been trying for like 3 weeks and it never happened, and she was vchattting with me and the australian girl was at her house. She doesnt even realy want to make time for me anymore, or so it seems. She is going to the mall with her tomorrow...again..and they are going on a double date! She NVR offered to do that with me...i dont know what to do...i feel like im losing her, she slipping through my fingers and i feel helpless. please help!
-
Hi Diamond. Welcome to All Women Stalk! I'm sorry that you're going through something like this. But there are times when someone feels like they can no longer be friends with you. Things change and these changes can't always be explained. But if you want, you can try to talk to your friend so she can explain what's going on. I know you want to stay best friends forever. But if she feels like she needs to be friends with other people, then you need to respect that.