19 Signs You're Dating a Loser ...

By Kati

19 Signs You're Dating a Loser ...

He doesn’t exhibit any of the telltale signs you are dating a loser, does he? He’s never late, he makes you cups of tea and he doesn’t mind watching all the soaps... it can be hard to see who you are actually dating during the honeymoon stage, when everything is so perfect. So how can you tell if he is really Mr. Right, or if he's just a loser? Here are my top ten signs that you are dating a loser...

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1

He Plays Rough...

When he’s calm, he’s dreamy, but when he’s angry... he punches the wall, pulls your hair or breaks your things. He always apologizes... but if he can’t keep his temper in check, get as far away as you can as soon as possible. This is definitely one of the signs you are dating a loser!

2

He Forms Attachments Fast...

Losers tend to have very shallow relationships, and this can lead to women being impressed by their eagerness to tell you they love you, commit and get married. He moves fast, meeting your friends, moving in, proposing... the perfect whirlwind? He keeps you busy so that you don’t have time to realize how strange this is. Normal people need time to get to know each other and fall in love, as nobody wants to get hurt. The Loser isn’t really committed, though, and can leave as quickly as he came.

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3

He Has Anger Problems...

You might have considered this when you thought about his temper, but how long is his fuse? Does he speed, throw things or threaten people when angry? The Loser will quickly explain why he is so angry, and assure you that it’s not aimed at you, but with a temper like that, you are certainly at risk. The Loser hopes that if you see his capabilities, you won’t confront or challenge him later.

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4

He Puts You down...

Mr. Right won’t try to crush your confidence. The Loser will. He’ll slyly and consistently question what you’re wearing, your weight and your worth, until you feel ugly, stupid and worthless. No one else will want you now... this can be a hard thing to break, so if you notice your friend’s confidence plummeting, try your best to remind her how great she is and that she probably needs to let go of this one and look to start a new relationship.

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5

He Doesn’t like Your Friends, Your Sisters or Your Mum...

The Loser will aim to cut all contact with your support network, and have you all to himself. He might tell you that they take advantage, or that they don’t understand your love. If he can’t stop you talking to them, he’ll question you after each call until you just give up talking to anyone but him.

UPD:

The Loser is an unhealthy relationship partner who will try to isolate you from your friends, family, and other support networks. He may tell you that your friends and family take advantage of you, or that they don’t understand your relationship. He may also try to control your conversations with them, questioning you after each call until you eventually give up talking to anyone but him.

This kind of behavior is a sign of an unhealthy relationship and should not be ignored. It’s important to recognize that the Loser isn’t just trying to control your relationships with your friends and family, but is also trying to control your life. He may try to limit your activities, your access to money, or even your freedom.

Furthermore, the Loser may exhibit other signs of an unhealthy relationship. He may be overly possessive, jealous, and manipulative. He may also be verbally or physically abusive. In some cases, the Loser may even use threats or intimidation to get what he wants.

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6

He Has Mood Swings...

One hour he’s the sweetest man on Earth, the next he’s being intentionally insulting. You stick around, because when he’s being nice, he’s very very nice... but when he’s being mean, he’s chipping down your confidence and making sure you stay his.

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7

It’s Your Fault!

You made him angry, you made him sad, you embarrassed him... whatever he feels, it’s always your fault. He'll convince you that you deserved the reaction, and he’s a saint... yeah right, he’s a big boy now. Don’t take the blame for his actions, and get out of there!

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8

He Panics at the Thought of a Break up...

The Loser can’t bear to be alone unless he’s finished with you, so he’ll break down, plead and promise to change. Anything to make you stay! He might threaten suicide, or to go back to an ex, or public humiliation. He’ll seem reasonable, offering compromises... but kick him out!

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9

He Doesn’t like Your Hobbies...

So you're an amateur painter, or an excellent horse rider... but not anymore. The Loser will stop all interests, or come along and demand to go home throughout. He'll hope you’ll give in, give up the activity, and be completely under his control...

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10

He is Paranoid...

He’ll read your mail, check your phone, and search through your rubbish. He might find receipts and question you on where you’ve been and what you bought, or who you’ve spoken to. He’s paranoid about losing his control over you... he might go out, and tell you he’ll call, keeping you waiting by the phone while he sees his friends.

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11

He Embarrasses You in Public...

Do the two of you ever go out for a fun night only to get verbally attacked in front of strangers? He wants to keep you under his control at all times but especially when you’re out, so he’ll do whatever he needs to make you follow his rules. Beware of a guy who calls you names or says cruel or embarrassing things to you while you’re out, it’s all his way of trying to stay in control of you!

