Coming out of the closet is tough for many individuals. Did you know that many youngsters commit suicide simply because they could not find a way to come out of the closet? If you are having problems allowing others to see you for who you really are, then I have some tips that I would like to share with you. Below are 12 tips how to come out of the closet. Spread them around to others that you know, because they too could be battling their inner self.
12. You Do Not Have a Deadline.
First of all, you should know that you do not have a deadline for coming out of the closet. You may have some gay partners that have already came out of the closet who are trying to pressure you into it, but you should not allow this. You need to be really ready when you come out.
11. Tell Your Friends First.
You may want to start by telling your friends before you tell your family. Your true friends will appreciate you for being honest with them. Those who do not accept you were never really your friends to start with.
10. Don’t Give the News Through a Third Party.
If you think you should deliver the news through a third party, then you may want to think again. When your family learns this, they will need to directly hear it from you.
I agree, it is just as difficult for the individual, to bring up the subject, as it is for the family. One of my co-workers was married for 20 years, his daughter was graduating from High School, when he told his family and moved out to live with another man.
I felt so sad for the kids, since I’m sure his wife must have suspected something all those years, but it was a shocker for his three daughters.
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Suburbangrandma,
Wow! 20 years?!! That must have been so hard on the family. On one hand, I agree that it is hard to come out of the closet and all that but then I also keep wondering why you’d wanna get married in the first place. Surely, you’ve known all along? So why get married and essentially ruin another person’s life and after 20 long years go like “Oh btw, I’m gay”.
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Sheila,
Haha, I couldn’t agree more. I mean, it took 20 years to find out he was gay? It seems a little unfair to the wife and daughters although, living and sleeping beside a man for 20 years before he finally said he was gay. And think of what their family members and friends will say.
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I have to congratulate you on the post Mel as it was a very good one. So many people don;t kno whow to get out of their shell and maybe this would help many.
Great post!! :)
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