10 Ways to Deal With a Jealous Boyfriend …
So you and your boyfriend have been going together for a while now. You’re both infatuated with one another and having the time of your lives when suddenly the old green eyed monster appears and takes its toll! Have you ever had a jealous boyfriend? Dealing with jealousy in a relationship is a problem known to millions across the world. Below are some great tips on how to deal with a jealous boyfriend in particular.
1. Don’t Deal
A relationship is supposed to be built on trust. If your boyfriend is acting jealous without a good reason then maybe the best thing to do is move on to prevent yourself from having to deal with the baggage.
You all know that something is wrong, otherwise you wouldn’t be searching for answers on the internet.
Stand up and believe in yourself before your self-esteem is further damaged. You need to take action. Stand on your own two feet and find another guy who does not put you down.
It’s called emotional abuse.
GIRLLLLLLL i go to your school i see you and your boyfriend everyday sometimes yall look like the happiest people in the world but somethings yall look like yall HATE each other ... See more .. i mean its crazyy .. just do what you heart tells you .. (: i love you best friend !!!!!
– tiffanyyyyyy (yourbffl)
The same thing happened with my ex till I could NOT take it anymore! I wish people would understand what a waste of time and energy jealousy is.
Like I already said, no it isn’t fair, it isn’t sane and it’s definitely not worth destroying yourself over. You are obviously unhappy and you should get out and away from anything ... See more that makes you feel this terrible. Make the right decision sweetie even though it’s the harder one.
Good luck! Please remember that we are all here to support you :)
I really dont know what to do or say to my boyfriend of three months…i cant even say the words ‘guy friend(s)’ around him or he will shut down and get upset. i have ... See more three guy friends who i met in college and are a few years older than me and of whom i like to chat with when they are around..but it is a MAJOR problem if i mention i briefly talk to them or plan to hang out with them in a group. i have opened up talking about my past and where i stand with how i feel about my exes and how i feel about my guy friends. I feel nothing special nor have any interest with dating any of them…i learned he has had a hard and rough past where he trusts no one…but me.. (what a role i have) ..i try to be patient with him but i now literally tell him my future plans of where im going to be and what im doing each time i plan to meet with a male friend. he just blows up and refuses to even consider it…he claims he trusts me but i feel like im on a leash…it worries me now…i feel guilty if i talk to any guy nowadays. idk what to do…im thinking about doing the reverse psychology method but i think he will get even more upset with me…i have had calm conversations about it.. not arguing.. and he has cried hysterically begging i dont hang out with certain people.. he makes me feel like im hurting the relationship.. but i just want to make it stronger..HELP!!
Thank you for writing back! He tells me he trusts me but feels like i could be easily persuaded into loving someone else…idk why or how he came up with this idea…i have ... See more showered him with love…i have canceled plans with friends cuz of this …so annoying..the funny part is that these guys have girlfriends lol and he claims girls and guys cant be just friends..something will ALWAYS happen..soooo not true..i definately agree with you all the way. and yes, he has more girl friends than i can count…i tried talking to him again last night.. he said he wants to talk about it in person…hopefully something will resolve!! thank you for all your help!
If he has girlfriends then that’s just crazy! I hope you can do the right thing sweetie. I know it’s hard but it’s better than letting this madness go on. Good luck!
Thanks for writing to us. How can he say he trusts you when he clearly has a problem with your friends? If he trusted you, that wouldn’t have been an issue at all. ... See more I think he’s being very unrealistic and immature. You can’t stop talking to your friends just because they are guys. Doesn’t he have any girl friends? From experience, this is only going to get worse if you don’t address it right away. If he can’t change his ways, you need to get out hun. It sounds like a very unhealthy relationship to me.
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i was so suprised after hearing that,and the worst thing is that because he is such a good guy and will im more of the reckless one he has this way of making me feel so low.i know im not doing anything wrong,i just wish he could show a little trust or aleast pretend he he does.its just mean.
Your boyfriend sounds extremely paranoid, not to mention a bit scary! I mean asking you to delete your Facebook page and not have any friends is taking things too far. I can’t ask ... See more you to breakup with him but I will say, people like that only get worse. You have your right to space and privacy and the basic right to have guy friends! Please don’t compromise on things like that because neither of you will be happy at he end of the day. Think about it!
(to avoid future problems) I told my boyfriend that my Guy friend has a pictrue of me and him on facebook as his profile pic..the second ... See more i said that my bf went CRAZY..he said things like WHAT THE FU*K ?! OH MY GOD IM GONNA PUNCH HIM IN THE FACE , IMMA KILL HIM. WHY THE F**K DID U TAKE A PIC WITH ANOTHER DUDE?! YOUR DIRTY. He was like shaking and he yelled and punched his fist into his hand in madness…Then he made me give him my phone and he texted my friend and said “This is (bfs name) where you at?” Then when my bf asked me why i didnt tell him to take it off facebook i said i didnt want to talk to him and he grabbed my face(around my jaw) and said Your lying! (it didnt hurt though, i pulled away)
were 16 and 17 years old..
