15 Signs Your Boss is Attracted to You ...

By Melanie

15 Signs Your Boss is Attracted to You ...

It can become quite challenging to maintain boundaries in the workplace when you believe your boss is attracted to you. If office romance is something you are questioning, then you should read these 15 signs your boss is attracted to you. This can be used for both sexes. However, since I am a female, I am going to go from a female point of view.

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15

He Sends You Flowers

I sure hope your boss doesn’t go this far, but if he sends you flowers regularly, he’s definitely hitting on you, not just being nice! Men know how expensive flowers are just as much as women and trust me, he’s not shelling out the money just to be nice unless it’s your birthday or Secretary’s Day.

UPD:

Flowers are a classic sign of romantic attraction, and if your boss is sending you flowers on a regular basis, it’s a sure sign that he’s interested in you. It’s not just a nice gesture, because men know how expensive flowers can be. If it’s not your birthday or another special occasion, it’s likely that he’s sending them as a way to express his feelings for you.

Other signs that your boss may be attracted to you include him giving you compliments, touching you more than necessary, or trying to spend more time with you. He might also ask about your personal life, or try to find common interests that you can bond over.

It can be difficult to navigate a relationship with your boss, especially if you’re not interested in him. If you’re feeling uncomfortable, it’s important to set boundaries and make sure that your boss understands that you’re not interested in a romantic relationship.

14

He Orders You Coffee

If you’re arriving to the office everyday and find your boss has pre-ordered your favorite Starbucks drink or has it sitting on your desk, he’s probably hitting on you. Start bringing your own coffee and maybe he’ll take the hint!

Frequently asked questions

Some signs include frequent compliments, special treatment compared to other employees, personal invitations to spend time outside of work, lingering touches or glances, and sharing personal details about their life that they don't share with others.

It's natural for people to feel attracted to others, but in a professional setting, it is important for a boss to maintain professional boundaries. Acting on attraction in a workplace can lead to complications and may be against company policy.

If you feel uncomfortable or if it's affecting your work, consider speaking to your boss directly if it feels safe, set clear boundaries, or reach out to HR for guidance on how to handle the situation.

Yes, it can impact your job either positively, in the case of favoritism, or negatively, if the attraction isn't mutual and it leads to tension or resentment. In both cases, it can create an unfair work environment.

Keep interactions with your boss formal and work-related, avoid being alone with them unnecessarily, and maintain clear personal boundaries. Document any unprofessional behavior and stay focused on your job performance.

13

He Says Weird Things

If your boss says things like, “I’m so glad you’re at the company now and it makes me so much happier to be at work,” or things like, “I’ve never had someone so special be able to work for me,” then your boss might be hitting on you. Yuck!

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If you’ve noticed your boss making comments about your appearance or how you dress, this could be an indication that they are attracted to you. This could be as simple as a compliment on a new hairstyle or outfit, or as overt as a comment about your figure. If your boss is always finding reasons to be around you, this could also be a sign of attraction. If they are constantly lingering after meetings, or making excuses to be in your office, this could be a sign that they are interested in you.

Your boss might also be attracted to you if they are always finding ways to touch you. This could be as simple as a pat on the back or a light brush of the arm. If your boss is always trying to find ways to make physical contact with you, this could be an indication of attraction.

If your boss is always asking you personal questions about your life, this could be a sign that they are interested in you. They might ask about your hobbies, your family, or your dating life. If your boss is always trying to get to know you better, this could be a sign that they are attracted to you.

12

Asks Your Input on His Attire

If your boss asks for your fashion advice, or if you like his outfit, he may be trying to subtly get a compliment from you or invite you into the personal place of his wardrobe. The best way to handle this is to tell him you’re not sure the best person to give him advice on that and just go from there.

11

Moves Your Desk Closer to His

If your boss suddenly bumps up your office space to one next to his, it could be that he’s trying to give you an incentive and reason to be next to him. Keep an eye out for this, especially if you’re new to the company, where other people might have been there longer to deserve the spot or better location.

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10

Special Attention

One of the most common signs that your boss is attracted to you would be the fact that they give you special attention. For example, your boss may think of reasons to go to your desk throughout the day. It is normal for a boss to mingle with his subordinates, but taking trips that are unnecessary to your desk is something different.

9

Special Considerations

From time to time, many bosses give special considerations to their employees. However, if you find that your boss is consistently doing this, then he may have a personal attraction to you.

UPD:

When your supervisor extends privileges or bends the rules for you beyond what's typical, this could indicate more than just a professional appreciation. It's important to observe the consistency and exclusivity of these actions. If you're the only one receiving early leave approvals or personalized assistance on projects, and these perks are not aligned with workplace norms, it could suggest your boss views you differently. Tread carefully—favoritism in the workplace can lead to uncomfortable dynamics and complications with coworkers. Always consider the impact on your professional environment before engaging further.

