We’ve come along way when it comes to sex, and we’ve come an even longer way when it comes to anal sex. Gone are the days of thinking that anal sex was something that only homosexuals do; nowadays, 25% of heterosexual couples engage in anal sex on a regular basis.
And while some of you may cringe at the mere thought of letting a penis into your butt, if you gave it an open-hearted chance, you may find that you enjoy it more than you imagine.
And despite what you might have heard or read, anal sex is not dangerous if done right, and it should never cause pain. If it does, either you’re not ready or your man is simply not patient enough to move in slowly.
If you’re still hesitant about giving in to your man’s fantasy of having anal sex with you, perhaps my shedding some light on why he wants it will help.
1. It gives us a sense of power …
Although it sounds very territorial, the fact that we control the situation and lay on top of you is very empowering. As well, you put your sexual satisfaction (or perhaps, lack thereof) in our hands, entrusting us with your pleasure sense.
Men love the idea of entering you from behind and relish in the thought of sparking all those anal nerve endings and giving you the ultimate climax. And if you enjoy it and reach orgasm because of it, we really do want to sit up and beat our chests with pride.
2. You trust us …
The fact that you’re letting us into a part of yourself that requires the utmost trust gives us a really fantastic feeling within. And no, it’s not just a sexual one.
If you’re nervous about anal sex and you agree to try it with us, it makes us feel like a million bucks; our woman is putting all her trust into the fact that we will be caring and loving and not rip her anus in two. It means the world to us.
3. It’s something new …
While vaginal sex is simply fantastic, to say the least, at some point, everything becomes the norm. So when the topic of anal sex arises, you can bet that our radar perks up a bit and we become giddy about the prospect of something sexy and new.
Like having sex with a new woman or engaging in a threesome , anal sex represents a part of all the crazy things we’d like to one day do in bed. And if you enjoy it half as much as we do, well it makes it that much sweeter.
I can think of another 10 reasons like….they’ve watched to much porn, they want to experience other holes more tight and so on :). I thought I never get to see a post about anal sex on this blog:)) what a surprise
I would rather show my man I love him by being the kind of companion that I would look for. Also, anal sex is a great way to get AIDS!!!!
I think it’s a homosexual desire ….most men, except gays, cringe at the thought of anal sex alot of prisoners experience. So, think twice girls. I also don’t think this is the kind of blog that should be on this site…
It’s very enlightening to know these reasons when you have questions to ask your boyfriend or husband when they ask you if you would like to have anal sex. It is a very intimate experience and now your man knows every inch of your body. Its nice to know how a man feels when his woman trust him to have anal sex. I actually think this post was done very tastefully
Ewwwwwwwwwww. That`s all i got to say.
To the above posters, you are self-centered and totally wrong.
I’ve got news for you Sandra, unprotected sex with a person who is HIV positive is the way to get AIDS, whether it is anal sex or vaginal sex the result is the same.
“Anal sex is a great way to get AIDS”
hahahahahaha.
Looks like someone is from the bible belt!
alright lets go.
Tavia, you said you had 10 reasons, you gave 1 (too much porn) and then said another reason that was part of the main article so congrats. Fact is, it is very primal, gives the guy a sense of total domination (satisfies the inner alpha male), and all the other reasons listed are valid.
Sandra, thats great an all, but you can get aids from unprotected oral, vaginal or anal. So yeah, if you run around giving random bj’s and letting strange guys put it unprotected in your bum, then it is a great way to get aids. However, if you use protection like most people do in 1st world countries, or unprotected with someone you are in love with and you both have been tested, you’ll be just fine.
Mary, i am assuming you are a middle aged woman with pent up sexual frustration (most likely due to religion). (no offense at all, just a wild guess considering the way you digested the article). Anal sex isn’t a homosexual desire. And the type of anal sex between a man and a woman isn’t going to be the same type as 2 guys locked up in jail for life. It can be just as passionate.
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Enny, don’t knock it til you try it.
Matt, high five.
You know what, I am just fine with BJs and vaginal sex, maybe a tit f***k to spice things up. I don’t get anal sex, my dick and crap shall never mix.
Ummm…yeah I’m not so much into the idea of anal and I consider myself one of the most open minded people around. Why would you want to shove your penis into the place that crap comes from? My butt is a one – way door only thank ya very much!
If you haven’t been doing it already, you should probably know that it is very ideal to wear PROTECTION to avoid certain STDs. Anal OR oral. So Sandra, try investing on condoms…
And believe me, not ALL heterosexual men are afraid of anal. Mary, the only reason they would be afraid of anal is if somebody performed it on them. They are lying if they say they wouldn’t want to try anal on their girl because it’s “icky” or reminds them of prison.
