So you and your boyfriend have been going together for a while now. You’re both infatuated with one another and having the time of your lives when suddenly the old green eyed monster appears and takes its toll! Have you ever had a jealous boyfriend? Dealing with jealously in a relationship is a problem known to millions across the world. Below are some great tips on how to deal with a jealous boyfriend in particular.
1. Don’t Deal
A relationship is supposed to be built on trust. If your boyfriend is acting jealous without a good reason then maybe the best thing to do is move on to prevent yourself from having to deal with the baggage.
2. Accepting The Issue
Ask yourself if you really love him. If you do love him and want the relationship to work then you’re going to have to learn to accept his insecurity and find ways to change it. You’re going to have to accept it considering you knew it before you got too involved. Accepting it means not yelling or arguing about it with your boyfriend.
3. What Is The Issue?
You can’t fix a problem until you figure out what the problem is! Why is he jealous? Did he have a troubled childhood and is needing to feel accepted? Did he have a bad past relationship and wants to prevent the same things from reoccurring? Try to find out where the problem lies.
4. Listen To Him
With determining the problem you’re going to have to listen. You’re never going to understand why he is jealous unless you listen to what he has to say. In turn this will help you learn more about your jealous boyfriend and how to handle his insecurities.
5. Talk About It
Arguing is only going to make the situation worst. He is ultimately jealous due to his fear of you leaving him. If you express your feelings assertively to him and not aggressively there is a good chance his attitude will change in your favor.
This post applies to me so so much!!! He is always jealous. its because i’m in the highschool and he’s in 8th grade. We try to deal with it, talk it out, but it seems like he doesn’t ever want to talk about it. i think it’s mostly my fault. he thinks i’m gonna leave for another guy, because we dated before, and i broke up with him for another guy, i think that’s his problem. but we’ve been dating for 2 years, and i love him. he has nothing to worry about, but how do i get him to see that?
Hi Rose,
I had to deal with my jealous ex for 2 years before I decided this is it. It started off with little silly posessive acts that I thought were kinda cute. But it started to get worse. We went to separate colleges and he told me I couldn’t even speak to another boy! This one time he came to meet me at my college, and saw me talking to this boy and threw water on my face in front of everyone! He started to get psycho and abusive. I was slapped a couple of times and the final blow came when he threw a phone on my head! Why? Because some guy called me up. That was it! I had had enough. The worst thing is through all of it, he had nothing to fear. I was in love and completely loyal. The reason I’m telling you all of this is there’s only so much you can do to assure him that you love him. But beyond a point if he can’t get it into his head, you need to choose what’s best for you.
Always surprising how women tend to put with shit for so long before common sense strikes them where the sun don’t shine… pity really.
I apologize on behalf of me kind. We are a sorry bunch of hormone crazed, beer guzzling, gun toting Bonobos…
I was 17 and thought I was in love. Bah! But awww thanks for the apology :)
Sheila, that was horrible!
Glad you got out of it. :) And thanks for the apology, Zennmaster. :)
Phew! I know!
If I was with a jelous man I would just not deal with him! It’s such a waste of time and life. Most of these man who tend to get jelous are just wasteful. A bit of jelousy is always good for a realtion ship. It shows love and effection but to much is horrible. I’ve seen cases of friends and many of them didn’t go through a nice period. At first signals you should get out. Jelousy is the worst sickness!
Sheila that was horrendous. I’m glad you got out of it in time love!! :)
Xannyyy,
Me too! Phew! And it was a lesson learnt for life…
Sheila,
Yeah!
Some things in life even if they’re hard to forgot and painful to pass, are extreamly important for future desicions!
I my self had a bad experience but nowady I’m thankful from it cause it was one that helped me grow up faster!
Xannyyy,
Absolutely. Your experiences make you who you are and I wouldn’t change anything about my past. I’d like to relive some fun moments yes but I wouldn’t change any of my decisions or mistakes.
Sheila,
Yeah just like me..
If only I could go back some timee and live all those special moments again!! Dreamer! :) But at least I lived them and enjoyed them.. Good things come our way always :)
Xannyyy,
Yeah that’s true. And it’s more special this way. You’ll always remember it for how awesome it was :D