8

Suggests Activities outside of Work

Sure, he may just be getting to know his workers more and it is fine to do this in a group. However, if he is requesting you to go one on one on him, then this may be a sign. This includes everything from going over to his house and a movie to offers of lunch.

UPD:

When personal invitations from your boss become a pattern, it's important to take note. These gestures can seem flattering at first, but assess the situation carefully. It's one thing to build team rapport, but another entirely when the focus is exclusively on you. If you're uneasy about these solo outings or if they start to encroach on your private time, trust your instincts. Remember, there should be clear boundaries between professional and personal lives. It’s crucial to maintain a comfortable work environment, and you have every right to set limits.

7

Confidences

If you are finding your boss sharing confidences, then he may have an attraction to you. This includes both professional commentary and personal information that is not appropriate to share in the workplace.

UPD:

Good rapport can sometimes blur professional lines. When private thoughts or feelings about other colleagues, company matters, or sensitive information start trickling into your conversations, take note. It's one thing to be trusted, but it's another to be singled out as a confidante for matters that seem too personal. If your gut tells you the level of trust is disproportionate or awkward given your professional relationship, consider this a red flag. It's especially telling if he emphasizes that these confidences are to be kept just between the two of you.

6

He Keeps Sending Glances Your Way

Sometimes, I can just tell when someone is looking at me! Is this happening in the workplace? Then, when you look up, you find it’s your boss and your eyes are locked and then he looks away.

UPD:

It could be a sign that your boss is attracted to you if he keeps sending you glances. This could be when you're in a meeting, when you're walking through the office, or when you're just sitting at your desk. When you catch him looking, he might quickly look away or hold your gaze for a few seconds. This behavior might also be accompanied by blushing or an awkward smile. If your boss is attracted to you, he might also act differently around you than he does with other colleagues. He might be more friendly, more complimentary, and more attentive. Additionally, he might be more likely to ask you for help or to do favors for you.

5

He Strikes up Conversation

A guy who is interested, this includes your boss, will strike up a conversation with you. Does your boss do this to you all the time, everyday throughout the day? Yep, that is a sign!

4

It’s Obvious He’s Trying to Stay Cool

Your boss will try his hardest to appear confident. In fact, it becomes obvious that he his trying so hard. This is a type of mask to hide the way he is feeling.

UPD:

When it comes to signs that your boss is attracted to you, it’s important to be aware of the subtle changes in their behavior. One of the most common signs is that your boss will try to appear more confident than usual. It’s obvious when they are trying too hard to remain cool and collected. This is a type of mask they wear to hide any true feelings they may have for you.

Other signs that your boss may be attracted to you include increased compliments, lingering eye contact, and an eagerness to help you with tasks. They may also try to find an excuse to spend more time with you or to go out for lunch together. If your boss asks you personal questions or talks about their own personal life, this could be a sign of attraction.

If your boss is attracted to you, they may be more likely to give you special privileges or rewards. This could include tasks that are outside of your job description, additional vacation days, or a promotion. They may also be more likely to try to defend you if you make a mistake.

3

He Searches for You

When you’re on your break, you find that he has been searching for you. It seems like he cannot go a second without you being around and he joins you during break. What do you think of that?

UPD:

It can be difficult to tell if your boss is attracted to you. However, there are certain signs that can indicate a romantic or sexual attraction. One of the most telling signs is if your boss is always searching for you. If he can’t go a second without you being around, it could be a sign that he’s attracted to you.

It’s important to remember that there are other reasons why your boss might be searching for you. He could be looking for you to discuss a project, to give you a task, or to give you feedback on your work. It’s important to be aware of the context of the situation.

If your boss is always trying to get your attention, it could be a sign that he’s attracted to you. He might make eye contact with you frequently, or try to make conversation with you whenever he can. He might even try to find excuses to touch you, such as a friendly pat on the back or a handshake.

2

He Sends You Personal E-mails

All of a sudden, you have started getting personal e-mails. He is talking to you about his life. Maybe he feels that he can talk to you or… maybe he likes you! If the other signs are there, then you should go with the latter.

UPD:

When your inbox pings with a new message from him, it's not just another update on work projects. Instead, these e-mails dig into his hobbies, interests, and even feelings. You find him sharing anecdotes from his weekend or asking about your personal life. If this is a shift from the usual formal correspondence, it might be his subtle way of saying you’re more to him than just an employee. Pay attention to the pattern of these e-mails – frequent and outside of office hours could indicate he's looking for a connection beyond the professional realm.

1

Calls You for No Reason

I do not know what is up with this guy, but if he has a tendency to call you for no reason whatsoever other than to just talk, then something is definitely up. Does this happen to you?

