No matter how many times you’ve been hurt before or have experienced emotional pains caused by the person you love, the existing pain that you feel is as painful as it was.
You often wonder why despite of the fact that you have been in that situation several times before, the intensity of the pain stays the same still.
So, why do we feel pain when our hearts are broken?
According to a recent UCLA study, psychological pain of a break-up is just as real as physical pain or injury.
Two areas of the brain that responds to physical pain also become active when a person is dealing with social pain, such as being dumped.
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Researchers used an MRI to monitor brain activity in participants while they played a game simulating a social rejection. Authors of the study believed that the fear and pain of being rejected motivated humans to seek out social interaction which is very important for the survival in most mammals.
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How do i know if the one im with still loves me? But yet hides things from me, i need help in this relationship i dont know what to do =(
Hey Nora,
What kind of things does he hide from you?? Honestly hun, the only way to find out is to sit him down and talk to him. Tell him whats bothering you. And if he lies to you, you’ll know. It’s better to get it off your chest than to keep wondering and breaking your head over it. Good luck with that. Confrontation can never be easy but you’ve gotta do what you’ve gotta do…
Well like he never really tells me what hes up too like he always says im going to a friends house never says the persons name.He hangs out with alot of ppl and never wants me to meet them i think thats fishy, he always says there to far to dive to. But yea lately i have been talking to him alot more and asking qustions i belive i need to know instead of not asking him what i need to know. so know he does sum times tells me where hes going. but i really dont like wen he says you dont have to know everything. We have been toghther for almost 2yrs now.there should be trust more than anything.
Nora,
Honestly, I think your bf is right when he says you don’t need to know everything because space is extremely important in a relationship but when those doubts spring up in your head, you need to let it out. At the same time dont overwhelm him with your questions. Wishing you loads of luck with that :)
OK i understand what ur saying but wen i dont know everything sumthing bad happines like last year he went to a consert and told me he went with a guy friend and then 2 days later i saw him in a pic with is ex gf and thats who he took to the concert.There was no one els but her and him at an all day all night concert.thats why i dont trust him but im still with him bc i love him,and i try to look past it but the pain from what he did to me is still there.
Well Nora, I see why you don’t trust him now. He lied to you about something that mattered and that’s so terrible. Has he showed any regret or made any attempts to change? Don’t let him take you for granted.
well yes he fealt bad but told me it was a last min thing so he took her bc his friend could not go but deep down i dont think that was it. When he knows he does sumthing wrong and feels bad about it he trys to cover it up with being mad but i really know hes upset with him self.but he has made pogress,and i did for give him for it so i try not to think about it but its sooo hard not to.And yes i do feel he has made a change and i do know he loves me im just scared that sum day he might want her back is all, but for the most part we doing ok
Well I don’t know how you live with that fear constantly but as long as you have decided to give him a second chance, give it your all. Just make sure it’s worth it you know. Good luck sweetheart :)
i will and thank you very much with ur help =) hope u have a good weekend =)
The pain of not being able to trust the one you love is by far the worst pain I have ever experienced.
and to Nora, a relationship with no trust, isn’t one at all.
If this guy is hiding things from you, you should get out while you can.
People don’t often change,and if he isn’t will to change for the girl he “loves”…he will never change.
Leanne,
You’re absolutely right. Trust is the single most important thing to make any relationship work and without that I really do not see how the relationship will survive.
I understand all that you are saying i truly do,but i do love him with all my heart and from the way things are going i belive we will be ok, thanx for all your help =)
Well, good luck to you Nora. I really hope your boyfriend realizes what a wonderful woman he’s with… :)