There has been and probably always will be a quest to find the right guy. It seems like most women have similar ideas about what a guy needs to have in order to be considered the right one. I’m not talking about being a millionaire or anything like that. I’m speaking more of personal traits and specific characteristics. Here are 7 tips on finding a good guy that might help you, in case you’re having difficulty on your man hunt.

7. Be Upfront

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Being upfront with your intentions will make the entire process much easier. If you’re looking for just a date, then let him know. If you’re looking for a long-term relationship, then it might be a good idea to see if you two are on the same page. It can be terribly disheartening for you to be thinking you are going out on a single date, while he’s expecting more of a commitment.

6. Pay Attention

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Look around at men in the room, no matter where you are. You’d be surprised at how many men actually are doing the same thing. I’ve caught a few looking at me by merely glancing up. The trick is to smile at them. I used to shy away and quickly look down. I was told by a friend that this makes the guy feel bad about himself. I’d actually never thought of that. It makes them feel like there is something hideously wrong with them and they become more self-conscious. So, look around, make some eye contact, and smile!

5. Expect a Human, Not a Demigod

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They can’t all be like Hercules or Gilgamesh, surpassing mortal men in size, strength, and skill. Of course, wouldn’t it be nice to accidentally bump into one of these? Just for a mere moment. I have no idea what I would do with a man like this anyway. It’s really hard to look at a guy and instantly know what he’s going to be like. As the old saying goes, ‘You can’t judge a book by its cover’ and this is so true with guys. I can’t count how many men I’ve come across that appear to be something meek and mild, but turn out to be full of life and tons of fun. Just remember: they do have feelings and expectations, just like you.