Thank you for posting this blog with class and respect to the female body. Your lack of vulgarity was appreciated. To the commenters who find the blog “gross”, the male writer could have been alot more explicit with his choice of words. I appreciate the level of respect you have extended to women in your attempt to “enlighten” us on the thought process of the male species.
It was nice to finally understand why my husband and probably thousands of other men have this facination with anal sex. I don’t agree with the posters who claim that because a man desires anal sex he has honosexual tendencies. That is the most ridiculous thing I’ve heard in a while. Let me tell you this much, I am married to a man who is 100% alpha male and I am certain that he has no desire to be with another man because he wants to share a different type of intimacy with me.
I finally “get it”, and I understand now that it means more to my partner and why.
I ask that the “haters” of this post, open your minds, loose the disgust that you associate with this act, it can be a beautiful and loving thing between partners. And the writer is correct, it should never hurt. I think if you are in a relationship and you think about the reasons it means so much to your man, you might just find yourself smiling that he would want to share anal sex with YOU. I think some of us are forgetting that there are situations and women that a man would cringe at the thought of having this type of sex with. Consider it an honor that he would think so highly of you that he is willing to go that route with you. (No pun intended)
I just wanted to comment to “Sandra’s” post….just an FYI…YOU CANNOT GET AIDS FROM HAVING ANAL SEX UNLESS YOUR PARTNER HAS AIDS AND YOU COULD CONTRACT IT FROM HER ANYWAY! BUT JUST BY HAVING ANAL SEX, IS NOT A WAY TO CONTRACT THIS DISEASE!
I know many heterosexual men who enjoy anal sex. It’s not a “homosexual” desire; there are many homosexual men who would love to have vaginal sex too. While it’s easier to get HIV from anal sex, if you do it correctly, you just as much of a chance to get it as from vaginal sex. Just because any of you think of it negatively doesn’t mean men who do are working some secret angle. Grow up! lol
MY HUSBAND AN I HAVE EXPERIENCED ANAL SEX, AND ITS VERY GRATIFYING. LADIES IT DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOUR HUSBAND IS GAY. I HAVE NEVER THOUGH ABOUT HIM BEING. TRUST IS THE ISSUE HERE, IF YOU TRUST YOUR GUY, MAKE IT CLEAR TO HIM TO STOP IF IT HURTS, GO SLOWLY AND USE LOTS OF LUBE, (NOT SPIT GUYS THATS JUST GROSS)NOT HARD THRUSTING. I SELL RLATIONSHIP ENHANCEMENTS, ALONG WIT WONDERFUL LINE OF LUBRICANTS. IFHE IS ON TOP, USE A BULLET VIBRATOR TO STIMULATE YOUR CLITORIS AND THEN SEE HOW MANY TIMES YOU GO BACK TO ANAL SEX. WITH YUR PERMISSION NICK I WOULD LIKE SHARE THIS INFO WIT MY CUSTOMERS AT MY BEDROOM TOY PARTIES. THANKS FOR THE CLARIFCATION
Are you freakin kidding??? Thats totally disgusting! your A-hole was never meant to have something stuck up in there and as a biology major there are NO anal nerve endings just a sphinxter muscle that would not naturally enjoy an object being thrusted up in there! YUCK!
Steph – being a biology major doesn’t make you doctor. I guess the people who experience pain in the cases of hard bowel movements, hemorrhoids, or other genital diseases are imagining it. And I suppose your text skipped the part that explains that your brain sends voluntary and involuntary messages to your muscles, including the SPHINCTER, using nerve cells.
I’m not a huge advocate for anal sex, but if you people are going to argue against it, at least use more logical and intelligent arguments. I mean, that whole AIDS thing is so 1982. Really??? And it doesn’t necessarily make you a homosexual if you have a desire to enter through the back door. Done properly it can be pleasurable for both the man and woman involved. For the guys, I’m guessing, the tighter you can get it without hurting yourselves, the more pleasurable sex will be. Ladies, how exciting might it be if, after just growing accustomed to the way you normally do things, your partner found a new way to stimulate an old ‘habit’? If you’re fortunate to experience it with a man who can work it, especially if you incorporate clitoral or vaginal stimulation, your climax would probably reach new heights. Like I said, I’m not advocating for this alternate sexual experience. I’m just sayin…
I guess I just don’t trust my man that much.
I’ve never tried it but my boyfriend has been after me for sometime to do it and since I’m not a virgin I decided to let him on the honeymoon and not before that way he really will have something to look forward to on our wedding night.