Sweetie, honestly WHAT are you doing with this guy? He not only sounds insane but downright dangerous. You need to get out of this asap! No one has the right to treat another ... See more person like this, especially not your boyfriend.
I just ended a relationship with a man i dated for almost a year. At first i thought i had met the one. i was able to tell him things from my past ... See more because i trusted him (BAD idea), i trusted him so much, i felt like no one could ever love me like he did. he did things for me and went out of his way to see me. we communicated all day and talked on the phone religiously at 9pm every night. soon he started making little comments about who was he, or how do you know him. next it was like where are you going, who are you going with, why are you going? as his jealousy progressed i confronted him on it. he apologized several times. but he blatantly told me he didn’t trust me and that he had doubts. i tried everything in the list mentioned even before i found the site but still it was getting worse. i even started to believe he was right and started to question myself! i was an emotional wreck. it has only been a couple of weeks since we haven’t been together an even though i ended it it hurts me so much that we are not together. i am so mad at him. he drove me away. i was nothing but honest and faithful to him. i just wanted to share my story because it helps me to get past it and move on. it seems i am not the only one that has put up with this craziness. i wish everyone the best of luck and i want to let everyone know that a relationship is based on trust. i was told otherwise by my ex! i just wish i would have been stronger in the beginning to get out.
Congratulations on getting out of a bad relationship hun. I want you to know that most of us do not have the strength to do what you have and would have probably let ... See more it go on for a longer time. You deserve much much better!
I know that’s it’s a little hard to handle this whole scenario. Frankly, if I were in your position, I would be quite jealous too. I mean, even if you know nothing is ... See more going to happen, there’s always that thought in your head, right? I think you should speak to her and tell her that it’s not that you don’t trust her but that you’re uncomfortable with the whole thing. Ask her how she’d feel if you spent nights at your girl friends places. That last line that you typed about her actions feeding your jealousy, I think you should explain that to her. I’m sure the two of you can reach a compromise that will keep you both happy. Good luck! :)
Is it time to leave??
It definitely is time to leave or at least put him in his place. This whole “I can do this but you can’t” business is bull! There is nothing wrong with being friends ... See more with other guys and if he’s suffocating you, it’s time to get out. From experience, it’s really really hard to make a jealous person change his ways.
My boyfriend is extremely loving, caring and he treats me like a princess. Unfortunately he often gets jealous of me talking to other guys. Whenever we are out together and I talk to ... See more male friends of mine, he later asks “Do you fancy him? Why don’t you get with him then? You obviously like him” and even when I re-assure him that the guy is just a friend and I have no interest in my friends, he doesn’t believe me. He was even jealous of one of my male flatmates (I live in Halls in University), I have known my friend Pete for 2 years and now I live with him and 6 other people, but my boyfriend was convinced that I fancied Pete. Luckily he has calmed down a bit now, but the other night when I went out with a group of my female friends I wore something fun which I felt confident in – a red shirt dress with shorts, tights and heels. My boyfriend said the dress was a bit low cut (I didnt think it was) and he kept texting me asking “Why are you walking around showing your boobs off? Are you going to cheat on me tonight? I know thats what you want, I’m not good enough, you’re trying to pull someone else”. We talked about this and he apologised for his actions.
Today my sister told me that a boy in a semi-famous band has a crush on her and that he is coming to stay at our house over the weekend. I got excited for my sister as she has recently broken up with her ex-boyfriend, and I was happy that he was coming to our house because I really like the band. When I told my boyfriend he didn’t want to know, and is now in a mood with me.
He’d never hit me, because he has very high opinions about physical abuse and views hitting women as the lowest form of low.
I know he loves me and I love him. I want to spend the rest of my life with him, but I don’t know how to calm his jealousy.
Can anyone give me some advice please?
Jenny
Omg! Your boyfriend sounds like he has some serious issues and honestly I don’t know what you can possibly say to him to make it better. I’ve been with a jealous boyfriend and ... See more trust me hun, it only gets worse with time. And thank goodness he hasn’t resorted to physical abuse but what about the mental torture?! Do you wanna keep going through this everytime you go out or everytime you talk to a friend. The series of questions will never end. The doubts will never fade. I know you love him but I don’t know if his jealousy is curable. Tell him that you’ve had enough. Tell him that he needs to trust you. What is a relationship without trust?! And give him an ultimatum and if he still acts crazy, you need to end it! I don’t see another way out. Good luck!
Like you, I thought that I would never find someone as nice as him. But I assure you, sweetheart, there are nicer, sweeter, and more loving guys out there. You just have to give it time. Don’t rush into things because you are lonely. I urge you to think about what’s happening to you. I know you don’t want to leave him when he has no one, but at what expense do you ensure his happiness? Do you sacrifice yours just to be treated badly? Yes, he only treats you badly when mad. But still, no one who loves you will call you names and will verbally abuse you. Please think about yourself for once, hun. Never forget about you and your happiness.