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12

He Makes You Paranoid...

So not only is he paranoid, he makes you paranoid, too! If you find yourself fussing over being on time, being careful with what you wear or warning others not to bring up certain topics all so you don’t upset him, there is a big problem! No one should make you feel paranoid about anything and you should feel free to be yourself!

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13

He’s Mean to Strangers...

Most people are usually polite and cordial to strangers, such as a restaurant server or maybe even someone you pass on the street. But I would definitely be wary of someone who was mean to perfect strangers. Watch his interaction with others like strangers, co-workers and even animals. If he’s nasty and mean, kick him to the curb!

UPD:

It's a huge red flag if he treats others with contempt, especially those in service roles or individuals who can't reciprocate any benefit to him. This kind of behavior typically reflects a deep-seated sense of superiority or lack of empathy – both traits you don't want in a partner. And let's not forget, if he's capable of being downright rude to a stranger, it's only a matter of time before that hostility is turned towards you. Stay alert and trust your gut; kindness to everyone is a non-negotiable in a healthy relationship.

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14

He’s Never Wrong...

We all like to think we’re right about things but most of us can willingly admit when we’ve made a mistake. Not Mr. Wrong! He doesn’t believe he’s capable of being wrong and will fly off the handle at the suggestion of any sort of criticism.

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15

He’s Too Charming...

Being charming is indeed something to be proud of, but when someone is too charming, it raises some red flags. Does he know how to charm the pants off of people to manipulate them or the situation? Don’t fall for it! While it’s possible that he’s genuinely charming, when a person comes off as too charming and suave, it could be cause to run!

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16

He Brags about Sex...

Some people will say it’s natural for men to brag about their sexual conquests, but is there really a reason for him to be bragging?! Probably not! Why would anyone feel the need to reveal the number of their sexual partners they’ve had or the amount of sex they’re having? And if he pressures you for sex, definitely drop him! True gentlemen do not need to brag about sex or they would never pressure you for sex!

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17

He Hates Everyone...

Does this guy have a comment or critique of everyone and everything? Does he have a problem with babies, teens, seniors or basically anyone who’s breathing? Losers like this feel like they’re above everyone and have something negative to say about everyone. Don’t think you’ll be exempt from him bashing you, you’ll get a verbal tongue lashing eventually, too!

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18

You Catch Him in Lies...

Who wants to date a liar? If you frequently or even occasionally catch your guy in lies, start heading for the door! Even if he lies about so-called little things, what’s going to stop him from lying to you about other more important things? How can you trust someone, let alone build a relationship with someone who lies about little, everyday things?

UPD:

In addition to lying, there are other red flags to look out for when dating a loser. These may include controlling behavior, lack of empathy, constant criticism, and financial irresponsibility. Losers may also exhibit a lack of ambition, lack of motivation, and a tendency to blame others for their problems. They may also have a history of failed relationships and difficulty maintaining long-term friendships. It's important to pay attention to these warning signs and trust your instincts when it comes to dating someone who may not have your best interests at heart.

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19

He’s a Freeloader...

Ugh, freeloaders are such leeches and dating a freeloader is even worse! I’m all for splitting bills or paying for dates, but when your date is constantly freeloading, it can get expensive and annoying! There is no way he always has a financial emergency or forgets his wallet each time you guys hang out. I just don’t buy it and you shouldn’t either!

If you recognize any of these signs, then you are definitely dating a Loser! Get out as soon as you can, and make sure you don’t even consider going back to him. You’re worth ten of him! Have you got a foolproof way of identifying a loser? Please let me know!

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He he, I've also dated a looser for 2 months, a lot of these signs could be found there. :)

I do 14 out of 19 of the things listed. I'm bipolar. While it's no picnic, hub knew this going in. He chose to stay as long as I sought help. I don't have any schizophrenia though (paranoia). You either need to step away fast or examine if your love is unconditional. Abuse is never acceptable! Otherwise several issues listed speak to insecurity and anxiety.

Please pray for my husband I am DEFINATELY a loser.I fit the bill to the T.But I am not going to admit it to him. I am always the best you know.

i have this friend who got damped my her boyfriend he didn't even care about she put more effored in the reliveship and i told her she even made him a letter that said i love u !!!!

this was absolutely helpful,now i'm sure my ex was an actual looser, he broke up with me almost a year ago and because of all these things you said i cant trust in people any more.....so if you are dating one of these brake up right now not tomorrow. Thank god he has left my life

wow! It made me think of my past relationship. Thanks. These are some serious things I have to consider when I try to date again. My ex really disliked my friends and my hobbies.

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