11. Bring him a treat …
The old saying that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach isn’t just an old saying for no reason- it’s totally true! I always bake a little treat for a guy when I’m trying to make him fall in love with me, and then I just surprise him with it on a random day. When my husband and I were first dating, I left a bag of treats in his locker before every football game. He just loved it!
12. Give him freedom …
When a guy’s trying to determine if you’re girlfriend material, he will test you a little bit. My advice at this point is to give him his freedom, and that will send him right back for more. In my experience, if any guy every got the impression that I’d try to tie him down, he’d be gone lightening fast. So, let your guy know that you value and respect his time with his friends, playing sports, or whatever it is he does in his spare time.
13. Let him call you …
When I’m trying to get a guy, I play a little hard to get. I don’t call him all the time, try to track him down, or generally make myself a bother. I want him to think that I’m too busy out there having a great time to bother with him, and that he better get in touch with me quickly if he’s interested in sharing any time with me! Let him do the pursuing, and he’ll be much more interested in you.
14. Practice mirroring strategies …
Okay, this seems a little creepy at first, but just hear me out. Whenever I want to impress or charm someone (not just guys, but anyone), I do a little physical mirroring. What this means is taking whatever physical action that person does, waiting about five seconds, and then copying the motion. For instance, if your guy rests his elbow on the table, wait five seconds, and then put your elbow on the table. Sounds silly, but it works! It creates a connection between me and the guy that he just can’t explain. Read more about mirroring here.
15. Make eye contact …
Staring deeply into someone’s eyes quickly ramps up the intensity of the connection between two people. So, if I’m trying to get a guy to fall in love with me, I stare deeply into his eyes while we’re talking. Now, don’t look too long, or you’ll appear to be a stalker… but you definitely want extended eye contact. Remember the scenes in Twilight where all the sexual tension developed between Edward and Bella just based on eye contact? That’s what I’m talking about.
16. Don’t appear desperate …
Guys aren’t attracted to desperate, clingy girls who seem like they can’t get anyone else. Guys are attracted to busy, happy, popular girls who seem like they’ve got it all under control and who have the world at their feet. Even if you think you aren’t popular, happy, or busy, try to appear that way to your guy. That means, don’t say yes if he asks you out last minute. Tell him you’ve got other plans, but you’d love to schedule something with him in a few days. Play hard to get! One of my favorite dating book, The Rules, talks all about this.
17. Be trustworthy …
Guys love someone they can trust. I learned the hard way that telling my girlfriends every thing about a new guy in my life wasn’t the best idea. Word always gets back to the guy that I’ve talked about what he told me or told details about our time together, and he always bolts. So, discretion is the best policy. Don’t tell your girls every little bit of your private conversations, and your guy will trust and respect you much more.
18. Leave a little mystery …
When I am trying to attract a guy, I don’t want to be an open book to him. I’ve found that guys like a little mystery… they keep coming back for more if you leave more to find out. Think of your information, history, interests, etc. like a treasure hunt… give your guy little clues, but don’t let him find the treasure right away. He’ll want to keep calling and asking you out just to learn more about you!
19. Be supportive of his interests …
Guys love it when girls show they’re interested in what guys are interested in. So, even if I hate his favorite sport, I’m going to watch it with him and discuss it with him to show a guy I’m both interested and interesting. When I dated a guy who loved basketball, I researched all about it so I could carry on a conversation with him, even though I hated basketball. When I dated a wrestler, I went to several matches to cheer him on, even though I think wrestling is boring. It will attract a guy if you show him you’re interested.
20. Hold off on the physical intimacy …
My last tip has to do with physical intimacy, or making out, heavy petting , or sex. If you truly want to make a guy fall in love with you, you’ve got to hold out on stuff like this for as long as you can. Most guys I dated and are friends with just go after a girl for the thrill of the chase at first. It takes time for them to realize that they actually care about the girl. So, hold off on physical intimacy to give your relationship a chance to develop first. Steve Harvey has written a hilarious book that talks about this exact idea!
