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Fighting words: names we call ourselves and each other

by Annie Dennison on 21/05/07 at 10:11pm
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"Because we know that BITCH means: Being In Total Control, Honey!" (Heartless-Bitches.com)

"I'm tough, ambitious, and I know what I want. If that makes me a bitch, OK." (Madonna)

"I found my inner bitch and ran with her." (Courtney Love)

Listening to and reading the words of women, you can't help but notice how some of us aren't fighting words like "bitch" anymore - as a matter of fact, we're embracing it.

My good friend Lisa (of LisaBindaCity.com) not only refers ...

Stiletto relationships (the ones that hurt so good)

by Annie Dennison on 18/05/07 at 9:26pm
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"Hurt so good.
Come on baby, make it hurt so good.
Sometimes love don't feel like it should.

You make it...hurt so good."

(John Cougar Mellencamp lyrics)

In a Stiletto Relationship, what you feel is an addicting mix of love, lust, and pain.

Although you know on some level that "the mix" is toxic - and making you feel crazy - it's incredibly hard to get that person, and the relationship, out of your system.

Why is that?

One of my favorite ...

Male depression: can you spot it?

by Annie Dennison on 15/05/07 at 4:39am
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While it's true that women and men can have the same standard symptoms of clinical depression (check them out here), apparently a lot of men have a different experience of The Big D than we do.

Because of that, when they get depressed, we might not spot it.

Whereas women (who are diagnosed with depression at twice the rateof men) can walk into a gynecologist's office, complaining of things like chronic sadness, self-criticism, and crying, and get a ...

When a man does a vanishing act

by Annie Dennison on 9/05/07 at 2:01am
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One moment he's a part of your life.

As a matter of fact, whether it's the early stages of dating, or the beginning of a relationship, things between you seem to be going along rather nicely.

Anyway...that's what you think.

The next moment - presto chango - he's GONE! No more contact. No explanation.

Now that he's disappeared, your private hell has just begun. Trying to figure out what went wrong. Questioning your perception of what you two shared. ...

You can handle it

by Annie Dennison on 5/05/07 at 6:22pm
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When it comes to handling life's big and little situations, you probably have quite a few skills that you don't think twice about.

For instance, I can climb a tall ladder to paint high ceilings, help somebody who's seriously injured without feeling faint, and know from previous job training how to do a single leg or double leg takedown on a crazed person.

But I cannot change a tire.

Last week, while waiting for the AAA ...

The ideal man for you: naughty, nice, or naughty and nice

by Annie Dennison on 2/05/07 at 6:36am
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Women complain that men are self-serving bastards.

Men complain that women treat nice guys with contempt.

Something doesn’t add up here, wouldn’t you agree?

Here are some popular theories for these dueling perceptions:

the complaining "nice guys" don’t understand the difference between "being nice" and "being a human doormat"

women say they want one thing (i.e., to be treated nicely), but they want something else (i.e., to be treated badly)

men just think that they’re being nice to women, but in reality, they’re still being self-serving bastards (SSBs)

the complaining women are spoiled princesses who expect unrealistic things from men and from love

Meanwhile, men are proclaiming right-and-left that it doesn’t pay to be nice (e.g., kind, considerate, goodhearted, etc.) to women. What does pay, however, is being an SSB.

Put another way, as the theory goes, a man who consistently does things his way - putting his own wants and needs first - will attract women like crazy.

I wholeheartedly agree. A man who does all that bad boy stuff can attract women like crazy, provided, of course, that he’s got something else to offer in the sex appeal department.

The problem is that the women he attracts and is able to hold on to are likely to be one of the following:

as convinced as he is that being self-serving is the only way to survive in relationships

willing to be martyred in love (because they have a low opinion of men and/or a low opinion of themselves)

Whereas women who basically have their act together, and who have qualities of niceness themselves, may tolerate bad treatment for a while - but not forever. They don’t get a charge out of being mistreated or neglected by a man they love. And that’s why, with a man who’s all naughty and very little nice, they usually try to CHANGE him so that he’ll be nicer to them.

As many of us know, that approach doesn’t work out so well.

Better to pick a man in the first place who’s an optimal blend of naughty and nice, right?

Now, when I use the word, "nice," I don’t just mean that he’s capable of making minor charming choices, like showing up with flowers after a fight.

I mean being "Nice" - with a capital "N" - like a decent human being with a heart would be.

And when I say "naughty," well, that covers a lot of wonderfully wicked, fun ways of being that a man can have. But it doesn’t include any behavior that is disrespectful, calloused, or hurtful.

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Describe how you personally think a man can be wicked, fun, have an interesting edge - or whatever you call it - and nonetheless qualify for the "Naughty and Nice" category.

Also, what percentage of a man do you like to be naughty, and what percentage of him do you want to be nice?