So, if you answered yes to most of these questions, then it is highly likely that your boss likes you. If he is married, then you need to let him down. Getting involved with a married man is no good. If you are not allowed to date employees in the workplace where you work, then you should realize you will be putting your job on the line if you pursue this, is it all that worth it? Do you have any questions about this subject? Does your boss show these signs or some other signs?

Feedback Junction

Where Thoughts and Opinions Converge

I work in retail. I was moved to this store. I have over the last few months developed a crush on my boss. At one point I hinted to it. He is single. I am single. One day he called me because his boss came by the store and he wanted to know how the store was before I left not an hour before. I told him the truth. We ended up talking for over an hour and somewhere near the end he confessed he really liked me to. We got disconnected at some point and he texted me a few times then called me back again. At some point he had gotten himself to a state of drunk. And asked me to come over to his house. I said no. Not until I know he feel this way sober. The next day he admitted nothing he said was a lie. But since he is my boss we cant act on our feelings. We must remain professional. I have tried to talk to him a few times. I even gave him an ultimatum of I quit, Get me transfered, I get me transfered, or we be secret lovers. He said not to quit. He wont transfer me because he needs my help fixing the store, but we are not secret lovers. I tried to get him to talk to me about everything and where we stand. But it was more like a date than anything. I am a girl. I cant live with all the secrets. I don't want to go to his boss and get me a transfer with out his support. I cant decide what I want, to transfer away to get away from him. Or transfer away so I can date him. I dont even know if I am ready to date any guys right now. He even hinted hes not ready to date. But working next to him everyday is really hard. Being professional isn't hard. Its living with the fact that we both like each other and cant do anything about it.

Most bosses are married and I think as an employee, if you're single and sometimes get lonely, it can happen that you will be attracted to your boss, especially if he is handsome or nice, or both. It's loneliness and even though it may be challenging, the feelings are really just fantasy and should be kept contained until they dissipate.

my boss also showed at least 7 signs plus the 4 things that i am still figuring if i can count those. My boss is unmarried but do have his kids (they are still in their early age) and his wife apparently (live in). Our age gap is really big because he is much older than my parents, but he is good-looking man. He looks much younger at his age. I am his assistant for nearly 2 years now. When we have only been working together for 2 mos, he gave me flowers. Also there was this time that he invited me to dinner which I accepted and we dine. It was like we were on a date! Also, he tends to wait for me to be out and he'll drive me home. When I will be out earlier than him, he would request me to wait for me. Then months later, he invited me to be his staff in his private firm, which i accepted and now, we are seeing each other more than 3 times a week. Despite the little things/signs that he had been showing oftentimes, I've been used to ignore it and thus, act normal. But last week, he came to my table while we were working on something important, he stood behind me, and while watching me work (just as a boss must act like, i guess he's watching me), he touches my arm gently without saying anything. i did not react because i was shocked at his gestures. I did chose to forget his other weird gestures to me, but this i cant forget. it keeps on knocking in my mind. Should i really be bothered?

my first clue was number 6, he is constantly staring at me. I get the feeling that someone is looking at me and there he is. Its uncomfortable at times but after a while I've just come to accept it now I even stare back! He has made plans but doesn't follow through with them. He will meet a group of us after work but never just me alone. I don't know what to do or how to handle this. We've shared a lot of personal information and we have a lot in common so I can't understand the reason for him not to pursue except that our company has rules against dating employees. I don't find him to be the type of person that would follow those rules, though

I don't see a lot of those signs in my boss but I am wondering just the same. He is a lovely man and we have always gotten along very well. He doesn't flirt with me and has never been inappropriate. He's always been very open and let me know that he sometimes stays at the office because it is more peaceful there than at home. I don't think I get any special favours but if I am upset he will hug me or make sure he comes straight down to my office and check on me, but he probably does that for everyone. I noticed him do a very obvious double take when I walked into staff briefing the other day. He tends to stand in my space and I thought he was just a bit of a 'space invader' but lately, especially if we are the only ones left around, he seems to be standing even closer when he talks to me.....and expresses disappointment when I leave. Last weekend he was going to a conference with a colleague. It was overnight and they were staying in a motel. When I expressed my interest in the conference he asked me to come along, even though it was late at night when we were exchanging these emails and they were leaving the next day. He was going to make a few phone calls first thing in the morning, book an extra room and see if he could get me in. Possibly he would do this for anyone, but I didn't think so. Not at such late notice. I didn't end up going. Apparently while he was away at the conference he remarked to our colleague that I had a captivating voice....the kind you just want to listen to. I guess that was the moment I really thought "Oh heck. That's not a normal sort of thing to say". On the other hand, we don't have eye locking moments, he doesn't shuffle on his feet, there's no tension, I don't think he seeks me out and I don't think I get any special favours. Possibly special care, but not special favours. What do you think?

I have a crush on my manager at work!!

I am an deli Clerk I think my Store Manager is attracted to me, And I like him too but he is married.

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