There you have it… my top twenty tips for getting a guy to fall madly in love with you. Hopefully, with this beautiful weather we’re having, we can get out of the house, get flirting, and meet some great guys! Do you have other tried and true tips for catching that great guy? Share them below!
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Just happened upon your site today. Very interesting, I learned some interesting things. Vance
sorry to bother you but..
Hey, my name is abby and im 16, im not ready for love or anything but I was wondering, How can you bring confidence up?
cuz im always negative about myself. Even though some people say im kinda pretty, its still doesnt do.
Abby, fake it. I know that it sounds like a strange advice but if we pretend or fake-believe that we are gorgeous, our mind will eventually believe it is so. Not to the point that we become delusional but just enough to make us feel positive. Another thing is to remember that no one is perfect. If you are always negative because you have insecurities, you have to remember that other people have their own insecurities, too. And lastly, accept compliments gracefully. Do not shrug them off or roll your eyes. Say thanks and smile. That is an attractive quality.
Great tips. Would be interesting to read more articles about hard to get.
@layla: make a hard to get guy fall for you? hmm that sounds like a good topic. some of this might work on one, though.
Quick tips from a guy,
1) be hot (which is a result of being healthy)
2) be submissive to me
If you want to a guy to fall in love without without following these critera, expect imminent disaster in every relationship. guaranteed. Your next best option would be to save guys the waste of time and go indulge yourself in the lesbian drug addict low life.
Some more clarification:
1. Be yourself … (be healthy)
2. Optimize your appearance …(be healthy)
3. Listen, listen, listen …(be submissive)
4. Laugh a lot … (be healthy & submissive)
5. Have a great attitude … (be healthy & submissive)
6. Be sweet … (be submissive)
7. Flirt … (be submissive)
8. Be different …(be healthy)
Faisal, those are great insights but I will have to disagree on the submissive part. There are actually guys who like aggressive women or those who can stand on their own feet (they are being themselves and not putting up a tough front).
My Advise would be, just to be yourself.
Guys hate fake girls, they want someone whose natural and fun to be with.
Dont chnage who you are for a guy, if you feel like you need to change, hes the problem, NOT you.
I agree, Ashlee. When we pretend to be somebody else, our facade breaks down sooner or later. It’s better to be natural.
hi im 23 male but im in love with a gorgeous woman that oready engaged and olso older than me he is 27 ..turning 28 in june..i dont know how to express my feeling im just consurned she will be upset from me and wont talk to me ever again..as women most time get offended from a younger man..witch way should i ask her or express how much deeply in love with her..and i feel like telling her as well im better than her fiance he does not ven care for her and not that well looking..please advice me
Excuse me ladies, I found this place quite by accident. But,
“Make” a guy fall-in-love with you???
If 80% of you would stop chasing the top 20% of handsomest men, and give an average guy half-a-chance, you would be happy and contented in life… raising loving families bonding deeply with honest, hard-working blokes instead of fretting about your weight searching here drudging for tips.
I have a tip for ya’ll!
PRAY your men never discover Asian & Asian women!
I have been living abroad for awhile now, and ladies, it is a bloody paradise…for us (average White men).
ZERO overweight females, loving attitudes, extremely feminine…
Thank you Lord.
It’s good to be home.
how to make a guy who knows i like him ,but who do not like me to make him like me?
how to make a guy who knows i like him ,but who do not like me to make him like me? he is avoiding me , keeping a distance away from me, does not want to talk to me. How should i approach to make him like me and woo after me?
To ‘Living the Dream’
A paradise? I mean, seriously. i have lived in Asia. And isn’t it a little bizarre to date someone that is young enough to be your daughter? And plus, isn’t it shallow to date someone, and a women size to be ‘zero-overweight’? It’s so shallow.
To each his own I guess. Most men love curves though. Well atleast the ones I’ve met…thankfully :D