12 Tips on Coming out of The Closet…

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12 Tips on Coming out of The Closet...

Coming out of the closet is tough for many individuals. Did you know that many youngsters commit suicide simply because they could not find a way to come out of the closet? If you are having problems allowing others to see you for who you really are, then I have some tips that I would like to share with you. Below are 12 tips how to come out of the closet. Spread them around to others that you know, because they too could be battling their inner self.

12. You Do Not Have a Deadline.

First of all, you should know that you do not have a deadline for coming out of the closet. You may have some gay partners that have already came out of the closet who are trying to pressure you into it, but you should not allow this. You need to be really ready when you come out.

11. Tell Your Friends First.

You may want to start by telling your friends before you tell your family. Your true friends will appreciate you for being honest with them. Those who do not accept you were never really your friends to start with.

10. Don’t Give the News Through a Third Party.

If you think you should deliver the news through a third party, then you may want to think again. When your family learns this, they will need to directly hear it from you.

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  1. February 23, 2012 at 10:59 pm Permalink
    Anonymous says:
    sigh. the advice is easier read than taken.
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    • February 25, 2012 at 6:02 pm
      Sheila says:
      Agreed being in the situation is way harder but we’d love to help you with any advice you need.
      Thanks for stopping by! X
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  2. June 9, 2011 at 5:36 pm Permalink
    Carla says:
    thank you for the advice, though for myself it came a little bit too late. I told my parents without warning and the repercussions were not pretty. I am happy to say that out of ... See more that ordeal came some relief, for i now know who is next to me in life and who is not. My best friend and girlfriend of two years is still in the closet, and that is alright, like you said, timing is everything. For all those who have a partner in the closet, let them have their own time, being comfortable with themselves is crucial. Once again, the advice is great, keep it up.
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    • June 11, 2011 at 1:26 am
      Denise C. says:
      Hi Carla. Welcome to All Women Stalk.

      It seems like we find out who really loves and cares for us when times get rough. Why does it have to be that way? But I’m ... See more really happy that you found something positive out of an ugly situation. Plus, after coming out, didn’t you feel like you are finally free to be you? I’m really really happy for you. I hope that you will, from now on, lead an authentic life.

      Oh, and your girlfriend is lucky to have someone as supportive and understanding as you.

      Take care!
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  3. June 6, 2011 at 6:23 pm Permalink
    Maggie says:
    A little added advice for coming out to parents: let them know that you love them. “[Parent], I’m [orientation] and I love you.”
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    • June 7, 2011 at 2:53 am
      Sheila says:
      Aww Maggie,
      That’s sweet advice :) Though I do wish most parents would be that supportive.
      Thanks for sharing and keep visiting All Women Stalk!
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  4. December 18, 2009 at 5:47 am Permalink
    Xannyyy says:
    I have to congratulate you on the post Mel as it was a very good one. So many people don;t kno whow to get out of their shell and maybe this would help many.
    Great post!! :)
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  5. December 18, 2009 at 2:32 am Permalink
    Sabrina says:
    Sheila,
    Haha, I couldn’t agree more. I mean, it took 20 years to find out he was gay? It seems a little unfair to the wife and daughters although, living and sleeping beside a ... See more man for 20 years before he finally said he was gay. And think of what their family members and friends will say.
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  6. December 17, 2009 at 7:20 pm Permalink
    suburbangrandma says:
    I agree, it is just as difficult for the individual, to bring up the subject, as it is for the family. One of my co-workers was married for 20 years, his daughter was graduating from ... See more High School, when he told his family and moved out to live with another man.
    I felt so sad for the kids, since I’m sure his wife must have suspected something all those years, but it was a shocker for his three daughters.
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    • December 17, 2009 at 10:01 pm
      Sheila says:
      Suburbangrandma,
      Wow! 20 years?!! That must have been so hard on the family. On one hand, I agree that it is hard to come out of the closet and all that but then I also ... See more keep wondering why you’d wanna get married in the first place. Surely, you’ve known all along? So why get married and essentially ruin another person’s life and after 20 long years go like “Oh btw, I’m gay”.
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