We all make mistakes and as a result, we all find it necessary from time to time to extend an apology. Sometimes it can be difficult to find the perfect words to express how truly sorry we are. There are many ways to make a heartfelt apology other than simply saying “I’m sorry.” Here are 7 ways to say “I’m sorry.”

1. Write it out

Compose an “I am sorry” letter. For some of us it is easier to commit our feelings to paper rather than expressing ourselves verbally. If you are more comfortable writing the apology or if the person to whom you owe the apology is not speaking to you, writing a letter of apology is a good option. It’s also a good way to say exactly what you mean, with lots of time on your side.

2. Undo

If our actions have caused damage to another, perhaps fixing the damage is the apology you can offer. Our actions generally speak louder than our words; undoing the damage we have caused shows the other person we are genuinely remorseful for our damaging action. Did you break their favorite lamp, or ruin their shoes? Then replace them, add a heart-felt apology, and hopefully, move on.

3. Dinner

Take the person you are apologizing to out to dinner at your expense. A nice dinner can be a real icebreaker and go a long ways towards soothing hurt feelings. Just make sure it’s the dinner they want, not the dinner YOU want.