I hope to hear from you again!
Sorry to say this but it sounds like your boyfriend has some serious trust issues. I know that when you’re in a relationship, things change but what he’s making you do is NOT ... See more normal. You should never have to give up friends just because your boyfriend is jealous. You need to get out of this asap!
Are you sure nothing happened to suddenly trigger off this crazy behavior? Think about it long and hard. It may not have been a big deal to you but maybe it mattered to ... See more him. Either way sit him down and have a talk with him. Assure him that you’re not going to hurt him but you obviously don’t have control over others’ feelings for you. At the end of the day, he needs to trust you and if you haven’t given him a reason to feel otherwise, it isn’t fair that he feels this way. Hopefully, being calm and honest should bring him back on track. Good luck!
I hate it when guys base their present actions on their past. You’re the present for a reason. You’re a different person altogether! Anyway, 2 years and if he still can’t trust you, ... See more assuming you haven’t given him any reason to doubt you….I really think you should reconsider this.
Me and my boyfriend always arguing almost everyday with nonsense issue because of His jealousy…sometimes i thought that i will break up with him as i cannot stand all the craziness that he ... See more always done. But i don’t know what is something stopping me to do it, maybe because i love him so much…Your tips helps me a lot to do a move to stop whats happening in our relationship, I’ll try to deal with it.
Thanks a lot!!
I hope you can do the right thing. I’ve been there and trust me, it only gets worse with time. I know it’s difficult to leave because at the end of the day, ... See more inspite of all the madness you do love him but you need to put yourself first sometimes.
He would say when he leave I will be happy. He had a Bad Past before, I understand but talking to someone else is nothing bad to me. I don’t even want to meet my “Guy” Friends.
He is really Jealous, I don’t know if I want to continue like that with him. I am in no rush to be with someone like that, but its hard to let go too. He is so romantic as well!!!
Honestly, he sounds seriously disturbed. I mean, it’s one thing to be insecure but to act like a total moron when you TALK to your co-workers is ridiculous. I promise you there are ... See more plenty of romantic men out there. You need to get out of this unhealthy possibly dangerous relationship asap!
He might be the best guy on earth but jealousy brings out the ugliest in all of us. And for what?! You’re not doing anything wrong. I mean what age does he come ... See more from? How is interacting with a person of the opposite sex “embarrassing”. He seems very close-minded and actually downright stupid. I think you need to sit him down and tell him he’s being unreasonable. And whatever you do, do NOT cut contact with your male friends for him. As long as your conscience is clear, you should not be worried about anything! And if he doesn’t get it, I’m sorry hun but maybe you need to reconsider this relationship!
Like I’ve always said, if you haven’t given him a reason to be insecure, he shouldn’t be. I’m sure he’s always known that you prefer your guy friends over your girlfriends. So why ... See more should it bother him now? I’d suggest talk to him, make it clear that it’s extremely annoying that he acts this way and that you will not take it if he continues to do so. Hopefully, that should be enough to reform him. If not, it’s really up to you. From personal experience, it only gets worse hun…
And don’t worry Sheila, my closest guy friend also got hit by a phone (in the face) and ... See more slapped around by his ex gf.
So even guys will tolerate certain amounts of abuse from women!
Is that true?! I guess craziness runs both ways huh?
I hate to point out the obvious but this guy sounds like bad news. Trust me, it’s only going to get worse as you get more serious. My advice? Get out while you ... See more still can! It’s always cute in the beginning but somewhere down the line (and I think you’re almost there), you will want to punch him in the face. You guys aren’t even officially going out yet. Can you imagine how much worse it’s going to get?!
You got it exactly right hun. He is NOT your boyfriend and has no right to tell you what to do and what not to do. If he gets on your nerves, tell ... See more him off. Hopefully, that should get the point across!
what shall i do??
i sometimes understand were all his jealousy comes from, as a young boy he went through a lot with his parents.
anybody know what i can do??
Well all you can really do is assure him that you won’t do anything to break his trust and stick to it. As long as you don’t give him a reason to doubt ... See more you, you’ve done all you possibly can. Beyond that, it really is upto him to work on things. And if it gets too much to handle, you know what to do…hard as that may be for you.
Yeah just like me..
If only I could go back some timee and live all those special moments again!! Dreamer! :) But at least I lived them and enjoyed them.. Good things come our way always :)
Yeah that’s true. And it’s more special this way. You’ll always remember it for how awesome it was :D
Yeah!
Some things in life even if they’re hard to forgot and painful to pass, are extreamly important for future desicions!
I my self had a bad experience but nowady I’m thankful from ... See more it cause it was one that helped me grow up faster!
Absolutely. Your experiences make you who you are and I wouldn’t change anything about my past. I’d like to relive some fun moments yes but I wouldn’t change any of my decisions or mistakes.
Me too! Phew! And it was a lesson learnt for life…