“Distance makes the heart grow fonder”. Wrong! Your long distance relationship needs work. There isn’t going to be any ‘fonder’ if you just let it hibernate. So sit up and read these great tips on how to spice up your love life from across the miles!
Instant messaging
Right from Yahoo to MSN to AOL there are a number of ways to IM each other! So make use of technology. It’s free! Think of creative way to express your love. Don’t let out of sight be out of mind!
“Having gone through this Long Distance Relationship (or LDR as they call it) made me realise how important communication is in a relationship…All in the name of love, couples would do everything and all effort to keep communication going. And only then can an LDR work.”
Marie, Gorgeous Traveler
Puzzles that intrigue
Everyone loves a puzzle. Send your loved one a personalised puzzle that will get him thinking of you. If you want him to stay focussed on you then ensure he’s thinking about you. Get creative with your puzzles and keep them centred on your relationship.
Personal calendar
Even if you have photo phobia this idea is worth the risk! Pull out old photos of you as a couple. Pick the ones where you both are smiling or just plain happy. Get them enlarged. Use cardboard to make a fancy handmade calendar with the photos. Now it’s picture perfect!
By nature I’m an optimist so I do believe that LDR’s can work. However, the people involved have to be very deliberate about making it work. Stay positive!
Keesha Boyd, Psychologically Speaking
Food delivery
If he likes your apply pie then use it as leverage! Which guy can resist a home delivery of home cooked food! Or if he’s really that far away get a restaurant to deliver the dish. Then you can use a webcam to share this moment together!
Your songs
If there’s a popular radio station that he tunes in to every morning, get the DJ to dedicate a song to him. This works best on special occasions especially if you can meet him in person.
Online greeting cards
Online greeting cards are a great way to express your love for each other. These are free and can be sent in a few minutes. You can choose from innumerable categories and messages. Remember to add a personalised note!
Old emails
Remember your first emails to each other? If you still have those around then print them out and place them in a pretty folder. Segregate them month-wise so he can relive those memories even when you are not around.
Same time movies!
Even if both of you are apart it doesn’t mean you can’t have fun at the same time! Try catching up on the same movie at the same time – even if it means odd hours for you! It’s the thrill of it that counts!
Something that you can do so it feels more like you’re together, my bf and I sometimes watch the same TV show/movie while on the phone with each other.
It’s amazing what your imagination can do for your love life, if you just let it! The idea is to create a feeling of togetherness even if you are not physically present. Communication is vital so don’t let silence fill up the space between you. Even if it’s a simple phone call, make it count!
There is no long distance about love, it always finds a way to bring hearts together no matter how many miles there are between them.
Anonymous
So even if you are in a long distance relationship it does not have to be dull. You can spice it up nicely and add a splash of romance! Bring out your creative spirit and let it run wild!
These are great, especially the movie tip.
Greeting cards can also be sent via air mail. This would be romantic.
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All tips is very true where i am one of those in the long relationship and i have all the trick the you list above and its work. Now, we are happy married couple :)
I have written down every text message he has sent me and vice versa. I am taking those messages along with photos and making a pillow made for him for christmas.
One side of the pillow will be for him, his photos and texts to me and the other side will have my photos, texts to him.
This would make a great gift for himto have around while we are 171 miles apart.
A scrap book also handy with the momentos from your favorite restaurants, outtings, movies, favorite songs and sporting events…Ticket stubs to plays, games. etc… Travel brochures and vacation pics. are great to add…
nice topic
I use text messages for my long distance love. Its great because we are in different time zones. It can get a bit expensive but there are a ton of websites out there that let you send messages. I use Send2World.com .
nice service!
Thank you Angel10027!
I am in a long distance relationship…and we simple adore one another. We make sure that we comunicate on a regular. Communication is the key to a long distance relationship..and then we you are together..it is important to make the best out of the time you have together…”Good Luck”
now it’s just a matter of him actually participating! ugh
K,
Awww. One of those eh? Start small. Something that you think he will do and then progress onto bigger, steamier things. Wishing you tons of luck :)
I am also in a long distance relationship. It’s difficult some times cause I miss him very much. And I can’t always tell him that because he doesn’t feel comfortable to talk about feelings :) so I send him cards on the internet and sometimes to his usual adress.
Just it’s hard to see through what he wrote to me :D sometimes something ” sounds” rude but when I read it later again I understand that it isn’t.
But many thanks for the tips!!
Greetings Sharry from Belgium
Hey Sharry,
I’m extremely glad that we have Belgian readers too! And honey I’m glad that we could help. I hope everything works out just fine for you.
I’ve been on and off with my boyfriend for about 4 years. We have had alot of ups and downs, and do have trust issues. He always questions my love and doesnt think im in love with him. We are long distance, im 5 hours away right now because im at school. He tell’s me if i dont prove and do something that i do love him then he is going to be done with me. Please help me out with advice and any ideas whatsoever!
Hey Amanda,
Me and one of my ex-boyfriends were once having a talk (when we were dating) about what would happen if either of us cheated on the other. His reply to me cheating on him was “i’d still be with you but I wouldn’t trust you”. That never made sense to me then and it still doesn’t now. One of the most important (if not THE most important) things in a relationship is trust.
If the two of you are having trust issues to the extent where your guy needs proof that you love him, I don’t think it really will work out even if you can prove it to him now. This is not necessarily a reflection on him as a bf, but just that in a relationship where one or both the partners need to prove each other to keep things going, it really isn’t based on much! I suggest you two either talk it out and figure out a real solution to the issue or end things before they really get ugly.