When I was in my early twenties, I only dated men who were at least fifteen years older than me. I had so much more in common with them than I did with guys my own age, who only seemed to be interested in beer pong and Pamela Anderson.
So here are some ways to find, date, and capture the heart of an older man.
1. Know where to look.
Chances are, older men worth having aren’t hanging out at the college-boy clubs.
2. Find out NOW.
A lot of older men are married, and you MUST find out RIGHT AWAY if your potential man is married. If he is, keep walking. You don’t ever, ever want to be the other woman.
3. Be prepared.
As men grow older, they, like us, slow down a little, and experience changes in their sex drives. Make sure you’re prepared for this.
4. Be reasonable.
Don’t expect your man to be as energetic or active as you are, but don’t expect him to be a wimp, either.
5. Avoid the creeps.
There’s a very good reason some older men aren’t taken yet. Look out for the creeps and weirdos out there. Trust me, there are PLENTY of them!
6. Re-think your goals.
Depending on how old your older man is, he may have very different life goals than you. He might want to settle down and have kids, or he might already have grown children. He might be getting ready to think about retirement, when you’re just getting out of college.
There are so much things to be said on this theme, but….dating an older man has it’s advantages as well as it’s disadvantages. You just have to make sure that the number of advantages > number of disadvantages. If you are looking for older and rich men, you should go straight to number 80…:) effortless.
i guess this does count for a guy thats only 4 years older lol. hes vey mature though : /
Older men are so yummy :D These are great tips! Especially the public opinion bet. My own friends aren’t very supportive when I date older men….
Great Post.. Saw this on SmakNews.com
LOVE IT
Glad you like it Josh :)
Lol Tavia,
Loved your comment :D
Of course every relationship has it’s advantages and disadvantages!
Being with an older man can be pleasent as well unpleasent, depending on your character and what you’re searching.
It can be plesant having a person who you would feel protected just because of his older age, but there’s alot of single around who only likes to play around and not showing their ages!
Well mostly I love older man as friends!
Sheila,
As they say everyone has a right to his opinions and likings!
Go for what you love, and choose the best ways for you! =)
Xannyyy,
I know I should do what my heart wants but sometimes I’m such a people pleaser. Ugh! I’m working on it. Sometimes you just have to be selfish and give a damn what the world thinks. No?
just make sure you’re over 18 to date truly older guys
Great tips! My man is 16 years older – your article gave me a bit of a different perspective on some things. :)
Found this article through SmakNews and your blog looks great! I’ll certainly be adding to favorites. :D
Emily
Hey Emily,
That’s great! Thanks so much. Keep visiting :)
I adree with you Penelope. You surly have to have some sence to compe with an older man. Always if he acts his age!! :P
Sheila,
I totally agree with you there! Even if it’s your best gal who’s not very supportive, just don’t take such notice. Age doesn’t matter when love and happiness are involved. If it happens to one of your friends I’m sure they will go for it even if it means not having your support. By time they will understand and learn to love your man just like they love you :)
By being a people pleaser you will eventually end up hurt by your own doings. I’m telling you this through my own experiences!!
Older men are def. better! Not as dumb and slow as the younger ones. However, if you think towards the future, it creates a problem. If you are getting serious, you have to remember that he will get older as well and nobody is completely age defying. bummer!
Princess D,
What type of guy a person goes with is one preferes. I prefer older than younger but that’s my opinion for what I choose myself!
Wow, my timing for reading this post is perfect! I just started dating a guy who is 26…I’m 18. Its great to have someone that I can hold a conversation with (instead listening to him talk about things like video games). The tips will definitely come in handy, except maybe the cooking part. He’s the one that will be teaching me a thing or two in the kitchen :)
Hey Tina,
Awww that’s cute. Mature guys are the best. Sometimes it can get hard though. I wish you luck though. And Happy Holidays =)
My guy is 16 years older than me and he has been the best boyfriend I have ever had. I am 21 and he is 37. I absolutely love him!
Hey Soul,
That’s wonderful :)
I hope things work out for the both of you.