I have a friend who isn’t the best-looking girl in the world, but who always has guys hovering over her. She’s not easy or slutty. I always wondered: how does she do it? What about her makes her so approachable? How does she attract men everywhere she goes, without looking easy? I watched her closely, and finally just asked her. Here’s what I noticed, and what she told me.
1. Be friendly
Men are more likely to approach a woman who looks and acts friendly, not intimidating or cold or severe.
2. Smile
One of the best ways to appear friendly is to smile. A lot. At just about everyone. Look like you’re having fun, and like everyone is delightful around you.
3. Get caught looking
It’s not a bad thing to make eye contact with a man. Make sure you give him a friendly look, though, not a leering one.
4. Dress nicely
Dressing provocatively will definitely get men to approach you, but only because they’ll be into your physical appearance. In other words, dress a little more modestly, and you’ll be approached by men who are interested in more than just getting you in bed!
5. Don’t travel in a pack
Men find it difficult to approach women who are surrounded by too many people.
6. Don’t smoke or drink heavily
If a man approaches you after you’ve been drinking heavily, rest assured, he’s hoping to get you into bed, and he’s not interested in much else. And most men also find heavy smoking a turn-off.
wow, those are amazing tips! My best friend always complains she can’t meet anyone, but she always does just the opposite of what you have on the list…
thanks for the tips!
Number5 is so true. Guys get easily intimidated by girl friends.
Well these are some great tips to follow. I don’t smoke and drink…so I have only some other tips to try :)
One of the best games ever.. I enjoy so much playing hard to get! :)
Really good tips!
I’m right with you Jen about not dressing provocatively. You give men the wrong feeling, and he will only appreciate you for your physical appearance and not for who you really are.
I also loved to do this particular game.. When I really was into some one, I used to do everything I could to be his friend’s best friend. I always smiled that smile that said I like you to, but made me impossible to get cause I was his friends best friends. You know mixing some emotions.. Does she like me? ‘Cause she keeps smiling or does she likes him, ‘cause she’s always with him.
I love this kind of games lol!
Wicked me!!!!!!
Hahah Xannyyy! You’re adorable! Didn’t it ever backfire though? This best friend idea? And the por best friend probably thought you liked him all along. You bad bad girl :D
thank you for sayin that Xannyyy, im going to try that some day soon.. :) hope its doesnt backfire though :)
Joey,
Well good luck love..
Tell me how it went :)
Great advice!
a guy would be more confident approaching a cute, friendly looking girl instead of a glamorous ice queen!
look available and smile!
Sheila,
Lol @ your comment.
It actually worked on two guys.
One of them I had that totally maddening crush on him!
I went out with one of his best friends at a party. As soon as he saw me he bought me a drink and came with it near us. The guy I was with was talking to another person and so he told me to walk him near the toilets cause his friends where all there! Sooo Mission accomplished! HAHA!!
And at another time I was with a friend’s guy who I liked and when I smiled at him and didn’t approach him but instead I approached his friend he got so mad that he finally came to me saying that he liked me, asking staff like… Are you going with my best friend cause I saw you first and I like you.. You know staff like that.
I used to enjoy my self so much… I still have a good laugh when I remember the methods I used to use!!
Even with my man I played so hard to get!! Then he totally surrendered. That was when I reacted and knew I was going to loose him. And here we are three years later thinking about marriage! :)
Xannyyy,
Lol!!! I guess those tactics do work then. I’m totally trying them on my next target! :D
Sheila,
Yeah love, do that and enjoy it!! Tell me how it went when you try it! Ohhh!!! I love to be a tiny fly watching you do this!! :P
Loooool
I used to have a crush on a guy, then over the summer my friend got a crush on him. I think I still like him though. I really don’t want to tell her that I like him, yet how can I talk with him and not make it seem like I like him? I’m confused. Help me?
Hi Raven,
There’s no harm in talking to him. I mean just because you talk to someone doesn’t mean you like him/her right? Just don’t giggle too much or appear all beady-eyed and don’t have a guilty face after and I think you should be fine.
Hi Raven,
There’s no harm in talking to him. I mean just because you talk to someone doesn’t mean you like him/her right? Just don’t giggle too much or appear all beady-eyed and don’t have a guilty face after and I think you should be fine. Also, if you start to like the guy more, please do tell your friend about it. It’s hard I know but you’re better off that way.
Those are some nice tips there :)
Though I don’t know if it would work on the guy I like. I can’t even tell if he likes someone, because he’s always around females. He’s not a player or anything, he just happens to have a lot of female friends. Plus he’s around his mom and sister all the time, so I have no clue whether he’s just naturally nice to all females, or whether he likes someone. =.= And being nice is normally a good sign…*sighs*
Em,
Maybe you should try getting to know him better and maybe flirt a little while at it?