Relationships hurt. Period. When my relationships ended badly, I used to brood with an apocalyptic view of the world. I’ve grown up and wish to share my experiences thus far over getting over that ex.
1. Don’t rebound with Ben and Jerry.
Yes, I know that you’re not in the best of conditions, and food can be a great consoler. However, you want to be in your best physical shape to send the best F. U. message to that loser. Savor a dish of ice cream, not a Vermonster challenge.
2. Don’t rebound immediately.
After a bad breakup, I always realize that perks that come with being single. You’ll miss the guy or feel empty in the end. Breathe and enjoy solitude rather than lonliness. For once, I have the time to explore my interest in playing the violin (which I still haven’t pursued).
3. Exercise.
As a water polo player, I can tell you that my endorphins are on roofies after a great workout. You’ll burn calories, look better, and feel better. It’s much better than brooding and watching reruns of Grey’s Anatomy.
4. Treat yourself.
I love shopping. Get a nice pair of pumps and admire yourself. You used to give so much of yourself in a past relationship. Focus on yourself for once.
5. Don’t rant.
I used to tell my galpals about bad breakups in angry rants. The rants only made me miss my old beefcakes even more. I didn’t feel better about anything. I just wanted to eat Ben and Jerry’s all day.
6. Don’t call him.
Even if you still love him and are good friends, take a break from him. You’re only going depress yourself if you carry false hopes. Don’t tread down potentially bad waters.
I loved these tips, they actually working very well for me, and yes watching non romantic comedy is a perfect idea, Glee/friends (again) have been my distraction, maybe I’ll try it’s always sunny in Philadelphia ;).
About the other tips,
- Writing is a good idea, write down your thoughts and feelings, maybe it’s the time to have a blog.
- Rebound with old friends.
- Listen to hopeful songs.
- Read Paulo Coelho’s book.
- Do something new, try to fill that void.
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Hey Marwa,
I dunno about hopeful songs. I think they’d upset me even more. Doing something new….totally agree. You need distractions and you need to give yourself time to heal.
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i wish somebody would have given all these tips earlier, now i see why i’m still not over my ex at all. i went through two things of ice cream, and have done several angry rants to my friends about him. not gonna make the same mistake again :)
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mg
Paulo Coelho is really amazing!!!
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Thanks for sharing these. I know that many girls may be going through this atm or have been before. These tips are extremely helpful and will benefit many in the future.
Wonderful list. I can’t even think of anything to add to it besides ’starting a journal to rant in’. (:
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Hey Amy,
The journal idea is great. I’ve always been a diary person…till internet blogging came up. But diaries are still great to rant about things that noone must know about =)
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Extreamly helpful tips.
Most important point is just to try and forget and get on with your life. Crying over what happened, and living in the past is no way to lead a new life. Even though you may loved the person alot, misfortnes in love happen to everyone! Trying is important and saying to your self that maybe what happened, happened for best and it wasn’t meant to be!!
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LOL @ secretly watching Gossip Girl!
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Im going through a break up at the moment and we are both still talking to eachother and still saying the ” i love you”. I can’t seem to let him go even though i want to and move on, you’re tips were SO HELPFUL. Anyone else got any more ideas to helping snip the cord ? Keep you’re chin up girls.
:) Emma xx
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Hey Emmaaa,
I honestly don’t think you should be talking to him right now. I don’t know which of you decided to call it off but saying I love you and still talking to each other means giving the other person false hope. And if you’re sure about the breakup, false hope is the last thing you should be giving him. You need time to heal. Noone says you can’t be friends afterwards. But you NEED to spend some time away from him without contact no matter how much it hurts.
Goodluck sweetheart and thanks for visiting us :)
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Nice tips, Really works for me, especially the “Retail Theraphy” shopping..it makes me busy, happy and occupied rather than thinking of the recent failed relationship..
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Star,
Retail therapy has been a life saver on many ocassions. It may not make my wallet happy but sometimes its just a necessary evil :)
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All these tips are great! Thanks for sharing. Although I hope none of us here have to try it out.
:)
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Sabrina,
You said it! :)
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Emmaaaa,
If youre feeling you have to move on without him, it’s enough reason to just contine with your live. Going on with your relationship knowing that there’s nothing left isint going to help either of you. So talk it out and decide to cut all contacts. At least for the time being! Both of you will find there own lives once separated.
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Sabrina,
I totally agree. I enjoy only reading them and pray that I won’t be needing them! :)
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You didn’t include the advice to forgive and FORGET! Although it may be very hard to do at times, its the best thing to get the healing process going. Wish him the best of luck and move on and don’t even try to imagine what he may be doing or with WHO is he with now, etc. Life is too short to get completely hooked on someone who was not meant for you to start with.
As the saying goes… “Let him go freely, if he was yours – he will return — (of course it’s up to you if you want to take him back) and if he doesn’t return — it’s because he was never truly yours to start with!”
As my parents always adviced me..”There’s nothing BAD that happens
that comes for a GOOD reason.” Think about it. Keep a positive outlook in life and remember for some reason GOD put so many fish in the
sea! Your fishing season will come again soon enough. Don’t worry, just be happy!
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Hey Vicky,
That’s beautiful advice. I do always believe that things happen for a reason. And it’s hard to see why certain things happen the way they do at the time but obviously like they say hindsight is always twenty-twenty. And things always works out. The only thing I have a problem with is forgiving and forgetting. I could probably forgive him but forgetting is impossible….or really really hard anyway. I’m working on it though. Thanks for stopping by :)
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i invested in smallville, charmed, heroes and gossip girls series once i broke up with my ex. trust me u’ll feel major better after watching them.
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Hey Wend,
I guess the key is distraction. I can see how tv would work. I’d suggest Greys Anatomy but I think it might be a little too sad to watch right after a breakup.
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Writing poems and music helps also when I am crying for him, just get up dance some lasy gaga:)
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awww honey,
i feel really bad when i hear break up stories… don’t you worry simone, i’m sure too that now you won’t be repeating those mistakes again. and hopefully you won’t even come to a point where you need to read up articles about break-ups! :)
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Hey IR,
Really? I always thought he was kind of over preachy. Then again, whatever rocks your boat I guess.
Thanks for visiting! =)
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